In regards to my question - I am in my 20's , Ive had 1 boyfriend (5 months) and 1 fling in my life - Ive never realy gone out on the limb... for anyone!!
A lil while back i was lookin at an album with a friend - and All my friends have someone - and have had someone for abt 1 yr aprox.
I dont, I just feel like crap... Last night my ex bf told me he hates me, and thinks i have lost my mind and stuff like that - its a question in my profile... a few q's below - plz read....
Today, my sister told me she'd rather never talk 2 me again, and wants nothin 2 do with me, we had a fight over somethin, and my parents also feel similar ....
I just feel like i am hitting rock bottom - and i seriously dont know what to do, Ive been cryin for over 2 hrs non-stop, and i am an emotionsl mess right now....
plz help and advice, - It just fee
2007-03-19 09:16:17 · 5 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe you are avoidant or something like that.
You need someone on your side.
You seem not to have that, and that can make anyone not go out on a limb for people, make anyone avoid the world.
You should have had support a long time ago, honey. Sorry to see that you're not getting it.
They left you isolated, it SEEMS to me, since you were young, and now you have a BF calling you crazy.
You have probably attracted another uncaring person into your world, based on the model of your family of origin.
You need people who are going to stand by you, not beat you down.
If you can get therapy, do it. You'll be better able to develop a social network taht works for you.
Don't take this all on yourself.
Every problem is 50% you, 50% the other party.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 09:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey casa !, it's m&m . forget all the psycho-babble you're reading. i'm sure you don't need a shrink, you're going through a rough time , it seems as though your ex set you off on this emotional roller coaster ride you're on. I have a 21 yr.old niece & she's gone through something very simular to what your dealing w/. One thing you should never do is take things that people say to you too seriously, especially when you're hurting deep down.It sounds like you need some YOU time , I know this might sound retarded but, crying can be good !, it let's you get rid of all the crap you've had to carry around inside., go out and do something for yourself , i know how girls LOVE to shop, may not be a bad idea!, bottom line is , you're feeling like an outcast ! BELIEVE ME I KNOW HOW THAT FEELS. SO DOES MY NIECE!! i think everyone does, but, right now you're feeling as though the whole world hates you , and that just ISN'T true!.The good thing about hitting rock bottom,..... is you always bounce back. have i put a smile on your face yet??? let me know!!
2007-03-19 17:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by m&m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as all your friends having someone and you not having someone --don't judge yourself by others actions/accomplishments-- doing this you'll be playing catch up your whole life.
And if so many people are shutting you out, you need to meditate on how important they are to you and if they have the best interest in helping you. You need to analyze yourself your life and maybe you need to make some changes... It doesn't sound like they don't want anything to do with you just because. Be honest with yourself, what is driving everyone away? Maybe you need professional help.
Crying is good, but you need to stop and think clearly... go for a walk to distract yourself --who knows maybe you'll find a live person to talk to. Being alone when you are this sad is not good. Hope this helps.
2007-03-19 16:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by dimplez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through changes in our lives that doesn't mean we are bad people. People that put others down and be little them are either envious or jealous of them.
Family is the one thing we all need in our lives. Talk to you sister and your parents and try to fix what ever it is that has gone wrong with your relationships with them.
As for your boyfriend, ignore him and move on. you are better than that to let him hurt you. You will find Mr. Right just not right now.
Chin up and walk into the world with a smile and be proud of who you are.
2007-03-19 16:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional Mess wont make you feel better at all. So please come out of it. Crying ? Crying, weeping never solves any problems or dilemmas, so don't cry.
Find a nice caring friend and be expressive and responsive to him. Life teaches everyone, so you will also learn to endure relationships for longer periods, just don't stress too much.
Don't hesitate to ask for a supporting shoulder if you need one.
2007-03-19 22:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋