He admits he done wrong and was glad that I confront him because he feels bad hiding but didn't want to blow his own cover. The reason he use the escort service was to relax and get away for one hour, even if it was for one hour. He wanted some where as an outlet to talk and release and get a massage.
It was an addiction but late he realize it was wrong, and it was just an easy way out. He didn't want to hurt me and doesn't want me to think as if I'm an escort.
He want a second chance, he treasure the realtionship and he won't do it again. He said he has the will power and if I work with him we could built a stronger relationship.
I agree, but what can I do and what can he do to gain my trust...
I know there are happy marriages and their husband still goes out to use escort as a mean of relax and outlet away from life. What should I do?
2007-03-19 11:26:47 · 7 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, Escort as I would take it involves SEX not just a massage! If it was the massage he neede than he could go to a legitament spa to get the relaxing he needed. So he needs to come out with the whole truth or you need to come out of denial. If there is true love than yes you can work through it. But you need to be more alert to your situation, don't allow him to play with your emotions. If he let you then you could RELAX him as he needs. Trust is comething that has to be earned and your heart would have to be open but aware. He has lost it and now has to rebuild, but it can be done if both parties are willing. Some counseling should be seeked. But I have been in a situation with my husband that I lost all trust and WE have rebuilt it. It was hard and I had every right to divorce but I loved him and we worked through it. Weather it will happen again I dont know but I dont live my life worrying about it.But I would be a fool to think there wasnt a possibility. I never thought it would happen to begin with. I still look for signs and am aware more now of my situation. But I love him and he loves me and I like to think it is unconditional, though if it ever happend again I couldnt say what I would do. There is always hope my most important advise is to seek God, he is the reason we are all here! He will be the only one to answer your question with resolve!
2007-03-19 12:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT??? I have never heard of happy marriages where the husband goes out to use an escort as a means to relax and and outlet away from life.
2007-03-19 11:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/ the first answerer... escort or not, its still cheating hello?! well u can try to give him a chance but trust needs to be earned and very hard to get back once broken...by the way, just a warning, addictions are very hard to break...good luck
2007-03-19 11:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by mitval 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be trustworthy with your self around why you broke the promise. come to a call in case you are able to uphold what you're saying sooner or later. in case you are able to, then save what you're saying your going to do together with her in any respect circumstances. have faith is each and every thing in a courting. in elementary terms time can restore this project for you.
2016-10-19 02:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's feeding you a line of BS, and you're falling for it, hook, line, and sinker. Don't allow him to treat you that way. You deserve better than that! He basically wants your permission to go out when he wants, with whomever he wants, and do whatever he wants with them. Is that okay with you? Not in a million years...NO!
2007-03-19 11:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not good, Not good.....
2007-03-19 13:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by hatlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Go!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-19 12:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋