How do I get my girl to start using birth control?

Question

We have been together for about 9 months. I've tried to talk to her about it and I even gave her the information to call the health clinic in the area. I told her there's the patch, the ring, and other forms of contraception, since I don't support the birth control pill. She supposedly was misinformed by a friend whose mother is a nurse. This nurse told her that once she gets on birth control she won't be able to get pregnant easily later on in life. She has never used it before in her life and we're both 23. We don't like using condoms, so that's out of the question. What should I do differently so that I can get this stubborn girl on birth control?

Answer 1

Find someone with a newborn baby and babysit it for the weekend... That ought to be enough to convince her.

Seriously, ask her to compromise and do some research herself instead of listening to what others say. Pills, patches or rings do not cause infertility... and any info resource will tell her that. Her friends mother may be speaking from personal experience and may have had other problems that prevented her from getting pregnant.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all I think you should know that the patch and the ring work the same way as the pill (they all release hormones that prevent pregnancy from occuring) so I don't know why you are against the pill but support the patch and ring. I also don't understand why you are against the pill at all. If it is for religious reasons you should research how the pill works and you will realise that there is no reason not to use it. Anywya, to answer your question, you need to explain to your gf that using birthcontrol will NOT make it more difficult for her to concieve in the future. When she decides to have kids she just has to stop using the birthcontrol and within a month or two all will be normal. I have a friend that got pregnant 1 week after she went off her birthcontrol and she had been on it for over 10 years. Good luck and make sure you use SOMETHING otherwise you'll be faced with a baby on the way and way more problems.

Answer 3

First, instead of just shoving a bunch of literature at her and sending her off on her own, offer to GO WITH HER.

There are other methods besides hormonal; she might want to look into the diaphragm or Lea's Shield (both barrier methods that when used with spermicides are pretty effective).

She should sit with a doctor and have the DOCTOR explain to her the risks and benefits of all the different types of contraceptives. And ALL of them are fully reversible.

And BTW, the Patch, Shot, Implant, Nuva Ring, and Pill are all basically the same thing....hormonal cycle control that prevents ovulation and/or implantation of a fertilized egg. So your argument is only 1/2 right.
Either way though, she needs to speak to a health professional and you need to be there for it.... Otherwise, you suck it up and use condoms, because the fact of the matter is, it is definitely HER body and you cannot force, trick, or emotionally blackmail her to do something she doesn't want to do.

Answer 4

Personally, I do not like "the pill" either, I don't feel as though it is as ... dependable. I can't tell you how to help convince your girl what to use, all girls are different, and she would have to consult a doctor to know what is right for her. But, I will tell you I use the patch and have for years now, I don't have to fear an unwanted pregnancy, I have not gained any weight or had any other negative side effects, and it's easy...wear a patch 3 weeks in a row, take it off the fourth week, this is the "period week". I love it, easy to use, easy to remember, and eases the mind. As far as how easy it is to get pregnant once the patch is removed, it varies...some women get pregnant immediaely as the patch is topical and does not stay in the system as some other methods do.Well, good luck!

Answer 5

Honestly, if she doesn't want to get on birthcontrol then refuse to have sex with her. Most women would do that to men if they didn't use a condom. She is just as responsable for it as you are, also meaning you should be using condoms. Not many like it, but it is one of the safest thing. You should both be taking responsability for this. Being 23 and not knowing the real facts about birthcontrol is pretty bad, honestly if that is the case she probably shouldn't be having sex yet then. All you can really do is be supportive, but make sure to stand by your conviction to. You don't want to be a father yet. And definatly, make sure to be responsible on your end also. You don't want an oops, just because she is being stubborn

Answer 6

Its not all about her being stubborn. It is her body and there is always a chance that it could be more difficult to get pregnant later on. You are being a little selfish in this situation, saying YOU dont like condoms so thats out of the question and YOU are against the pill so thats out of the question. It is HER body. You have to respect that. And the pill is the easiest form of birth control. She needs to make this decision for herself. You need to be a little more understanding and talk this out, compromise a little bit.

Answer 7

If she doesn't mind the fact that she could get pregnant then that is her problem. But if you are going to keep at it before you get married then I hope you are ready for the responsibility of maybe becoming a father. After all, its your fault too because you are doing this even though you know you arent protected.

Answer 8

you can't make her take the pill if she really doesn't want to, if you really love her you shouldn't pressure her into it. on the other hand, she really needs to get her facts straight. get her to talk to this nurse again or to go to her dr. gd luck xxx

Answer 9

well she prob. wants kids so she does not want to have trouble getting preg. so just let her do what she wants because its her lifE!!!!

Answer 10

Why don't you get whatever it is that they give to a man to stop him from getting a girl pregnant, if your so worried about it.