After 17 years of the best years of my life, my wife left to see another man for a week. We are now back together and things have never been this good! I know she had sex with this guy at least 3 times, but she said it wasn't enjoyable? I am having a really HARD TIME getting over this! It has only been a week now since she came home and I Love her Soooo much......How can I cope with this? I wish I could just forget about it! I will do anything to keep our family together and I believe she will too, but I can't get the vision out of my mind?
Please help!
I cannot dump her...I love her! This happened because I was depriving her of the attention and affection she craved. I now know what she needs. I have already forgiven her, I just need to get that vision out of my head.
I would never consider Divorce.....No one has any idea how much I love this woman...I would die for her in an instance! We have two kids and I just want to be a happy family again and to please my wife.
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2007-03-19 07:38:26 · 7 answers · asked by frank b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just came from the doctors office where he gave me some Lexapro to try for a week? I feel like I'm having a nerveous break down. I just want to get thru this. I know most of this is a repost but I dont know how to update the original post.....sorry!
2007-03-19 07:40:35 · update #1
Sheesh... what she put you through! Make sure you are tested for STDs and HIV/AIDs. That might put your mind at ease some.
NOW LISTEN - her cheating has NOTHING to do with you - it did not happen for ANY of the reasons you told us - none of them! She was selfish, immature, and did the cheating out of her own petty reasons.
You will only be comfortable with her and the situation once again when you talk this all through, sounds like counselling will help. You may never forget, though.
2007-03-19 12:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard not to think about it, and it is easier said than done, but you seriously need to try harder. Think of it this way, you obviously make her happier than the other man because were is she (with YOU). It takes two people to run a marriage, it is not ones fault more than it is the others so you both made mistakes. You didn't make her cheat, and she didn't make you not give her the attention that she needed. If things are going good now, just roll with it!
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 08:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put up with my now ex-husband cheating on me for a while. I loved him alot and wanted to make things work. He refused to seek marriage counseling though. Maybe you and your wife could try that. Marriage is usually a strong bond. But she shouldn't of went with someone else for a week. That really doesn't help things. Don't know anything about medication...sorry. I would just suggest a nice hot cup of coffee and some pastries!
2007-03-19 08:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by wrong12ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CrAzY is when all reality is thrown out the window. When you don't give a *hit about what the consequences are to your actions. When you purposely do something that could get yourself in deep trouble or potentially hurt you or someone else. Crazy is Crazy no doubt.....but without craziness theres no fun & no rush.....what do you do.
2016-03-29 06:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to talk w/ a counselor or a pastor! This is going to be a long process. This is not just going to leave your mind right away because you forgive her. Try not to think about it as much as possible. Find things to do when the thoughts comes to mind. Always keep busy. And you can also pray!!
2007-03-19 08:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooooooooh ....i didn't hear some man talk like these at his wife but in the movies....u r so nice man............just stop thinking about these the more u think about it the more the vision stick on ur head....thinking in ur new life and how u will work with ur lovely wife to be the most happy family.....think a bout the kids ...about things will add the joyful into ur warm house....
every one made mistakes in his life ...u made mistakes and she made mistakes ...and when it came big it's just still mistakes.......and believe that when anyone do a mistake he never meant to do a mistake ..he do it because he think these will fix the bad situations that he is in...these is how all mistakes come.......so stop thinking about the past and keep going on ur new life ...never look backward.....u r so nice man..........good luck
2007-03-19 07:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by batt00ta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your dr for clonopin. it takes 6-6 weeks for lexapro to work.
2007-03-19 07:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by pjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋