worry. I mean I trust her and everything but she just invited him to a barbecue at our home last weekend. He is a very nice guy and good looking, that's what concerns me. He did bring a woman to the barbecue. But I kind of gather that they are on again off again so I am concerned about when they are off and my wife is around him.
One thing I need to add. I am out of town on biz travel Sunday night to Thursday night. I do this 2 weeks out of the month so this would give my wife opportunity if she would do it. I am secure in my relationship with her and she has never given me reason not to trust her. However, this is something new and it is in the back of my mind. If I tell her something then she will wonder what happened to her trusting husband? So I am sitting here worried all of the time lately afraid to tell her something.
Do you all think I may be worrying about nothing? I am sure some of you can relate to what I am going through?
2007-03-19 09:37:51 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You trust her until evidence proves otherwise.
2007-03-19 09:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello. well you tell us " He did bring a woman to the barbecue. "
and your wife is:of "is full of sexual energy."
This 2 facts dont means she gonna go to bed with anybody else than you. on the contrary it means the opposite, Right?
You have maybe for the first time see someone you regard as a real concurrent. you can be right. this the most important reason to:
Do nothing. Dont give her any signal that you dont trust her.
If she reaaly like him better its already to late anyway , again. If she is cheeting you she is useless anyway.
So at this moment its to early take action.
2007-03-19 09:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you have every reason to be concerned. I know of a real situation that happened like this: My brother in law was married to a woman that started working out with a personal trainer. She used to make fun of how short her trainer was, etc. But then he noticed she started going twice as much to work out. She became obsessive in dieting, etc. She started liking him. They divorced. She left my brother in law, who is a millionaire, for a trainer that makes $15.00 per hour. Lust will do the craziest things.
I wouldn't worry until she started going to work out more than her normal routine. But, then again, how will you know how long she's at the gym if you are gone. Do you have a buddy that goes to the same gym? If you really get worried, hire a PI to work out the same time she does so they can get the inside scoop on how they act around one another....eye contact, etc. That can tell you alot.
Good luck Sweetie and hope this helps!
2007-03-19 09:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She invited him to the BBQ!!! You should have put on your biker shorts, a tight underarmour shirt, cleats and give him a firm hand shake........ JUST KIDDING
Let her continue working out with him. You don't want to have to babysit your wife. Let her know that family gatherings or Social Settings are not for her trainer. It's just business!!! She seems to be crossing the lines. A man will play a woman like a fiddle and she is just setting her Gullable ***up.
And for you,
You have to get that insecurity out of you. You just know what your wife has to offer and you don't want nobody else experiencing this( I like how i put that nicely). If she values her marriage, nobody can come between that. If she loves you, then nobody can come between that. Let her prove her love .
And if she does start falling for Mr. Fitness, then you should thank him for exposing the truth that you were not in her heart.
You shouldn't want someone who can be so careless.
But..... Lets hope that this is all in your mind. Lighten Up that type of anxiety is not good for your health.
2007-03-19 10:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by hatlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is full of sexual energy. You and I have opposite problems. My wife has zero sexual energy and I would almost hire a gigolo to jump start her. LOL!
Seriously, if you really trust her what are you worried about. Just because your wife is full of sexual energy and she has a handsome personal trainer does not mean that they will have sex. Also, when you are traveling out of town, is your wife freaking out that you might be sleeping with women you are meeting in the hotel bar?
2007-03-19 10:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a two way street. If she trust you to be out of town for a week then by all means return the trust. If an affair is looming and does happen, then friend I'm sorry but what will happen will happen. Until then show her the trust she deserves, you would want no less I'm sure.
2007-03-19 09:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well everyone knows that trust is the key to any relationship, but you can't just ignore the way this is making you feel. if you think that there is any chance at all that she may be unfaithful at any time when you are away on business, you should confront her about it. don't confront her in a way in which you are accusing her of being unfaithful,but just bring it to her attention that you know that she's only human and when you're away you know that she has needs that you can't meet during that time, and that she could be turning to the attention of another man when you're unable to give her the sexual attention that she is desiring at that time. marriage is about commitment, but also communication. this isn't something that you should have to hide, let her know how this is making you feel.
2007-03-19 09:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥trini princess♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are this really trusting guy and you are secure in your relationship with your wife and she has never given you any reason not to trust her................yet you are beset by the worry bug and perhaps an ill placed green eyed monster?...
This is YOUR issue, not your wife's....so you need to stop thinking that because this is something 'new' - [what's new? that this guy is handsome ? or that this guy is BLACK and handsome?]
You say he is very nice - could it be that she was being friendly in inviting him to the BBQ?
Bottom line, my online 'friend'...if she is going to stray, she is going to stray and there is nothing you can do to prevent it - that is if ALL is well on the homefront and you are holding up your end -
2007-03-19 09:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't seem to be as trusting and secure as you say. Talk to your wife and explain your insecurity and the reason for it. You may find you have a very understanding life partner who feels the same about you when you're away.
2007-03-19 09:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Grace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, would she be silly enough to bring the culprit over to your house to meet you? That would have to be pretty ballsy, although I gotta tell you that it would likely throw you off the scent.
Since she needs sexxing up a lot. Take her to the porn shop and get her into some toys and movies for her to play with while you're gone. You also need to make sure and totally satisfy her while you're home and make sure she's looking forward to the night you get home from business.
2007-03-19 09:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it looks like you are not secure with your marriage.and you say you trust her. at least she invited him to your house with you there for the barbecue and he brought a date so i think you are jealous and making more out of it than what it is. and also if things are good between you and your wife sexually then why be worried? just relax and be friends like i think your wife intended. keep the home fires burning and good luck.
2007-03-19 10:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋