I want revenge on my sister in-law for humilating me to my husbands family. Telling all my secrets and the ones she lied about. The whole family is on her side and I want her to pay. She has alot of secrets one big one is she's wanted by police.
Help I don't know what to do.
2007-03-19 11:23:18 · 8 answers · asked by Tink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My sister in-law and I were best friends and know we haven't seen each other since this happened and I just want to know should I tell her secrets or keep them to myself
2007-03-19 17:54:59 · update #1
First off, you need to take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and think this over.
Here's the thing about revenge - it takes time, and energy (that you could devote to something else). It also rarely gets you anywhere better than where you are now. Let's assume you got revenge - you'd have a moment of triumph, followed by a lot of grief. Your family (especially your brother) is unlikely to thank you.
Someone once said, "Living well is the best revenge." It's true. What could be more frustrating to this person who feels the need to lie and betray your trust, than for you to let it go and get on with your life?
While you're planning revenge, you're focused on her. Nobody ever got to a good place in the future by walking facing backward. You're focusing on her, which is understandable, but just gives her more power over your life.
That said, you say she's wanted by the police. If it's for something serious, you can turn her in anonymously - but I'd think that one over before making the call.
None of this means you have to pretend she's your best friend, or that you even like her, but if you treat her politely, in time, everyone will start to wonder if she was telling the truth about you, which will make them wonder about how honest she is. As it is, by trying to plot revenge, you're making sure that your life is all about her - and you'll seem to be verifying all the bad things she said about you.
2007-03-19 11:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is to be the better person and let it go. She did those things out of spite and malice, because she has a small ego and the only pleasure she gets is in making your life miserable. Don't give her the power to do so.
I'm not sure how you can make amends with the family, but hopefully if you can spend time with them and show them who you really are and what you're about, they'll realize that she's full of it. Besides, the law will catch up with her someday, and then what's she going to say?
2007-03-19 11:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by pokecheckme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not good....don't worry sooner or later she'll pay for what she's done to you....HEY! maybe the police will catch up to her....i know how hard it is to ignore but what goes around comes around....be good and you'll feel better about yourself.....peace
2007-03-19 11:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok humiliate her you need to show her a piece of your mind and tell secrets about her if she has a husband tell him some stuff like she scrates her but or something or maybe just try to work it out with her try to be best friends I'm just saying.
2007-03-19 11:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jazmin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch! I wouldn't tell that. That could really upset her. But play a practical joke on her. Example: Putting " whoopie cushions " under a chair or something funny like that.
2007-03-19 11:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have her stay at your house for the dy and while she is sleeping put a ice cube in her ear barf-o-rama record it on a video tape
2007-03-19 11:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
revenge IS a sin. i understand how u must feel, but talk to ur famiyl on his side! what about ur husband? who's side is he on? talk to him, ask him to talk to his family....?
2007-03-19 11:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋