why do some single mother need a man to take care of their child?

Question

why when the baby father left they have to go look for some other men to give their child a step father why they cant just work and take care on their own

Answer 1

I would believe some women do it so they have more financial stability with two incomes rather than one. Also, it is better for the child to have a mother and a father (even if either isn't biological).

I'm sure there are some women who claim they just need a father for their child when in reality, they themselves do not want to be alone.

Answer 2

I think some women feel they have to have a man in their lives. They don't feel like a complete women unless they have a man in their bed. Society tells us (women) or you are perceive less than women if you don't have a man. It saddens me to say this but some women will be with abusive man just to say they have a man. It takes two to make a baby. It also take two incomes. A man and a female. I think a child should have two parents. Regardless if the man doesn't love the women any more. He should be in his child life. I am a single mother of one. Working, paying your bills, taking care of your child and doing school work is very hard. Sometime I need a break too but I can't take a break because I am a single parent. I am the mother and the father in my child life. I am his world. I'm not looking for another man to take care of my child but if he wants to be in my life. He has to accept my child. Luckily, I have good male figures in my son life: Male friends and uncles. A woman can't teach a male child how to be a man. I think some men need to manned up and be a father to their children. Some men like to make the baby but when the baby is born don't want to be a father. They leave the women alone to support the baby.

Answer 3

Most singlemothers do not have a degree. ecause of this their income is usually. low. When you add up the rent, food, heating bill, and what not it gets expensive. On top of that add the cost of the child maitenace as in the extra food, diapers and clothes plus the child day care. Me and my wife one time sat down and ran some numbers. If she where to work full time during the day shift and put the kids in day care she would only bring home about $100 dollars a month. Ths is because day care is expensie. Not only that but she would never see the kids. We found a work around this problem but like aything with some sacrifices. I'm a graudte with a Bachelor of science degree and a good job. Still, even with our incomes combines it is stil stough.

When I first met my wife she was a single mother and she had it tought. Here was the catch. She receive some government help which allowed her to pay the rent. However, the foodwas scarse. So, she decided to take a job. Well, with a job she automatically gets disqualified from the aid because she would make too much even at part time so, she had enough money for foodbut not for rent. So, the system punishes her for trying to get ahead.

I se a lot of people that look down on young women that are single mom. They look down on them as if they wher some street wh o re. These woman are human beings. Some of them are very responsible carying individuals just like most of us trying to make it in life. I always wonder how people canbe so cruel. Like if they wher better than others when in fact is the other way around. What kind of person kicks a person when they are down?

Answer 4

I'm not passing judgement by any means, but have you ever tried to care for a child? It is NOT an easy thing, particularly when you're trying to support a baby on one income. You're tired all the time and working all the time, all the while trying to love your baby. Being a mom is hard enough, being a single mom must be doubly hard. I imagine that many single mothers aren't that way by choice...like you mentioned, sometimes a man walks away from his part of the responsibility. I think it only natural that many women in this siutation want someone else, be it a boyfriend or husband or just a good friend, to share in the upbringing of their child. Children need the influence of a man in their life....it is so important, especially for little boys, to have the influence of a positive male rolemodel, and lots of moms feel this way.

Answer 5

A lot of mothers do but don't think there just trying to be happy while their being mom's too.....I mean cuz cuz there father stepped out of ther live's doesn't mean she has to stay single right??? There's some things a Baby's love can't give you that a man can....I just don't see why it's a big deal he left her not the other way around...Good luck with finding the answer your looking for

Answer 6

I don't see that happening all the time. I think you're just stereotyping single mothers. But some mothers do wish that their child could have a positive male role model. I dont' think they need a man to "take care" of them, as you suggest. Why do married people stay in unhappy marriages? It's the same thing; they're hoping to give their children the best they can, emotionally and financially. Unless they're putting their children's lives in danger, we have no right to judge.

Answer 7

I think a lot of women realize that children are better off in a two parent home--unfortunately, many of them don't consider whether a man will be a good father before making a baby with him. He splits and then she realizes she wants that baby to have a relationship with a father figure since it won't have a relationship with its father.

You sound like you got burned in a relationship with a single mom who thought you were father-figure material. Sorry about that.

Answer 8

i would assume that you are a man asking this question. i am a single mother of 3 and no i do not have a step-father for my children, however, if some of the men in this world stepped up and acted like a man when they have children instead of running off like a scolded dog then there would be no single parent, besides, who are you to ask such a question. i find it very rude to ask that when you probably have no idea what its like to raise kids on your own. so-i ask-why cant men just work and take care of their own instead of putting it off on a woman.

Answer 9

its not so much as them taking care of their own.these women may not like to be alone,but because they fill that way they are almost always finding the wrong type of men. Not all women are that way. iam happily married with 2 kids,and my husband is the provider.i do what im suppose to as a wife,but that dosent mean that ill except what he issues out.it aint gon happen! some women just think they need a man to complete them,thats not true. when they feel that way they always pick up on the wrong one. aint that somethin'?for a woman its ok to raise a daughter alone....but a son ..its hard because a women cant stand in a man's shoe(most of the time).most boys without a father grow up improperly.
some of them choose to be that way because there is child support.some women just don't inforce it.besize..the men don't have to pay it they'll just go to jail when they get caught.a lot of times if they get on welfare they go to jail even faster,the government hate giving up their money.

Answer 10

Sweetheart I raised my daughter alone for 12 yrs. He left shortly after she was born we divorced right after she turned 1 and I did not and DO NOT need a man to help me take care of my child. And if my marriage to my son's father fails you can bet your *** I will NOT need a man to help me raise him. I am a strong, educated, intelligent woman and no man can ever step in and do what I do