My friend is mad @ me because this boy that she likes alot doenst like her but me and him are friends. Close friends. And she think i like him but she wont believe me when i say i dont have feelings for the boy. He and I have talked about it and he knos i dont like him but she refueses to listen to both of us. So im ready to give up on mine and hers friendship becase wat is a friend if you cant trust. Ive known her for a year now. She's meet my family. Ive meet hers. We've lived together. I love this gurl like a sister but i wont stand for her calling me a lier...what should i do?
2007-03-19 07:58:47 · 11 answers · asked by Ronnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I dont think you need to end your friendship over it. Just let her cool down and dont even bother to talk about it. Just be like look this is how it is and if you dont want to believe me thats your deal but I've had enough of the whole thing and ready to move on from it. Then tell her that yall can hang out and everything be good but if she mentions any of that then you rather not have her around until she gets her mind straight.
2007-03-19 08:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know that it hurts your feelings for her to be calling you a liar. Especially if you both have known this boy for a while. If you have, then obviously you don't want him if you haven't pursued him. She is worried and don't believe you because she likes him so much. I would just flat out tell her that she is your best friend and you would never do anything like that to her. but if she can't trust you then you don't have a friendship and that you don't want to tolerate being called a liar. Sometimes there is no beating around the bush. you just have to call it like you see it. You have tried to reassure her, now you just need to tell her like it is. I would also ask her if this boy is really worth her friendship with you? see what she says.... you will always be there for her, he may not.
2007-03-19 08:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by cool girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether you like this guy or not. If he likes you, that is not something you can control and it's not your responsibility. You can't control anyone but yourself, right? It is unreasonable for her to be upset AT YOU for this. It's OK for her to be upset, though. You can express to her the you are sorry she is hurting and you are sorry he likes you instead of her (but not sorry for who he likes because that's not your responsibility). You can tell her that there is nothing you can do about this and tell her that if that isn't good enough for her, you will stop contacting her. Tell her that if she is not going to believe you, then maybe she hasn't considered you a friend if she can't trust you. You can say you don't want to loose a friendship over something stupid like this, but that you are willing to because being put in a situation like this is unfair and there is nowhere to go when backed into a corner.
This way you say your peace, lay your boundaries down, remain respectful, and let her decide what to do about it - she can call you or not, but the ball is left in her court.
2007-03-19 08:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to seperate yourself from certain friends, if she is a true friend time will heal this issue between you and you will meet up in the future and your friendship will still be there. Sometimes you just have to let people go, I have had to do this with many friends, some have come back and some havent. Hopefully in your absence she will realize how silly all of this is.
2007-03-19 08:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when to end a Friendship when your friend has her priorities messed up. But to really end a Friendship that you love so much....you better have a good dang reason or you might never get a chance to fix it. So fix it now if you can. Try Talking.
2007-03-19 08:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by jessica c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sounds like everyday life....stuff like this happens but u cant let it worry u.........as for right now...You've let her know the truth about everything and you don't like him and he doesn't like you plain and simple....let her know that and give her some space...don't talk to her for a while and let those feelings she's having subside...later she'll realize that it's stupid to angry period especially over a guy....keep being her friend but give her space so she can think about how childish she's acting...SHE WILL COME BACK TO U WHEN SHE NEEDS A FRIEND
2007-03-19 08:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by cool kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have become more mature than she is and you have outgrown the friendship! maybe you need some time away from her for a while, to see if she is really a friend, if she starts talking about you behind your back then you know she is not worth your time!
2007-03-19 08:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel her that if she dosnt stop with this you are going to stop being friends becasue you hate being called a lier and tell the kid she likes to ask her out.
2007-03-19 08:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him to at least try dating her. Give her a chance. She just fustrated that why the comment was made.
2007-03-19 08:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know its time to end a relationship when you start asking that question on yahoo questions, think about it.
2007-03-19 08:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by rockerjon2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋