My sister and I are really close, and She is the only one who knows I am a lesbian. and yesterday she walkd in on my best friend and I kissing. It is not that she thinks I am bad for loving (am I?) it is just that my friend is not out and she has never seen me kissing before. what should I do?
thanks for answers, but if you are rude I will report you.
*Hugs*
2007-03-19 09:30:57 · 19 answers · asked by Adrienne m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just so you know I am not threating anyone I just ont like being insulted, also The question is what should I do?
2007-03-19 09:36:57 · update #1
First of all, NO, you're not bad for loving. :-).
And as for what you should do... Talk to her about it. Find out if she's really okay with it. Sometimes it's easy to say you're fine with something ((like your sister being a lesbian)) and then once you see how it is in real life, you realize it's not okay. So talk with her and make sure she's fine.
Or are you talking about your friend? I've been in her situation--I wasn't out yet, but her parents caught us making out in her bedroom one day. I was really scared they'd tell everyone. So make sure your friend knows that you ((or you sister, hopefully)) won't tell anyone, if she doesn't want you to.
2007-03-19 12:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you and your Sis are really close so and she knows what it means that you are out only to her and not to anyone else, like your parents. So sit down and talk with her about your friend and explain that she shouldn't tell anyone about your best friend because she is not out to anyone but you. As far as what she saw, if you are worried that it might have bothered her to see you kissing with your friend then you can apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. You are not wrong for finding someone to be in love with and if your sister is truly understanding she will be happy to know that you have found someone who makes you happy.
2007-03-19 16:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by J J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you might talk to your sister and ask that she not say anything. I have a feeling, though, that your sister won't say anything if she's the only one who knows and hasn't blabbed to the world. But if your main concern is the fact that your sister saw you kissing... umm... that ain't no big deal. I'm sure you've seen her kissing guys. Did it disturb you a little? I'm sure that's how she felt too. Don't sweat it.
2007-03-19 16:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sinclair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your sister and see if she plans on outing your friend. Talking to her about your fears and feelings might make her understand what you're going through. If you think she could talk about it, ask her nicely not to say anything about it.
Also, you're not bad for being a lesbian. It's a completely natural way to be (despite what hateful others will tell you)!
2007-03-19 16:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by NacioHB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to the replies you have seen on here, you will probably be surprised at how little negativity you will get when you both come out properly. You don't want to live a lie for the rest of your life just to appease a few narrow-minded people who don't respect your choices.
2007-03-19 16:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by villafan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your sister that's what people do. It's a way to express the love you feel. I'm sure you kiss your sister on the cheek. That's a different love. That's all.
2007-03-19 16:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows the deal, she is obviously educated, tell her to keep quiet about the gal you were kissing. It is not a serious thing you fell into. It is normal for people to walk in on others making out. Be it gay couples or not.
2007-03-19 16:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Spay-n-Neuter-Your-Pets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to keep what she saw in confidence. She is your sister, sisters are supposed to keep secrets for one another.
And as far as "now hear..." goes, if there weren't people like her in this world, you and your friend wouldn't have to feel scared to be who you are in the open. Don't listen to these angry people, just do what you do.
2007-03-19 16:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by jjspike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on with your days. Maybe say something to your sister about keeping her mouth shut though since your friend isn't out yet.
2007-03-19 18:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first does ur sister understand what being a lez is all about, mi bro was the onli one who knew i am bi untill i decided to tell everi one, and he saw me kiss mani s, at first it was weird for him to accept, but after a while, he got used to it, he is even willin to share a room with mi bi bf,lol. so everithin should work out, jus let her know that u care but not too much
2007-03-19 16:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by shanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋