Do white men secretly want to date black women?

Question

Black women and white men are the least likely groups to be in a interracial relationship together. Do white men want to date black women but do not pursue do to the taboos and such?
I think people maybe surprised how many black women would be interested in dating a white man.

Answer 1

OK. i am a white man and a senior in high school and i think i can clear this up for you. i have liked this girl for a while now (since 9th grade) and it just so happens that she is black. her name is staci. we used to talk and flirt and everything, but we had an argument and fell out of contact for about a year. she now (2 years later) drops hints (eye contact, standing near me, sighing audiably, saying "hi") that she wants to talk again. it is just that i am scared to death to talk to her. one reason is because she is black. this is why: 1. black women are very unlikely to be attracted to white men. i have NEVER approached a black woman that didnt talk to me first. it just would make me very nervous and scared of rejection. 2. i feel like i cant live up to the "standard" she may be used too. most black men i know are more muscular than white men. don't get me wrong, i play football and lift weights, and am not a scrawny dude but i had to work extremly hard in the weight room(1st in, last to leave) for what i have, and that is still just mediocre compared to some of my black teammates who seamed to just naturally be strong. most of the black men i know are 5'11''-6'4'' and i am only 5'7''. that is OK with white women (most white women i know are around 5'2''). staci happens to be 5'2'' also, but all her boyfriends that i know were like 6'2''. 3. i have heard black women say that they would never date a white man because he wouldnt treat her the same as a black man. i really have know clue what this means, but i think it has to do with that most white people are steriotyped as all work-minded and no fun. i am fun, once you get to know me (i will be shy at first, but once i open up you will be laughing a lot). well, to sum up, yes, most white men would date black women if they had the values that they are attracted too. i think that most dont try (including me) because thay are insecure both mentally, and physically, and are almost 100% sure of rejection b/c of the fact that they are white and therefore don't "measure up"

Answer 2

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Do white men secretly want to date black women?
Black women and white men are the least likely groups to be in a interracial relationship together. Do white men want to date black women but do not pursue do to the taboos and such?
I think people maybe surprised how many black women would be interested in dating a white man.

Answer 3

I'm a white man and I think black women are so beautiful. A few years back my GF (white) had to take me to and pick me up from work while my car was in the shop.
Well everyday she'd pull up this super sexy black girl would come over and say hi. Now while this went on everyday for over a week. I had this feeling she was doing this purposely in front of my GF.
But this thing is I think she knew it turned me on (which it did immensely) cause we would exchange looks at engage in conversation etc. But I love my GF and I didn''t want to cheat (Although I fantasize about cheating with sexy black women ) on her so I didn't get to see if the girl wanted me as much as i wanted her.

Answer 4

All this talk is as if black women are from another planet... WE are not, we have the SAME hopes, dreams and desires as any other women, we desire to fall in love get married and have children, weather its with a white man, black man or blue man as long as he treats us with kindness love and respect

Answer 5

From my experience, black women usually like to stick with black men, but I am personally seeing more and more of the black woman/white man thing every day. Black women are not limiting themselves anymore. I have also had several white guys say that they and their friends would like to, but they don't know how black people in general would react and would it be a problem with the community at large, afraid of confrontation by black people that would not like it (or white people who would not like it) and would black women go for them.

Answer 6

Yes I do and I will state my reasons why I feel they don't pursue it. First of all, I think white men are intimidated by black women and the taboo of dating a black woman. They fear being angrily rejected by a black woman they asked out. They have this belief system that there are very few black women/white men couples because black women don't want to date white men. This belief is perpetuated by the negative comments you hear from many black women about black men dating white women. These negative comments create the belief that black women believe black men and black people in general should date within their own race whether or not they actually believe that or not. Secondly, whether or not anybody wants to believe it or not, white people are scared of black people. White people are intimidated by them and won't confront them. It's sad, but true. Because of this, white men may be intimidated by black men and they may fear that if they date a black woman, black men may kick their ***. Third, there is the belief that black people and white people are anatomically different. The common belief is that black men tend to be more muscular and well endowed than white men. Therefore, the white man may have self esteem issues because he will never be able to meet the psysical expectations of a black woman and because of this a black woman would never want a white man. Finally, white men may fear being scorned, jeared at, stared at, disowned and possibly physically assaulted or worse by their own race, friends and family for being with a black woman. They may shudder at the thought of having to constantly defend their relationship to everybody. White men may believe that the complexities involved in an interracial relationship may not be worth it, therefore it turns them off of ever dating a black woman. Its sad that society is this way, but that's the way it is.

Answer 7

I don't secretly want to date black girls. If I came across a good girl with similar interests and so happens to be black, what the hell, I'll give it another shot. I've dated black girls in the past, but prefer a white women.

Answer 8

Really? A lot of Black women want to date white men?? That's good news actually. You should know that European men love Black women...I mean, it's funny to watch. But white American men?? not sure how that works.

Answer 9

What's surprising about a Human dating another Human? I think society is caught up in some sort of weird fantasy about color. It seems that there is a huge level of intrigue regarding dating people who are different. Correct me if I'm wrong. But I have often felt this way. I would almost bet that you are a white male who leans toward being curious about interracial dating with a black woman. If so, be yourself. What's taboo about being interested in another person whose skin is different? Nothing! We need to be who we are. People. Not colors.

Answer 10

I'm a black woman I have no problem finding a boyfriend of any race. But I'm really picky... I tend to go mainly for whites and Asians, even the ones it would be assumed to not have any interest in a black woman, I had a few goth boyfriends and they are the best! I'm not interested in the ones that act "black"...