My husband is 14yrs older to me,he doesnt seem to have interest in sex,he sleeps the moment he hits the bed.?

Question

we have been married for 5yrs,he s not romantic or sexy,he doesnt fulfill any of my expectations,at bed he has never satisfied me,he has pre mature ejaculation problem,even Viagra couldnthelp us,what can be next,i am still 24yrs,i expect atelast sum romance from him,he does nothing,he gives me only money,but i feel i need emotional attachment from him more than money.what can i do?

I tried all ways from dreesing sexy to even asking himopenly,sumtimes i go to a point where i undress in front of him n ask him to do the needful,but nithing happens,and he doubts me that i might have a relationship with sumone since he cant satisfy me,he always tells me go find an another person may be he will fulfill ur desire,i like him and i have a kid,cant divorce him cos of this kid,but my sexual desires go unanswered,i feel terribly upset.

Answer 1

You are absolutely right what will money do if you are not emotionally happy. Best course I will suggest you to consult some good sexologist rather then trying medicines such as Viagra yourself. A qualified medical practitioner is only who can suggest proper medical treatment & even the chemist are supposed to sell such medicines only on his proper prescription. Unfortunately we Indian just try our hand for all such things without any knowledge of the thing whether it is medicine or divorce which I find most of the people asking about here in this section. Both these things are harmful to your health if not implicated under proper guidance of a qualified person.

Answer 2

Thats fine, you need to full fill your sexual desire. Only other route left for you is to be his for all good sake and search a guy who could really understand you and satisfy on bed.
There is no other remedy to get out of this. Though it may sound some thing odd but its your indvidual matter and it would trouble you till the end. It has to be sorted out any how. You can have some that sort of relation with any one but surely be fully confident regarding that perticular person and avoid coming on any radar.
Bye
Have a good luck and enjoy

Answer 3

Don't hit the bed at 11:30 Pm. Go to bed may be 6pm enjoy each other & then get up & complete your work. Sex has not to be done when you go to sleep only.

There is no time fixed for sex it has to be at different places of house, different posture & at different different time.
If he is 14 years older it is good for you.because after 45 when you will loose interest in sex he will be very old to find somebody else. Other wise most of the divorces are between 45-50 because women looses interest in sex at that age & men still have lots of sex desire.
But one thing I will surely say live attractively,beautifully at home.

Answer 4

Viagra is used in cases of erectile dysfunction, not premature ejaculation. At 38, your husband isn't supposed to possess the vigour of a guy in his 20s. But he isn't too old to be totally dispassionate either. Take him to a renowned sex consultant and get him treated for his sexual deficiencies. If he is incurable, don't blame him alone. You shouldn't have willingly married a man 14 years older than you.

Answer 5

Try approaching him in the morning when he's fresh. you also might watch some sexy movies together, maybe try a product called sustain to prevent premature ejaculation if he can't keep "it" up maybe you could satisfy each other in other ways if you catch my drift. It's possible he feels in adequate to satisfy you so acts like he's now interested.

Answer 6

You can try in this way. Before going to bed with your hubby, dress in a seductive manner eg. a silky nighty or put on lacy undergarments. Apply some mild perfume, one which he likes. This may do the trick.

Answer 7

There are very effective treatment in the Ayurvedic & Unani systems of medicines, ointments, massage oils, jams, etc. Still if ineffective, divorcing & remarriage is more better than spoiling the whole life deprived of a natural physical requirement which may lead to extra marital activities which are too bad.

There is no concept of divorce in Hinduism. Hindu marriages are performed between their souls (not bodies) in heaven (not upon earth) in presence of 330 million gods and goddesses. Indian Government enacted Hindu Marriage Act in 1955 and created a chance for divorce to be granted by secular courts. Despite such legislations and courts' divorce judgments/decrees, their spiritual wedlock remains intact being eternal, everlasting and unbreakable even in future rebirths. Despite marriage with others after divorce, wife continues Ardhangini (half body) of her former husband and he continues her Pati Parmeshwar (Lord).

Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred or prohibited hence no offence punishable in any Indian law. Wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock or without her husband’s consent or connivance. Courts are bound to believe that all children born during the wedlock (or within 280 days of court's divorce judgment/ decree) are her husband’s legitimate ones. bound to maintain or pay them expenses; till sons are 18+ and daughters are married. Prostitution (commercial sex trade, offering sex for monetary gain) alone is an offence punishable in Indian laws. Yet no Station House Officer, Officer In Charge or Inspector of Police can arrest, enter, search or seize. All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), perverted & homosexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam in clearly written unambiguous words as great sin & heinous crime punishable with publicly lashing / death by pelting stones.

Answer 8

if he is unable to satisfy you then you should divorce him and find some more "suitable" life partner at shaadiya.com - 100% free matrimonial site with many features like email inbox, instant chatting, advanced search etc.

Answer 9

listen lady life is run byhard decisions either u put up with this *** or strike out on ur own find somebody file for divorce

Answer 10

You need to synchronise your clock to his, at 38 he is not old, so talk it out, you both need sex therapist (preferable- female mature and very good in the relationship counselling).