Y do filipina from philippines prefer foreigner but filipina from america prefer filipino?

Question

I'm just curious Y it is so much easier for a foreigner to marry a filipina in the philippines and why it is so much harder for them to marry the abundant amount of filipinas that are in america. Also I am wondering if that fact alone tells you anything about the marriages.

No rude answers please or I will report you. Also I asked a legitimate question and I asked it in a professional way.

I am not insinuating anything by asking this question. I need to clarify it though since someone has become offended. The reason why I am asking this question is because the last time I visited the United States and my white friends hung out with me, I introduced them to so many filipinas that were originally from pilipinas but somehow got thier residence there. The girls were not very friendly to them and in many cases were rude. When those same friends of mine visited me here I introduced them to filipinas and not one was rude. As they were getting ready to go back to USA they remarked to me that every single girl they met here was nice to them unlike the ones they met in USA. Not only that but they had so many girls giving them email addresses and phone numbers. They did not get one number from the filipinas in the USA. That is why I asked the question because those circumstances seem wierd to me. I am thinking that having residence & citizenship in the USA might change people...

Answer 1

filipina woman that live in the philippines wants foreigner so they can get out of here.and thats the fastest way to get out.not all filipina woman that live in the states wants a filipino man.i didnt!

Answer 2

First, I am a Filipina and I married my husband who's a caucasian. I'm actually already here in the states when I met him but we met online. I'm in NY and he's from another state. Anyway, to answer the question...Filipinas from the Philippines are most likely to entertain foreigners because it has been part of our culture. We were once conquered by foreigners that's why it's part of our culture as being hospitable.

Although, as some say, there are also other Filipinas who have other agenda like acquiring citizenship from foreign country, I don't agree this alone is the only reason and can be isolated with Filipinos alone. There are other nationality from other countries who have this same agenda to be able to get in the states.

The reason probably (although I cannot conclude) why Filipinas from the states are snobbish on other foreigners they met is because maybe they grew up in the states. This part of Filipino culture which being "hospitable" weren't emphasized in their family.

When I was in the Philippines, our family is very open in entertaining people in our house. Sometimes, my mom will just let a walking vendor of fish come in our house to give her a drink. But here in the states, of course...I don't think I can do that although I wish I could.

For some Filipinos, who didn't grew up in the Philippines but is already living in the states (someone like me). The reason they probably didn't entertain foreigners they don't know is because 1) they are probably in a relationship with someone else; 2) they are married; 3) they feel they have something already that other Filipinos in the Philippines don't have(which is stupid to think of); 4) the "hospitable Filipino culture" is totally loss because they are "westernized".

In conclusion, there are a gazillion of reasons on why your friends had that experience with a Filipina from the states and Filipina from the Filipinos, yet we cannot isolate alone that most Filipinas are just after foreigners for the citizenship purpose alone.

Answer 3

I am a Filipino American. Marrying a foreigner is the fastest means to get out of the country. It is every Filipinos dream to go to the US. They always think of America as an escape to poverty.

Filipinas in the US who have legal papers will prefer a Filipino while Filipinas who stays illegally in the USA will definitely want to marry an American.

Majority of the college students today take up Nursing since it is the easiest way to have an immigrant visa. Doctors are into the nursing course since they want to become immigrants in the US. There are more job oppportunities if you are a nurse than if you are a doctor. Agencies usually hire Filipino nurses abroad.

Answer 4

What you said is not a fair generalization...more like a biased opinion (based on localized observations maybe?). Filipino women, just like all women of any nationality, prefer men of the same culture (that's a universal sociological fact). At the same time, however, Filipinos are not ethnocentric and therefore are open to meeting & marrying people from other countries.

Did you say it's easy for a foreigner to marry a Filipina (who's still in the Philippines)? You're talking of the "mail order bride", right? Here's my take: This is a business arrangement and therefore falls under the category "buyer-seller relationship". Each party has a reason for entering into this contract and I believe it's no one else's business but theirs.

With so many Filipinas abroad (USA specifically), why is it harder for the Americans to marry them right here? Are they looking for us? Are they asking us? Modesty is still a strong virtue among Filipinas so we don't walk around with a sign "I'm Pinay, marry me" but we're not hiding either.

Filipinas in the USA prefer Filipinos? I don't know about that. Maybe it would just seem so because our inner circle of friends are mostly Pinoys. But I assure you if the right man comes along - Pinoy or not - we will give him due consideration. We are open-minded (as evidenced by our coming to America in the first place) and we will marry - foreigner or not - at our own terms and at our own time.

Inter-cultural marriages succeed or fail based on many factors in the same way intra-cultural marriages succeed or fail. In other words, cultural differences may or may not be a factor.

Yes, you did ask a legitimate question. And no, I'm not being rude. If I came across too strongly, it's because I'm not comfortable with your insinuations. Peace!

Answer 5

It has a lot to do with human nature.
You will find 99% of nationals, not just Filipino's, who move overseas try to stick with their own kind I suppose because there are then no language barriers, news from "home" is readily available just to mention a few benefits.
Most major cities have their enclaves of "China Town","Little Italy"etc.
As I don't know what you base your facts on for Filipina's in America being harder to marry than their counter-parts in the Philippines I cannot comment.
As for Filipina's in the Philippines being "easier" to marry I think that this may be the case as it gives them the golden opportunity of improving theirs' and their families' plight.
Some of these "marriages of convenience" do break up but a lot do not. It would be interesting to hold a census of these marriages.
"I am wondering if that fact alone tells you anything about the marriages" a little bit of innuendo-but OK.
"Also I asked a legitimate question and I asked it in a professional way." you certainly did-congratulations

Answer 6

This is a complicated question. People who "prefer" to date/marry people of only their own race/country are in my opinion just as pathetic as those who "prefer" to date/marry someone of a different race/country. When chosing a partner, you should look at the individual and not just a certain profile.

It's actually very sad to see people moving abroad and then staying in cliques of people from their own country, especially if they are young. I left my country15 years ago, and only know 2 other people from my country here in Manila (as well as other countries I have lived in). It's not because I avoid them, but also couldn't care less if I find them - it's kind of a non-factor. If I meet someone I like, I try to spend time with them - regardless of where they are from. Preconcieved notions of how "other people" are is a very bad thing.

It is actually quite difficult for a foreign man to meet a decent girl in the Philippines unless they somehow come with references. Many Filipinos have very bad opinions (in some ways rightfully so) of "foreigners" living in their country, to the point that they are worried about what people will think if they are seen in public with a "foreigner." Unfortunately the bulk of the unemployed/retired foreigners living in places like Pampanga, Zambales, and Mindoro (to name a few) have created the wrong stereotype for the rest of us. If a Filipino introduces you to their friends, you may be more accepted as not being "one of those" foreigners.

Answer 7

I think I undertsand your question.
I have been around filipino's in the states and native land filipino's. I know what you are talking about.

SOME stateside filipino's become arrogant and snobbish thinking that they are untouchable. They want to show that they are not poor,desperate and hungry for money and opportunity.
They think that people will view them as poor filipino.
I think the snobbish and arrogant behavior of filams make them unapproachable. I would not want to have a conversation with a filam because they have a chip on their shoulder. They have something to prove.
The problem is that everybody think too much of what others think of them. This is where the snobbish and arrogant mentality originated in the states.

The SOME of the filams with big money act real high and look down on people who are lacking. They like to compete with others with big houses and nice cars and other materials.

The Native land filipino's are very grounded and humble.
They know what life is about which is Love,family and survival.

SOME filams forgot what life is about. Its all about competition and who has the most assets.

I hope that I did not offend anyone because that was not my intention. I am just speaking from what I saw during my life journey.


I like your answer INDAY. You are correct and right on point.

Answer 8

Let's just say, it is the fascination for the unknown on the part of the Filipinas residing here in the Philippines.

And the realization of the truth on the part of the Filipinas there in the US. :)) .... that there is great disparity between the Family-inclined culture of the Filipinos and the individualistic culture of the Americans. Never the Twain shall meet.

Answer 9

Because generally those who live in the Phillipines are looking for an easier life in the West and one of the ways to achieve this is to marry a western/foreign man, but those who come to the West by other means find solace in hooking up with someone of their own culture and language in a strange land.

Answer 10

My wife is from Laguna and I am from San Diego. (No not the Navy management consulting) To be honest, she really did not like me much at first. She comes from a fairly well to do family there and had no interest in dating or marring an American. It was three years and I had to quit my job,(she would not date anyone who worked for the company) but in the end I won her over. When we told her friends and family they were shocked. She did not want to live in the states, she had a ten year multiple entry visa and could come and go as she wished. I guess the reason I won her over was my humor and charm.

The point is that you never know what a person will feel. Maybe your friends were cold to the American because of a preconceived notion, or maybe he was coming off blunt or gruff to them. Sure there is culture differences and there are some girls who only want to come to the states but I am most of them are not like that.