Do you agree...?

Question

Most intellecutual and educated females are single. And man run away from that kind of secure type of females...and then say that they are complicated and can't deal with them. Do you agree?

Answer 1

I do agree, it is far easier for men to find meanful, enjoyable relationships with women of equal or lesser intelligence than them. This is not a matter of one being better than the other, but rather, a matter of dominance. Intellectual people are usually very dominating, and its a very unnatural situation for a male human to be dominated by a female

I say this in an unbiased sense. Think back to your childhood, as mad as your mother got, you were never nearly as scared of her punishments as you were of your fathers. All males projects the nurturing side of the female form onto their potential partners, regardless of whether they acknowledge it conciously or not.

Some men actively seek dominant female partners, others are turned off by it. The specific likes and dislikes of one man to another vary accordingly. It is the same to say that you can use the same strategy on every woman you meet as a man; its simply not that black and white.

EDIT:

As an aside, the "intelligent" women I've met have usually been really, really homely. I think that its also a mix of physical incompatibility; men want attractive partners.

Answer 2

I think it has alot to do with how the "intelligence" is displayed. There are many attractive, successful, extremely intelligent women who are not single. You can be a very intelligent person and have a lot of great things to say but if you are arrogant in your speech and condescending then people are turned off and no longer care about how intelligent you are bc you're being a b****. Some people who are highly educated can come off extremely rude bc they think they are better and/or just plain smarter than everyone else. That could lead to being alone... I think some people (men and women) can be intimidated by a much more educated partner but alot of it has to do with how you carry it. Most men (I've found) who say that certain women are "complicated and can't deal with them" usually are referring to extremely high maintenance, jealousy, and little girl ways like gossiping and trying to make the man jealous by flirting etc. If someone told you they couldn't deal with you because you were smarter than them then they weren't really worth your time in the first place. I've found that people who say those types of things have no drive to learn more (whether it be book smarts or about life in general). No, I don't agree with your statement because I think you are crossing lines with what the real issue behind that statement is. Many intelligent females are taken - this is why the guys are posting questions on this site asking how to find a "good" girl. Also, many intelligent/educated females are very driven and some choose to be single to focus on other aspects of their lives/futures such as studies, careers etc.

Answer 3

No, I think both men and women have things they are attracted to. Some men like women who are strong and educated just like some women like men the same way. I don't think it's right to say "all women" or "all men" are a certain way. Not in less there is some amazing way to poll every single person on the planet. ; )

Answer 4

Tara P nailed it, as did the poster who pointed out that men and women usually have social contacts within their own strata.
No one likes to feel left out or talked down to, and I don't think a fantasy of the Executive Woman and the Big Rig Driver or Mr. Big Bucks doing the Maid from the office is anything more than a fantasy.
Painting with such broad brushes....
Good luck.

Answer 5

Somewhat.

I'm working on a Ph.D., so I'm actually somewhat "over-educated." I had an incredibly difficult time finding a healthy relationship. I just couldn't communicate with your "average joe." They'd feel like I was talking down to them, or I'd get frustrated because they never understood me. And the guys who were intellectual and educated seemed to prefer a "trophy" woman with more credentials in her bra than her head.

Luckily, there really ARE guys out there who are looking for an equal partner, and who are compatible with strong, geeky women. I'm with one. Chin up, Dr. Bunny. It's worth the wait.

Answer 6

Most women full stop are single. It's not because of them being intellectual and educated, it's because of the marriage strike:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_strike

As far as "intellectual and educated" women being rejected, it's not really the case. Women have been valued for being intelligent or well read in time well preceding feminism.

What you're referring to are these "strong career women" types. Yeah they're a biological dead end, I can show you statistics to prove it, I can also show you statistics showing they have a higher rate of divorce if they do get married, and the reason is not "because they are secure", it's because they have greater demands of the man, less time and NOTHING to make up for those negatives.

It's because men are by and large "not stupid" that those women are destined to be eternally single. They are an inferior choice.

Answer 7

Nope. I don't agree with that at all. Smart chicks aren't picking up hicks at the trailer bar, Ok? You are speaking as if there arent any intelligent, secure males with whom to interact and develop meaningful relationships. These men do exist. I suggest you enlarge your circle of friends.

Answer 8

No I believe men run away from neurotic women, who have spent a long time living by themselves and becoming stuck in their ways. Someone who is use to having their own domain doesnt always take kindly to sharing it with someone else.

Answer 9

Hmmm...this hasn't been my experience. I'm educated (working on a masters) and consider myself intelligent...and I'm married. I think the men you are referring to are perhaps not that educated, or intelligent, which is why they would feel threatened.

Answer 10

Men will tell you that they don't care if a woman is smarter than they are, and that it can even be sexy. Still, most educated women have no need to marry, therefore, they don't bother.

Answer 11

I don't agree that most intellectual and educated females can be put in any group, single, married, coupled or divorced. However, I have found that many men, the ones who are simple and prefer more subordinate women, are less likely to date intellectual and educated females. Unfortunately many of these men prefer women in traditional roles and fear that women who are more intellectual and educated tend to be more career oriented and thus less likely to enjoy a traditional role. However, there are many men who are open to the challenge and prefer women of equal or even higer intellectual and educational background - for example my husband. They are hard to find, but they are out there.