I have just started an affair. We both are married and in two different cities. I felt I need him more than he needs me. I am much happier when he calls. When I see sexual scenes on TV that always give me thrill and remind me of his kisses. I think I should stop now but I don't get any satisfaction from my husband.
2007-03-19 10:41:11 · 26 answers · asked by windy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I would like to say to not listen to all the negative comments you are going to get on this question. They come from people who do not fully understand the situation. Though you are wrong for having an affair, you are not wrong for being human. All of us just merely want to be happy. You did however, miss a vital step. The hardest step of em all, that is why it is always missed, and affairs happen. You need to talk to your husband about fixing the situation, or initiating the divorce process. Although it is a painful, emotionally draining process, in the end you will be a much happier you. Happiness is a decision and never a journey. Good luck friend.
2007-03-19 10:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should end this affair as of like yesterday! You need to work on your marriage and relationship with your husband and keep the home fires burning. End it now and dont think twice about it. All you are doing is lusting after this guy and this wont last forever trust me. Dump him ... The sooner the better. You are not good for each other at all and he is just as much of a player as you are. Do you really feel that any good with come of this at all if i may ask? More than likely this affair will end in heartache and alot of people getting hurt. You both may even lose your marriages over it. Loving someone is a choice and not just a feeling of lust.
2007-03-19 10:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's safe to say your affair will end badly. First off, you need to tell your husband the truth and leave it up to him on what he wants to do. Second, you need to break it off with this guy. Since he lives in another city and has his own wife, the odds of the two of you being happy are low. Even if the two of you do get together, since you cheated with each other, it a matter of time before somebody steps out. Good luck.
2007-03-19 10:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if there is data available on the success of such endeavors. As one who has been in an affair and one who has been cheated upon, I find the results are painful. In my view, an affair is probably the symptom of other issues in your marriage.
I think you have documented the lack of satisfaction with your husband as a problem. If you wish seek counseling for the both of you. If that is not desired, I think a divorce is where you are heading. I wish you the best.
2007-03-19 10:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by david42 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In all affairs, some two people will get hurt. Your playing with fire. Usually according to statistics affair relations dont lead to anything once the partner is free from wife or husband. You married your husband for a reason, put the spark back in your marriage. It is up to you.
2007-03-19 10:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no good outcomes from an affair. If your hubby finds out, it will be painful and ugly, especially if there are any children involved. If he doesn't and it just ends, somebody might get hurt emotionally and you might carry a longing for this man for a very long time afterwards. If you leave your hubby for this man someday, it will hurt any children involved and if you can't build a relationship with the new guy that lasts, then your without both. Better to give him up, fantasize if you have to, and work at making life with your husband better.
2007-03-19 10:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u probably are not having the feelings u need to have for your husband because of the affair. what u are feeling is the excitement phase of a relationship, the lust part. which doesn't last too long by the way. it will either end with u getting a broken heart, or both marriages getting destroyed. love is all about a decision not a feeling.
2007-03-19 10:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it's time to talk to a professional. You made a commitment to you husband out of love, not out of lust... yet you are keeping a man on the side for lust. Instead of putting time and mental energy into cheating, use that time to put the spark and magic back into your relationship. Remember why you got together in the first place? Find that magic again... before it's really gone forever. I'm linking a book below. It's kinda hokey, but you really can learn a lot about relationships and intimacy from it.
2007-03-19 10:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by dougandkate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating spouses always seem to think there wife or husband are stupid or blind for all you know he's been gathering everything he needs to take you to the cleaners.
I am curious about something can you actually look in the mirror and smile and think your a good person I guess the ole adage that cheaters never win didn't sink in it will catch up to you sooner or later....
2007-03-19 11:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having an affiar,.. It is not my first. I still see the ladies. I am doing it because I married the wrong wife for me. We have a child. I am a great dad. Just my wife hurts me emotionally and in bed physically.
I am feeling alone and unhappy with her. this is why a guy cheats. I say, if you need to do it, then please be careful and make sure the other guy loves, you...
2007-03-20 19:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by CURIOUS GEORGE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋