i get uneasy when my husband talks to other female freinds.?

Question

he does it anyway,even after i showed my resentment,i believe he talks to them behind my back.but he does not like me talking to other men.

Answer 1

BOTH OF YOU ARE NARROW MINDED PERSONS. TALKING WITH OPPOSITE SEX DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE HAVING RELATIONS WITH THEM.

Answer 2

Why would just talking to another woman make you feel that way? Half of the earth's population is female. He's bound to run into coworkers, high school friends, store clerks, etc. etc. dozens of times in a week! There's no avoiding it. He has to talk to women. Most of the time it will be when you are not there. If you really feel that you cannot trust him with simply talking with the opposite sex, I highly recommend counseling!

Maybe it's not the talking that makes you uneasy. Is it HOW he talks to them? Does he spend a great deal of time alone with them? Does he call other women at home to chit chat? Do you know about gifts or meetings or letters? If the answer is no, come on! It is very healthy for your husband to have (within reason) female friends. If you still cannot get over your uneasiness, it's time to figure out why. Talk to a professional.

Showing resentment by crying, nagging, snooping, or the silent treatment WILL NOT make him want to spend more time with you. It will encourage him to spend less time at home. Makes sense, doesn't it? If you want him around, you need to act like the type of person he will enjoy spending time with.

Answer 3

Why? has he done something for you not to trust him? and then it is not fair if he can but you cant which is what you are saying so i would explain to him that if he expects you to have trust in his love for you and to respect his ability to know he is married and only do and say things to female friends that he would do if he was standing right in front of you that you feel the street should go both ways and unless he can offer you the same amount of trust and respect then he needs to stop talking to his friends unless you are present and if he says no then you need to explain that then under this agreement you may choose to have a male friend and disregard his feelings because this is not a parent child relationship where he can say do as i say not as i do but do not do this mad talk in a reasonable tone with out anger just as if this makes sense to you and let him know that because of the love and trust you believe you guys have that it would be hurtful and damaging to find out he was going behind your back to have these friendships and that if you were to find out you would have to A: figure that he was doing something more since he could not be honest and B: he would find this behavior from you acceptable because again if its OK for him then its OK for you! and after he sees you have really thought this trough then you guys can have a talk about it and hopefully he will either stop or be honest!

Answer 4

That is so typical. If you feel uneasy, maybe you should ask yourself why? If it's because you feel inferior, then maybe the problem is in you. But if it's because something doesn't feel right, then that's another story, something may be rotten in Denmark. If he's lying to you, and conversing with them behind your back, then that would make me question, why does he hide it if they're just friends? At any rate, if it really hurts you, and he cares for you and your marriage, then he should care enough to talk it out with you. As far as him not liking it when you talk to other men, let him know up front, (just like I did), that there will NOT be a separate set of rules for you than the ones HE lives by. "What's good for the goose is good for the gander".

Answer 5

I think there is something in your gut that tells you that his behavior isn't right. If you feel threatened by his behavior, you probably have a good reason. That reason could be because you have trust issues that you need to get over, but the fact that he doesn't like you talking to other men signals to me that he is well aware of how his behavior is and doesn't want you doing the same thing. Just like how people who cheat often accuse the other one of cheating. I am in no way saying he is cheating, but he certainly isn't considerate of your feelings about this.

I don't have a problem with my fiance and female friends, but I know that he in no way steps over the line in any way, shape or form. I had an ex who went too far with his female relationships and it ended our relationship. I think when you know they can be trusted, it really isn't an issue.

Answer 6

After marriage wife and husband are really two god and honest friends with no secretes in between them.

Your husband may be honest to you as far as married life is concerned,as you have not said anything in this direction.There is n basis to misunderstand him.where there is Love there is possessive nature and YOU want your husband t be YOURS only Yours.You can't tolerate if he talks to opposite sex, that is female friends.But you are not worried his talking to males.This is natural as you love him.
It appears there is NO PROBLEM At ALL. By simply pulling to the limit you may finally then repent.Please have an open talk...you best understand him...are you sure he loves you?
Then there should be n problem at all.in the modern times one has t talk to his opposite sex persons because of official nature,friendly obligations,relationship(good one).You will also be talking to males in the routine way.By mere talking to other sex peple ,if one misunderstands, it is ridiculous.
Before any doubt t enters there shall be a concrete proof.
So I think .if you both sit together in a nice time when you are both relaxed and open up your minds and talk to each other I think your problem,which I think,imaginary,will dissolve and you both will be happy.Please try it.
IT IS ALWAYS EASY TO BREAK THINGS THAN TO MAKE.
Please be patient and resolve in a friendly way and live a happy married life.
God bless you both and family.

Answer 7

Its a sucky feeling but a easy answer if he doesn't like it being done to him then he needs to stop.You need to talk it out hopefully once he sees how bothered by it he will change if not you guys might have a serious problem he needs to be willing to respect your feelings especially when he demands the same from you .Try not to come at him with to much attitude try a sweet approach first then see how he reacts try to put him in a situation and see if he can stop .I'm sure he loves you and will do what you want he also might be jealous of attention you might get and maybe he is trying to get you jealous i hope all works out.

Answer 8

I'm going to be honest he only does it because he knows he could get away with it. But if you gave him a taste of his own medicine he wouldn't like it. Most men love a challenge. Tell you what you do one day go out buy yourself a nice sexy dress that shows off your figure fix your hair in a curly hairstyle take some vaseline not to much put some on your legs and arms and watch how you glow it's your time to shine. Let him get a taste of his own medicine believe me the guys will notice you and want to approach and he will finally realize that you have power to. And if he still doesn't appreciates you it's time to leave baby you are worthy of being loved and adored to the highest level. Tell me how it works out.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with talking - just talking - with members of the opposite sex. 50% of the human population is off limits for conversation? That's just plan silly.

You guys both need to ease up a bit. It shows a distinct lack of trust, without which there can't be a successful, healthy relationship. You both know what "the limits" are, and the difference between casual conversation and flirting, which isn't cool at all.

Answer 10

You are setting yourself up for a divorce. Please be careful.

You are dictating to your husband who he can and cannot associate with. How would YOU feel if someone told you who you could talk to?

The problem is that you do not trust yourself at all. With that lack of trust for yourself comes the projection of that lack of trust onto your husband. All of a sudden your husband is untrustworthy. Otherwise, why would you care WHO he talks to?

So the first thing you need to realize is that your husband isn't the problem - you are.

The second thing you need to do is start trusting yourself and loving yourself more. The more you love and trust yourself the more you will radiate to the people around you.

You draw what you put out - it's your choice.

FP

Answer 11

Your husband is inaccurate. adult men and women human beings were obviously made for another, adult men won't be able to tell in the journey that they can regulate themselves or no longer. Any guy who's universal with a woman ( and a attractive one) has a weigh down on him, he will experience flattered, emotionally aroused, and his ego will upward thrust. Their is a retaining in the Islamic faith: No 2 human beings, guy and woman are on my own at the same time yet that devil is the 0.33. He ought to chorus from encourages any style of communicate with women those who does no longer contain corporation of any style. similar with you with a guy. i imagine you should sit down and refer to him about this and how you experience. If he does no longer replace, you've a pick to brush aside that portion of him and keep on including your portion of the marriage or end. If I were you i'd pick the first decision.