My wife says I grope her body to much? I cant help it, she's hot. Now I must try to restrain myself and cut back. It's like quitting smoking :(. I want to know though, do most women like to be grabbed playfully?
2007-03-19 11:25:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Groping is always good in my book, but it depends. Just ask ur wife how it makes her feel when she feels ur too grabby hands. I feel that their is a respectful way and a disrespectful way of groping ur partner. If it is that she feel disrespected, then I suggest u both side out a talk about what does and doesn't feel right to her and ask her what she likes the most. The way she likes to be touched and such. Find a common ground with her and see if their is a more sensual, respectful, censer, sensitive way of touching her as well as how u want to be touched. Can it also be that maybe u grab her in the manner that u would like her to do to u? Is there something more u would like from her that would make u feel as if u wouldn't have to grop her as much. Maybe if their is something missing on ur end (and u may not even realize it right away) u wouldn't be seem so controlling over her? Maybe u would like her to control u a little more or just differently?Just ask urself, r u into her or her body more when ur in the bedroom. Try to be more into her and what she likes and ask her to do the same for u. Its great to be into ur partners body, but u just need to remember u need to be sensitive to the fact that she may feel ignored as a person in the bedroom. Also to spice things up, get a container of some kind and us it as a suggestion box. U write somethings that u would like to do or try and have her do the same and once a week or when u feel like it, pull one paper with one suggestion from the box for that night to try. Be creative-games to play, movie to get u in the mood, fantasies to act out, clothing to wear, an evening at a sexy store to pick out a few things. Have fun with it. Communication and openness r the key here for the both of u to have a happy, healthy sex life.
2007-03-19 12:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tootsie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish my husband would grope me more......but all the time may get old. Try to make your gropes special, like grabbing her before you leave for work telling her lthat you need that to make it through a long day until yuo can be with her again.
2007-03-19 18:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a point in marriage that I think most women (especially after kids) don't enjoy that as much. Not your fault. It's something wrong with us I think. We tend to enjoy being held - not sexually - a little more. And as far as for mothers, it is very hard for us to transform from "Mommy" all day to "Sexy wife" at the drop of a hat. Plus if you have been married a while the element of surprise is probably gone. And you are predictable and she probably doesn't like that. I myself like kisses on the neck and ear more now than the other foreplay. You may just have to adjust.
2007-03-19 11:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Angel D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is your wife a Fridge? My wife can't get enough groping!
2015-06-27 05:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be treated like an independent and appreciated person, not a piece of meat. It must make her feel pretty bad if she said that. You should feel pretty good that she loves you enough to tell you the truth, that took a lot of courage.
Give her some room and appreciate her where she is, it will all balance out. Talk to her like a treasured wife, not "she's hot" like you picked her up at the far end of town. She wants to be considered a lady with a mind, personality and loved for that; the physically will naturally follow when she is feeling it, and it will be even sweeter.
2007-03-19 11:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
any groping is too much. but she is your wife, so it's only reasonable for her to expect you to touch her every once in a while. it's nice to know that you have that kind of passion for your wife. keep it up and your marriage should last a long time!
2007-03-19 11:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't like it when my husband comes up to me, out of the blue, and just starts grabbing. I mean, come on....there's a time and a place for it. If you're both being playful, and you're not in the bedroom (for example a grab on the backside or something) then fine, but I don't want just to be grabbed because he feels like it. That's just me anyway.....
2007-03-19 11:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't matter what most women like, your women has told you to grope less.
2007-03-19 11:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say yes, that most women appreciate the attention from their men.
but since she already told you it bothers her, maybe you aren't doing it respectfully.
could you be making her feel like a piece of meat?
do you ever compliment less physical aspects of herself, like her intelligence, compassion, or talents?
try being more romantic, and less juvenile. when you see her and think, "damn she fine i wanna tap that", that is NOT what you should say! tell her she is beautiful, or that you love her.
and when you see her looking hot and you just want to grab her breasteses, hold your horses! instead, kiss her neck, hold her hand, or run your fingers through her hair.
i'm sure she will respond more positively this way, and you will still be able to express your attraction to her.
2007-03-19 11:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If its making her uncomfortable it is too much. Try touching her on a regular basis without it being in a sexual way. Touch her hand, shoulder arm. Give it a squeeze and walk away. Then she'll begin to realize that she is loved and respected, but not just your sex toy.
2007-03-19 11:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Shakesfear 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋