Coincidence?

Question

I have this person who I knew (well, really knew- he was my first crush) I can vividly recall dreaming of him for at least all my life here in Canada. lately, we found each other through the internet. I think he's married now or so-well he has to be for our ages. Our communication stopped but I think he is still communicating with me. I fell in love, and i almost thought he was trying to discourage me, i think he's sending mixed messages. Do you think this is only what i think/ or do you think I am delusional that he is still interested in me even if he is married. If he was married how could he have all the time sending me all these mixed messages in different persona, or that maybe it is not him at all?

I remember him saying he's got a girlfriend. sorry i forgot to mention.

To peggy
I know what you mean. I am not really sure because I don't know this person who I chat with via internet. All these blogs seem to have secret messages about me and him(that guy).
OMG, i think I am going crazy thinking, what do you think? I just want to know if it's him or nut. If it's him, then I can always consider to be his spare tire. well, i'll think about. Right now I could not think what I want because I don't know this person, but my mind, without reasonable biases, really believe and assumes it is him.

Answer 1

Be wary everything that happens on the net isn't always what we think it is and anyone can be anyone that they want to be. If you are not sure, I would not pursue this. You may hurt him without realizing what you are doing and not mean to. I would ask if he could give you a phone number or call you and then I would try to track that down and see if it is actually him or another playing tricks on you. Becareful. Don't let yourself be hurt here either by investing tons of emotion into something that may not be what it seems like it is. I am not sure how to answer this any other way. I don't think you are delusional I think people do this kind of prank stuff to one another all the time, and sometimes they want to do it to pick your mind or see what you will say or have to say to them all for the wrong reasons. Just be careful.

Answer 2

Yes, it is coincidence, not self discipline. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative. If you are negative before you seek certain knowledge, then you are not in the right frame of mind. Uncertainty is neither positive nor negative, but your Will must be engaged, so you must be certain in your self that certainty in fact is the most important quest in your life. No doubt you have a Will, but do you use your Judgment to know positive from negative. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative. When an others positive is your negative, is it right.


"General envy constituting itself as a power is the disguise in which greed re-establishes itself and satisfies itself, only in another way. The thought of every piece of private property as such is at least turned against wealthier private property in the form of envy and the urge to reduce things to a common level, so that this envy and urge even constitute the essence of competition. Crude communism is only the culmination of this envy and of this levelling-down proceeding from the preconceived minimum. It has a definite, limited standard. "


Karl Marx
Economic and Philosophical Manuscripts of 1844
Private Property and Communism


http://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscripts/comm.htm

Answer 3

he might be, what is marriage? it really doesn't mean anything in nature, its a human religious concept turned mainstream, but nature doesn't follow that , so you can throw that out. so i don't know either of you so i wouldn't know anyting beyond that but don't let the cocnept of marriage get in the way of a natural feeling. love comes and goes in and out, marriage is a mind thing to basically chain people together even when they aren't in love with each other at the moment or want to do something else (notice high divorce rates) this is why marriage now doesn't work out. so don't mess yourself up with that concept. his "marriage" has nothing to do with the present, and that present seems to be you.

this is why i say throw out the cocnepts and trust youself and nature, its been around longer than marriage.

Answer 4

Wishful thinking.

Answer 5

Unfortunately this is the problem of the western societies that marriage have not the required power.

Answer 6

What do you mean--you "think" he is still communicating with you? If you're not sure, then I would most definitely say you are delusional. Beware--maybe it is not him at all.....

Answer 7

I agree with Peggy W.

Answer 8

if he married it wrong and you are guilty of affair and that is sin according to the word of God.

Answer 9

i don't think it is him at all, if he is married.