and you live and rasie kid's with this person
2007-03-19 10:52:30 · 27 answers · asked by XoAngieXo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was me not him He neaver take's me anywere hardly give's me money,{but he could by stupid ****} been togeather 8 years he's 9 years older than me dosent help with the house hold stuff not even homework and he's like home by 3 every day he just sit's and watches the stupid history channel or airplanes i have one child ,10,and he has one,15,who i have rased for6 years if i leave i have to go back to mom's house does any one relly belive that the grass is greener on the other side?I got wasted and i'm like relly small,4/11 and at the bar i guss i annonsed is there any one here who want's to get with me,in front of him stupid i no i guess i had beer b*ll's the next morning wasent good at all he called me a stupidC**T i dont no he sorta talken to me i'm 30 he's 40 in a mounth i should go back to school so i can learn how to spell to,lol but what do ya think?
2007-03-20 02:51:11 · update #1
another one using alcohol as an excuse? damm to think iwas the only one. sorry to hear that hopefully you can see the brighter side of things and get out before its too late
2007-03-19 10:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by xoxohuney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't drink but did some in my younger years and there was a time or two that I really got smashed and could remember everything I did. So through out my life I have never bought the story of someone not remember what they did while drunk. And yes we have the right to be mad if they have done something bad , drunk or not. If it is a continuous problem then they need help for there drinking, especially having children , the children will grow up around it and either be alcoholics them self or marry an alcoholic.
2007-03-19 18:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what was done honey. There are some boundaries that are big no no's whether intoxicated or not. It's hard enough to forgive someone when they've made a mistake while sober, but for someone to go out and do something WRONG that they have no recognition of must be pretty hard. Talk about it. Can you forgive them for whatever they did? If not, I wouldn't suggest putting the children through whatever issues may arise. Maybe you can speak alone with said person and make a decision that will help the situation without harming the children. Good Luck honey! Hope all works out!
2007-03-19 17:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on if he REALLY was so drunk that he couldn't remember. And if the actions were his fault or if he just allowed something to happen. I myself have been passed out and when I came to I was doing things with someone and I think that I must have had my eyes open or agreeing or something but I only remember "coming too" after a lot had happened. And was immediately trying to put a stop to it. But I don't think being drunk makes it acceptable for a partner to do unethical stuff. If this person has kids he should be grown up enough to know when enough alcohol is enough anyway.
2007-03-19 18:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Angel D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems you have the right to be mad, but anger probably won't solve the problem. This person may need serious help to get over their problem. There are different ways of convincing them to get help. Do your best to get them into a program of rehab. If all else fails then you may have to live separate from them with the agreement to continue trying to work all things out.
2007-03-19 18:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because then the 'real' them comes out. I dont play the "I was drunk..." game. I dont drink often but I have gotten drunk maybe 2 good times. Things are fuzzy... but there is NOTHING that I did that I did not WANT to do. I have been hearing this lie on Jerry Springer for years.... its a LIE. They knew what they were doing. Beat their a**es.
2007-03-19 18:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Just A Newbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is NO excuse for being stupid. If he's going to do bad things when he's drinking, then he should be responsible enough NOT to drink. End of story. Yes, you have the right to hold him accountable for what he does when he's drinking. I've only been truly wasted once or twice in my life, but I can tell you one thing. I knew what I was doing the whole time!
2007-03-19 17:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Because they were responsible for the decision to get drunk and put themselves in a position where they couldn't control themselves and couldn't remember. This person probably needs to give up drinking if they become helpless like that.
2007-03-19 17:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not believe the " I am drunk, and I don't remember anything", line. I am a man, and I just don't believe it. I have also been drunk, and around others who have been drunk. You REMEMBER EVERYTHING!!! I dont' care who you are. It is just a ploy to get out of the hot seat. Most think this is a fool proof way to get out of what they have done wrong..BEWARE BEWARE BEWARE!!! You deserve better friend..and I think you know that....he did whatever he did, and remembers it...don't let him get away with it and step all over you....Good luck friend
2007-03-19 17:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would be mad that a person who is responsible for raising my children with me who gets drunk enough to black out. Not remembering in no way excuses the act. If they beat one of your children, woould being drunk make it ok? RUN
2007-03-19 17:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋