he was hiding this fact, but i found out, i asked him so many times if they still have a contact, he told me that not,not not...
2007-03-19 09:31:48 · 32 answers · asked by flower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, run now not later. Call the wedding off. If he is hiding things from you now it will only get worse. What else is he lying about? Trust your self and your question. You need to hold off on getting married to this guy he is not ready to let go of his ex. You deserve someone that loves you and no one else!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-19 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh dear
he is probably nervous about getting married......a lot of people want to test the water before they get married for some reason as if to find out if they have made the right choice or are still fanciable etc. BUT this does not excuse blatant lies when you asked the question you deserved an honest answer. You need to sit him down and have a very serious conversation....he will probably be defensive he will probably try and turn it back on you as in jealous over reacting etc.....but he needs to talk.....if he is not prepared to listen and take this seriously....you have a problem and now is better to find out than after the marriage.
2007-03-19 21:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has started the relationship now with lies then what does he leave for the future? I think that you should get to the bottom of this before it gets worse and you marry him. This is your future you are talking about here you need to get answers before it is too late. Do the unpredictable visit the ex- girlfriend and find out what's going on because you don't want this to turn out to be an affair and you give to him your life and hand in marriage. Nag him about it a little as well most important find out because your life depends on it.
2007-03-19 09:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hid that from u. U need to ask ur self what Else is he hiding?????
If he is not doing any thing wrong then y doesn't he come up and tell u off the bat.
A good guy friend told me to day that if a man hides his cell phone or doesn't let u answer it they have some thing to hid.
U really need to think things threw and talk to him and her. Only there u will find Ur answer.
Good luck I really hope it turns out well for u.
2007-03-19 09:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for sure that he is texting his ex a lot and he has been lying about it what if he carries on hurting you when you are married? My husband has recently left me after 25years for a girl the same age as his daughter!! and that all started through texting and phoning in secret. Men are from mars eh? The main person in all of this is you. The best person to look after you is you. Please take care because the longer you are with someone the more it hurts.
2007-03-19 09:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know that he has been texting his ex and you want an explanation. If he denies it again, or tells you are wrong, tell him you are going to call off the wedding. Call his bluff, because if he is going to see his ex after you both get married, what kind of a marriage will you have. So clear the air now, get it straightened out now, otherwise bail out now before you have a sham of a marriage with his cheating with his ex wife.
2007-03-19 15:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that you ask the question give you the answer. Trust is the very basis of the marital relationship, so if you can't trust him going in, you don't have any kind of foundation to build on. I know calling off the marriage will be difficult to do since you probably have spent tons of money already, but better now that to spend all thet money and more then regret it later on.
2007-03-19 10:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rickster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it is time to put the wedding on hold! If I were your mother, I would rather you called off the wedding no matter at what cost. Talk to your parents and his you need to have a meeting about what he is thinking because he is not telling you the truth. Maybe he does not want to marry you, but is too afraid to say anything about it better safe then sorry.
2007-03-19 09:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious talk with him. Give him an altamatum( you or the ex.) If he's still texting her something is unresolved in their relationship. Make him decide before you marry him and end up with a cheater. Sorry to be blunt about it , but trust is everything in a relationship.
2007-03-19 09:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kim S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare marry this man. I swear text messages, internet, IM's,,,,,GEEZZZZ, it's so easy for people to cheat these days. It doesn't matter what he texts or why......the point is that he lied to you about it, so obviously there was something to lie about. Divorce is not fun at all, so don't put yourself in the position to go through it. Don't let anyone tell you that it's silly for you to be concerned over a text message,,,it's not silly at all!
2007-03-19 09:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋