well yeah so one night i got raped by this guy and i have no clue at all where he is now soo yeah what should i do
2007-03-19 09:27:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well first am sorry about what happened to you and am glad ur keeping ur ababy i hope you and ur baby are fine
secondly to find ur babys father do a DNA test after the baby's born if his DNA is on the Database they will find him
Good luck
2007-03-19 09:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by *Delirium* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said whether or not you're planning on keeping the baby. Have you had prenatal care, and do your parents know. If you haven't told your parents you need to right away.
If I were you I would give the baby up for adoption. You can do an open file adoption so you can remain in contact with the child. 14 is so young. You have your whole life ahead of you. No one can make this decision for you and if you do decide to keep the baby remember that they are lifetime commitments. Children require a lot of work and time. You should definitely seek counseling either way. Good luck. Wish I could be of more assistance to you.
2007-03-19 09:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dana E 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would guess you need to decide if you want to raise the child yourself or think about adoption. As far as the guy is concerned I would think that telling the police might help you track him down and make sure he doesn't do that to anyone else.
If you want to raise the baby yourself I would encourage you to look for support groups and surround yourself with people who can help you. There is no reason you cannot go on and finish your education and provide a good life for you and the baby. But education is very important for that.
Anyway, I am sorry that you had this happen to you. I pray that you will have strength and courage going forward.
2007-03-19 09:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by zyllee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do your parents know? As a parent, let them know. Next, give the baby up for adoption. You are in no shape financially or physically to take care of a child. If you were raped, your parents won't be disappointed in you. I know this is probably really hard, considering your only 14 and having a baby. Everything happens for a reason, though, BELIEVE ME!
2007-03-19 09:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Katalina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three words for you:
Adoption, Adoption, Adoption.
If you don't know where to go, type "adoption agencies" into your search engine and add the name of your hometown or nearest big city. They will be thrilled to hear from you.
There are people out there who are waiting for your baby, to give it love and care and support without the "baggage" of being 14 and raped. They will never, ever look at that child with negative memories.
Please do this now.
2007-03-19 10:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that if you were raped then you should have called the police. If you're 8 months pregnant I'm sure your parents know about it. The only advise I can give you is that maybe you should think about adoption maybe within your family. You're only 14 you have your whole life ahead of you. You are in no position to have and raise a baby. If no one in your family wants to take on that responsibility then maybe you should keep it. It will be just a lesson learned. Good luck to you.
2007-03-19 09:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
When the baby is born tell the police and they will get a dna from the baby and they check it on a computer with every 1 in the United States. Police have every 1 on file maybe even dna.
2007-03-19 11:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Thanh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do now, being your 8 months pregnant already, give the baby up for adoption and get some counseling
2007-03-19 12:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should've called the police the day you were raped. Now you can't do anything about it unless you got a paternity test on the guy who raped you. You should've done this ages ago.
2007-03-19 12:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you feel like you can look after the baby and love it and raise it well then do that, if not put baby up for adoption and let someone else look after it. Depends on your own feelings really I guess, and I can't really help you on that one. Tyler - you can't have an abortion at 8 months.
2007-03-19 09:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i feel so sorry for u im 14 and i cant even imagine being pregenant uhhhh......... if i were u deffinentaly keep the baby dont ever give her up for addoption and make sure u finish school some how ill pray for u...... do ur parents now u were raped
2007-03-20 19:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by stephbvolley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋