I am a virgin, 20 and he is 20 and not a virgin. We have only been dating a couple weeks but I dont want to rush into sex. I'm not very religious but I do not want to have sex with some random guy. One because I dont want to get pregant and have the guy leave. I want to have sex when I know it is a committed relationship that has the possibility of marriage. Is that asking too much for a 20 year old guy? How do I explain this to him bc I havent yet.
2007-03-19 08:18:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont love him yet obviously but hes a 20 year old guy and is gonna expect sex and I want him to know its not happening anytime soon
2007-03-19 08:26:24 · update #1
Please don't compromise yourself for someone that you have only dated a couple of weeks. You have waited it out this long, you will hate that you gave it up for someone that probably just want the "bragging rights" of being your first.
You can't possible love him already.
So, why would you do it?
If this is something that you won't to do, then fine, but don't let someone talk you into it, because you will be sorry that you were that weak later - Trust me!
2007-03-19 08:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For this guy, yeah. because he has been having sex with da other girls and he expected u to have sex with him already. But a guy who really loves u wont ask for sex, hell wait until u guys are married or have the talks about marriage to have sex and dont rush into things. Just tell him u arent ready yet and just give u more time. Things will run smoothly and lets just not rush into things and wait for the right moment.
2007-03-19 08:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by ohitsyou(= 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that making love to you is a very serious issue that you want to really know the man. That there are too many people that have sex without the forethought of an unwanted pregnancy, or the feeling of emptiness knowing that it didnt matter to the guy and that you emotionally gave of yourself before you were ready. Tell him you want to do it when it is leading to something serious and that is how you feel. It is not too much for a 20 year old, if he cares for you he will have to respect your views and you.
2007-03-19 08:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question you already know the answer. If you believed sex was the right thing to do...you would have done it without asking anyone. Think of the memory you would like to have. Even if this guy is your first it should be when you BOTH are ready...like when you can say you do love him. As far as telling him, I'm sure you heard 1000 times...if he's worth it, he'll wait until you're ready.
2007-03-19 08:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by susan64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're virginity is sacred and not something to be given away to just anyone. If he's 20 years old and trying to tell you that "this is the real thing, baby" or "You know I love you...show me how much you love me..", then he just wants what he cant get. If he really cares for you as a person he will wait until you feel comfortable and will not try to rush you.
2007-03-19 08:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a 25 year female and, from my past experience I would strongly suggest you wait until you are ready. If he cares about you, you shouldn't have to explain anything to him. By simply telling him you are not ready should be enough. I know his hormones are probably taking over his brain, but like you mentioned you do not want to be a single parent, OR catch something. Please remember that people may not know that they have something. Not to mention HPV which effects women most in the fact that it can cause cervical cancer. The test for cervical cancer is not fun either..... Hope you make the decision only when you are ready.
2007-03-19 08:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN!!!! Please save it for your wedding night. He's after
one thing and then he'll be gone. Kick him to the curb--he's not worth it & you
are worth more than a one night stand. You need to think about yourself & all
the consequences. I have known of too many that wound up with STD and
unwanted pregnancies. Hon, you have your whole life before you and you have
lots of time. I'm 65 and have seen the consequences of these kind of things. Our granddaughter took off and is living with some guy now. She didn't even tell her parents till after she moved out. They are devastated. We are concerned that if she gets pregnant, what will happen. I would love any child
she would have but it's better when you wait. I pray that you will listen to the
advice of this Grandma of 8. I've seen a lot through my life.
2007-03-19 08:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You are not asking too much. And you are very smart not to jump into a sexual relationship. If more women were like you, we wouldn't have such a problem with unwanted children, broken hearts and broken marriages. You stand your ground, and if he is the one for you and if he truly loves you, he will wait. If he isn't willing to wait, then honey, dump him quick. If he doesn't respect your feelings now, how will he treat you later on.
2007-03-19 08:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by sarge 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him..and if he leaves you because you wont have sex with him then you would noe what he was in for...just dont fall for what he says..and let him change your mind on things..stick to what you beileve in..but if he leaves you becuase of that then find a man that will stay with you and understand how you feel and will respect you demands ♥
2007-03-19 08:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by *.::♥Alissa♥::.* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not asking for to much. Stand by your convictions. If he is worth it he will wait. If he is not then he will move on. Sex should not be the foundation of any relationship. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-19 08:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋