im three months pregnant. ever since i told him i was pregnant he started treating me like trash. now he doesnt even come around or talk to me. im 28 and he is 34. hes spending alot of time doing drugs with his trashy old girl friend. im a mess of emotions
2007-03-19 09:55:12 · 23 answers · asked by miss bonney lake 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't give him the time of day. Right now you need to be a bit selfish and care for yourself so you can be a good mom to your baby inside of you who is depending on you for so much right now.
Do you have friends to help you?
Do you have family to hug you and help?
Do you have a local BIRTHRIGHT chapter in your area?
They have a lot of resources they can plug you into to help this time be a special time like it is suppose to be. They even have donated goods, mostly new, and will throw you a baby shower and make sure you have the things you need for when your baby arrives.
Try your police department and ask them if they have a CAR SEAT PROGRAM where you can get a voucher for a free car seat or a good used one.
Think outside the box dear. I know it's hard right now 'cause you have so much going on, including hormones and physical changes, but keep DEEP BREATHING and TRY NOT TO CRY SO MUCH. The stress is not good on you or the baby.
Find a local church to help you out? Just walk in and tell them you need help. Usually they can refer you some place or there might even be a lovely woman who would love to mentor you and encourage you through this time.
I am sorry he isn't helping you, but you can do this without him.
PS Congratulations! Babies are a real blessing. They really are. The circumstances surrounding them may not always be the best, but the babies themselves... WOW! They really do know how to bring joy. So love that little one starting right now, 'cause you are a MOMMY!
2007-03-19 10:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like he is not worth your time or trouble. But I would make sure he pays child support and also make sure that he can only see the child in supervised visits since he is using drugs. Note everything that he is doing so when the time comes you will have all your ducks in a row when it comes to getting the child support. Otherwise keep your distance from him and there are so many guys out there these days that love children as their own.. so You can make the best of this situation!! I know it is so easy for us to tell you to move on.. when it is not us going through the pain.. but you can make it thru and it will take time. We are all here to talk to.. just let us know when ya need us!
2007-03-19 10:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that the creep is treating you like that and acting like his child isn't worth his time. Honestly, you should count your blessings that you know the truth about him now and still have the chance to stay out of his life. You need to keep the baby FAR from him. That child is a miracle and you will be able to do this. You don't need him!!
Just stay away from him and don't let him in the life of your child. He might be a father, but he's not any kind of a Daddy.
2007-03-19 10:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to pick a date in the next 7 days to officially be over him. Seriously. That soon.
I know it is harsh. You might have loved him a few months back, envisioned a life with him, etc. But that is over now, and the quicker the better.
You have a little one growing inside that is going to need you in peak physical, mental and emotional health over the next few months. He/she doesn't need you stressing about someone like this. He needs you eating healthy, planning for her future, taking care of yourself.
I know it must seem hard, but you are about to become a mother and you'll soon learn that you will have to endure many hardships and heartbreaks to ensure you can be all that you can to the precious one you are about to meet.
Say nothing to him. Keep him away from you, and his drugs out of your house. The last thing you need is for him to come into your house or car or office with some 'stuff' and get arrested, only for you to lose your home or car to an asset forfeiture in a drug crime. Just imagine the red flags that are going to go up with Child Welfare services if he is around you at this time and your baby in the next few months.
Turn to your friends or family or even other mothers in similar situations for support. I'd strongly suggest reviewing the 'Birth Club' messageboards at this site:
http://www.babycenter.com/ You will find hundreds of other mommies to be expecting the same time as you and going through the same things you are (yea, even the really weird parts--from husband cheating on them to husbands who died in Iraq while pregnant--they have them all).
Good luck.
2007-03-19 10:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by apleyden 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Screw that asshole! That is no way to treat a gal! I never did that, even though I have 2 children with whom I do not live with, and they are from different moms. I remained friends with the mothers and I visit the often. I know have a family of my own, with my wife and our 2 month old son, Dylan.Since the guy is a drug addict. So, take the ***** to court, and make him pay child support. You might also want to call the police and turn him in for possession of drugs, if you hate him that much...I would do it.
2007-03-19 11:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 09:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he didn't 'get you' pregnant. You got yourself pregnant by doing what you shouldn't have been doing and without the necessary precautions. I know some people will call me judgmental, but it's time girls stopped blaming the guy and start blaming themselves for not keeping their knees together especially when the guy obviously was not very reliable. At least take partial responsibility for poor judgment.
2007-03-21 04:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want him any way if he is doing drugs. my daughter's daddy was a drug addict and did drugs 24/7 with his ex g/f! and eventually he turned violent with my daughter when she was a little baby b/c he couldn't get her to stop crying. you don't want that kind of guy around your baby anyway.
don't put him on the birth certificate. a guy like that shouldn't have any rights to that child! your child should have your last name and not his. if you were married that would be different.
2007-03-19 10:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds harsh but you are gonna be better of without him if thats the way he is acting now how do you think he is ever gonna be a good father.....he sounds too immature to take any responsibility, be strong and look after you baby when he/ she is born......good luck
2007-03-19 10:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by deanally2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much else you can say to him. Unfortunately, this means he will miss out on one of the most beautiful experiences in life. He doesn't seem like he deserves it, though.
Stay focused on remaining healthy, and happy through the pregnancy. Congrats!
2007-03-19 10:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by treasureyourself 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋