My 15 yo old boy and my 13 girl share our comp. The girl is a bit careless and made a mess in the boy's file, ended up deleting some Excel files of a course he's taking. He needed the files for today, couldn't recover them, so he had to do everything again, lost his Sunday afternoon. At first he got mad at his sister, but since it was and accident he calmed down and all he did was ask her to be more careful. They didn't even call me, everything was solved, and even my boy was happy because his new spreadsheets were better than the previous ones. But at dinner my girl talked about the incident, said her bro had been kinda nice and gave him a big hug. Apparently a happy end, but without think I said, Well, after all those files weren't that important. My boy got angry, said Mom, to me they are important, they are my work!. Got kinda hurt, lke I was was looking down on his course and on his efforts to learn. He' really resentful, isn't he overreacting? I just made an unfortunate comment
2007-03-19 08:57:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I said the files were'nt so important just because he was able to develp them again, whwt means he's intelligent and smart
2007-03-19 08:58:34 · update #1
try to ask for hiim to forgive you, but next time you should be more careful!!! im not trying to judge or anything but sort of keep mean or bad comments in your head!
2007-03-19 09:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Hot•Babe♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I like to tell my kids is accidents happen and you don't get in trouble when it's a true accident. Have you tried going into your computer and making a seperate section for your daugther and one for your son. Then have them password protect it.
As to the miscommunication, sit down and talk to him about it. He will understand. Tell him that you messed up in what you were saying to him and that you should have said it THIS WAY. Just food for thought.
2007-03-22 15:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by kogoinnutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just made an unfortuante comment. He was probably happy with the way things turned out and how he acted toward your daughter.
Maybe explain to him that on occasion parents make bone-head comments because we are human after all. Just tell him you made a thoughtless comment and you know it is important and play up how well he handled things with his sister.
I have kids and usually make one retarded comment to them a day....they are used to "Mom-isms" though. Lucky I started when they were young.
2007-03-19 09:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you, you have great kids!that shows good parenting skills! they solved the problem without you. That shows they´re intelligent and capable. My brother would have kicked my butt if I ´´accidentally´´ deleted his stuff. Just talk to him, tell him you´re not perfect, that it was a dumb comment you made. And he is not overreacting, he just got offended by your comment. Good luck.
2007-03-19 11:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by ?GlamourRock? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a bit distasteful what you said, but now start anew and let time heal. In a new light remind everyone to backup their files.
2007-03-19 09:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 09:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by zaragosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in denial ! Honestly you were not suppose to say that. He cared about his work dearly!
And p.s why don't you type in complete sentences?
2007-03-19 09:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That will teach them to save everything. BACK UP BACK UP BACK UP.
If they have their own files, this could have been avoided.
2007-03-19 09:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the grown-up, not your 15 year old son. I think it is you who is over-reacting.
2007-03-19 09:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by ropman1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This happens to most parents who don't know how to spell. =]
2007-03-19 09:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋