How come when someone is molested as a child later on in life they can't handle any type of stress? Why is that?
2007-03-19 11:39:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Any time someone is traumatized in childhood, their emotional development is thrown into a cyclone. Abuse and betrayal are hard enough for adults to deal with. Many children don't tell and/or never get help in healing those wounds, so the difficulties linger and actually snowball as their life continues.
However, I am living proof that a person can handle stress despite having been molested in childhood. I still have issues, but I have a good education and career. I have made bad decisions in relationships, and have had to raise my son on my own. I have had a great deal of stress as a single mom as well as with other life challenges, such as loss of a job and bankruptcy. Now I'm earning more than I ever did and saving up to buy my own home.
I've dealt with my sexual hang-ups, so I am neither repressed nor promiscuous -- but those can be problems for some adult survivors. But I still have some issues with socializing and self-esteem. Still, there are times when I consider the directions I may have taken my life, and I am proud for coming as far as I have. I know that my experiences have made me stronger than many people, so in some ways, I am better equipped as an adult to deal with tragedy than other adults.
I just looked at your profile and see that you are the victim yourself. There is a lot of unresolved anger and hurt inside of you. Therapy is the best way to work through these feelings in a safe and controlled environment. To find a qualified therapist and for more information, contact RAINN - The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
http://www.rainn.org/
The first time I went to therapy, I didn't put much into it, and so I got little (if anything) out of it. Later attempts were more beneficial because I realized that I only got out of therapy what I put into it. It's hard, but in order to move beyond those feelings, you have to work through them.
The first step is to realize that you did nothing wrong and in no way deserved what happened to you. You are worthy of love and happiness. Feel free to contact me at HearKat@Yahoo.com if you need to talk to someone.
2007-03-19 11:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually molested by a man when i was seven.not raped,It did take a lot of time to have dealt with that I handle stress well. but do get very emotional when someone i know dies.I don't worry.I am not afraid of anything,but i do miss my people, and my friends who have gone on, but i do have the spirit of God guiding me so i know that helps me quite a bit
try giving it all to the spirit and let go as this is what has helped me.also many people who get molested will l later molest.I read.Peace be with you and may Gods spirit help you and guide you
2007-03-19 11:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're over-generalizing. Not all victims wind up having problems handling stress. A lot depends on how the issue was resolved, whether they got counseling at the time or appropriate emotional support, etc.
2007-03-19 11:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when someone is molested as a child they are being hunted and need to have peace and quiet. They can't have any stress to their life because its hard for them but they need a theraphy because life is cruel and you'll never always have peace.
2007-03-19 11:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by JENNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post traumatic stress disorder. It is believed to be caused by changes to the amygdala (fear centre of the brain). These are particularly bad if the stresses occured during childhood, but can also happen if adults are exposed to extremely traumatic situations.
2007-03-19 11:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Shark Gumbo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When innocence is shattered at such a young age it is something that mars you for the rest of your life. There is no normalcy when it comes to sex. Sex is the stress. That often requires ongoing counseling.
2007-03-19 11:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have been sensitized. They are forever on the look-out for threats in their environment. They have seen and known too much and can't handle all that so young.
2007-03-19 11:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. All those unpleasant memories are locked inside of you, so that when you get stressed, it all gets lumped into one and becomes overwhelming.
2007-03-19 11:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know, but it is sooo sad. It's a hard thing to deal with and hopefully theperson who this happened to is in counseling,
2007-03-19 11:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
repression of trust issues and surpressed complex disorder. violations that could have been prevented.
2007-03-19 11:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋