It always seems like within months after I start dating someone, the newness wears off, and I get bored or tired of him and start becoming interested in new guys. I have never held a relationship for longer than 2 years, and the relationship that did last 2 years went on for that long only because we dragged it out LONNNGGGG after it should’ve ended.
I’m worried because someday I do want to get married, but at the rate I’m going, I can totally see myself becoming bored and frustrated at being stuck in an unhappy marriage and wishing I were free and able to date someone else instead.
Is it just that I haven’t found the right guy yet? Will my feelings stabilize after meeting the right guy? Or is it just me? Does anyone else feel this way?
2007-03-19 09:39:36 · 8 answers · asked by kiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-03-19 09:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of it this way. You may want to get married DOWN THE LINE but you aren't interested NOW.
What you want to do now is the only important thing that there is. Don't start having negative associations with dating because you don't date for long periods.
I want you to be incredibly happy and fulfilled with the way you are living your life. I promise you, it's perfect for you RIGHT NOW. You shouldn't change a thing.
Then once you've accepted yourself unconditionally with no judgements or good and bad, you will find that you will become the way you want to be, really, without the influence of others. Really, there is no person other than yourself that knows what's best for you.
So enjoy life and have as many boyfriends as you want. When you are READY to find a marriage partner and you are CLEAR with what you want with that partner, you will have the marriage of your dreams.
FP
2007-03-19 16:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way...I am dating someone new. i hope this one sticks...so far, so great. But I think it is commitment issues (at least with me) when it got to the point of marriage...i closed the door. Maybe just wasn't the right guy. I will be watching the answers to your questions though. Maybe I will get some help too!
2007-03-19 16:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would say is that when you are with the right one, you will not be bored any more. I promise, I had the same thing. Boyfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend, and then I found my husband. When I was with him, it made all the difference. The one thing that I would suggest, make sure that you have everything resolved with all of your previous boyfriends before you start seeing another guy!
2007-03-19 16:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by AdoptiveMama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAVE YOURSELF THE MONEY AND NOT MARRY THIS MAN AND SAVE HIM THE HEARTACHE BY BREAKING IT OFF....BECAUSE IF U MARRY HIM THEN DUMP HIM DAMN U KNOW HOW EXPENSIVE DIVORCE IS??? U NEED THERAPY FOR THIS GETTING TIRED OF PEOPLE AFTER 2 YRS. ARE YOU SHALLOW? SEEMS LIKE U HAVE NO TOLERANCE~ JUST MY OPINION..U CAN TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT AND DO WHAT EVER BUT U NEED TO LOOK FURTHER AT WHY U DUMP AFTER 2YRS...OR LOSE FEELINGS ...THERAPY IS WORTH IT~ TAKE CARE GIRL~
2007-03-19 16:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, finding the "right person" really does help. But it's also important to work on yourself - to develop, mature, better yourself, and strive to be the best you can be. To know what's right and what isn't right for you, you have to practice your introspective skills, and you need to get to know yourself.
2007-03-19 16:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. I've been in relationships at max only 2yrs as well. I believe we just haven't me THE ONE. We'll know it when it happens.
2007-03-19 16:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2007-03-19 19:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋