What do you do when you've lost your best friend?

Question

Me and my best friend are different now. She's a teen mother, I've never even been kissed before. Im not saying that the only reason we were friends was because we were both virgens but now its totally different. I know it and she knows it. We arent going the same way in life anymore, so i feel like ive lost my best friend. Should i feel this way? Should i try to keep our relationship going even though we never really hang out anymore because shes working or busy of tired ... what should i do?

Answer 1

Hey, I'm going through the same thing right now. You were probably friends because opposites attract.

There are one of two things you can do:

1. Attempt to make up
2. Move on

Now, the first option will be difficult, and may even fall aprat in the end. Apparently, you've tried talking to her. But now, you can attempt to confront her, and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you still want to be friends, and maybe apologize if you've done wrong.

The second option will be hard. I know its difficult and painful, but if you feel in your heart that you need to move on, you have to. You will just have to remember that if something doesn't want you back, it never deserved you anyways. Eventually, your mind should clear of constantly thinking of this problem if you choose to move on.

Answer 2

Well you are focusing on the differences you two have. What about the things in common you two share? The only big difference you mentioned was sex. Thats not as important as you are placing your focus on. If you really want to stay friends then be understanding and helpful to her situation. Maybe on a day off you two can go out to lunch and take the baby with you. It may be possible that you end up finding a new best friend, someone who can give you more attention. But why throw away this friendship? Even if you're not best friends, you can still be just friends.

Good luck ;)

Answer 3

I can totally relate. My best friends started to move way faster than I could have. I haven't even had my 1st boyfriend, and my BFFs were already doing have the big S at the movie theaters. I started to feel out of the loop, like I didn't know them anymore. I decided it was time for a friend change. I still love them, and we talk all the time, but now I am with new best friends who are moving at my pace. Friendships don't last forever, and it's probably time to say goodbye to this one. There is no point in trying to keep this relationship going, but find a new group of people who want the same things as you and have the same morals and standards. It is totally normal to feel this way. It hurts, but just know that you are going onto a path of sucess, and she can't lead you there. She put herself in a position that could ruin her life, and make things just go downhill. Don't get invloved.

Answer 4

I'd say try to keep the friendship going, but at the same time you need to accept the fact that she doesn't have as much time and energy for you or any other friend. Maybe she won't really be your best friend anymore, just a casual friend. I wouldn't break off all contact with her, though. It sounds like she needs friends now more than ever. Maybe in the end (years from now) you can look back and say your friendship got stronger as a result of this trial.

Answer 5

First of all, before worrying about being friends, you need to help her with her child. You have a rather, unique, situation. She's feeling like her life is as bad as it can get. And, the baby is the reason. AND, the baby didn't do anything you or I didn't do when we were conceived, "try to survive".

So, your ex-friend needs to become your friend again. You need to step forward and learn all the things she's got to learn for the baby's sake. I'm thinking that the baby is past the first trimester.

If so, she doesn't have a choice but to carry to term. She's lucky about that. She doesn't have to go through the option to CHOOSE to keep or abort. That will tear you up inside, just thinking about it.

And through it all, you've stepped away from her, as if she isn't good enough for you anymore. That's got to burn her buns, frost her freckles, and sizzle her temper. If you can see it in your heart to absolve all the bad feelings you've laid upon her soul, I'm sure she would appreciate you more than just as a friend. (I may be an Atheist, but you aren't and you believe in a soul)

You haven't lost your best friend. Turn around. There she is. You just turned your back on her. AND, she needs your help.

Answer 6

You should still stay friends with her but everyone goes through this with friends at some point. You will make more friends and ones that are more like you right now.
I have a friend that is a totally different person then me. Our personalities are total opposites. We used to be really close all through out highschool but once we got out of high school we went our different ways and are doing different things. But we still talk and keep in touch and thats nice. But I also have friends I hang out with now that are a little more on my level and understand me a little more.
I suggest that you make lots of different friends.

:)

Answer 7

i'm sorry you lost your magnificent buddy. it really is okay for you to grieve and mourn this loss. Cry, experience unhappy. it truly is okay. yet in some unspecified time sooner or later, you also opt to comprehend that your horse is in a more advantageous powerful position and at peace. you want to flow on living the great life you are able to because your horse doesn't favor you be unhappy. Make new associates once you're waiting even if of the equine or human type. in simple terms stay your life to the fullest. it extremely is the thanks to honor a lost loved one.

Answer 8

Grow up. Things dont stay the same all of your life. Friends come and go. One day you will move on and start hanging out with other friends. She made her choices and being a teen parent is going to take alot of her time. Be their for her for support, but dont expect things to be the same, chances are they will not be anymore.

Answer 9

You should stay her friend. Try to hang out with her more often. I don't think she needs to loose a best friend in this time of her life.

Answer 10

Try to work things out or find a new best friend.