2007-03-19 07:39:15 · 23 answers · asked by james l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Same thing going on with my wife. Has her phone locked, takes it with her everywhere, etc. Every time I turn a corner seems like she is stashing her phone. Thought about snatching it when she is sleeping and try to get in it but haven't yet.
If your wife is going to all the trouble to hide all of this then it is one of two things... she has innocent text and phone calls that she fears you would think the wrong thing or she has something to hide. Tell her that she has nothing to fear if everything is on the level, that she is aloud to have friends and that there is no reason to hide things from you. Hiding things only create bad thoughts and distrust. Chances are good that she has made friends with someone and fears you not condoning it or accusing her of it being more than what it is.
In my case, mine is cheating and I'm on my way out. If that is in your case, then you have already lost her, time to stop thinking with your heart, start thinking with your head and let the games begin!
Good luck
2007-03-19 09:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter what she sent? Divorce is now a no fault kind of thing, like car insurance. You don't have to prove it. You don't trust her, so just end it without getting into the details. You're only hurting yourself by delving so deeply into it. It will all go more smoothly if you just get out quickly and quietly without all the drama. Unless of course you aren't positive that she's cheating and you are just fishing.
Do you plan to forgive her and get into counseling? If that is the case, she might be willing to come clean and tell you everything you want to know, but if not, I would just let it go and get the divorce. There is nothing healthy in knowing the details.
2007-03-19 07:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are prepared for what you go looking for, I suggest you not go snooping. If you know she's cheating, try the direct approach. I always like to lay it out there, but again be prepared. You may find that you thought you were ready to see and read what she sent, but in the end may have been better off knowing. Think about it some more and then if you must know, ask her if she's cheating or guilty and tell her to let you see what she's sent. Don't be sneaky it's not worth the anxiety.
2007-03-19 07:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not let you go near her phone in the first place then that right their is something to worry about because she is obviously hiding something from you...
Does she ever leave her phone or does she take it with her everywhere even to the bathroom?? If that is a yes then you should worry...
Depending on the cellphone provider you can jump onto it's site and it will show you who and what she sends, as for the text messages, they will not show on the site, only on her phone if she hasn't deleted them...
If she is hiding things from you then she has probably already deleted them from her phone..
Be straight up ask her what you need to, if she denies it try asking her to provide proof then ask her if you can see her phone if she denies that then you need to leave her..
Marriage is based upon honesty, trust, love, and being faithful to that one person if she cannot be honest with you, if you cannot trust her, if she is not being faithful then what the hell do you have??Why stay in that marriage? you will only get hurt!
2007-03-19 08:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could check the phone bill. Pics are more to send so the charges to certain #'s will be higher if she sent a picture. But there is no way to see the picture unless you check her phone for the saved ones.
2007-03-19 07:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-19 07:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple... take her phone and lock yourself in the bathroom. If you pay the phone bill, then you have every right. In fact, if she's so bold as to cheat with the phone you proveide and pay for, freakin ask her!!! You have every right to ask and get a truthful response. If she gets defensive or ignored you, then DING-DING-DING!!! She's a cheater!!! Any faithful person who is accused of cheating will have no problem with a misunderstanding and clear it up in a good manner. Good luck!!!
2007-03-19 07:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure about this?
Well you can find what she sent if she hasn't deleted her out coming messages.
Check the phone bill to see to whom those were sent.
But I really believe you two should talk.
2007-03-19 07:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you can go into the history section of the text folder or picture folder. If she's deleted them, I don't know if there is a way to retrieve them. Good luck to ya.
2007-03-19 07:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kewpie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe get a hold of her cell phone when she's not around? there should be a "sent messages" section under text
2007-03-19 07:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋