First off, Congratulations!! :)
I have a 2 1/2 yr old son and now also a 4 month old son. The biggest challenge I have is getting any cleaning or cooking done! Every time I try to get something around the house done, one or both of them need my attention. My older son now has to wait for me to be done nursing the baby or changing the baby to do things with him. He doesn't resent the baby, thank goodness... I let him "help" with the baby and I let him hug and kiss him whenever he wants (unless he is overzealous and starts to hurt/annoy the baby).
I think it will get easier as they get older and can occupy each other, but it is a bit of a juggling act when the baby is small.
2007-03-19 07:09:26
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answered by Kynthia 2
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I'm in a similar boat. Although, my "first" baby also produced a second, lol (identical twins). So I don't know what its like to only have one child. However, I am pregnant again and I'm nervous. My girls will be about 21 months when the new baby gets here. My main concern is jealousy. While my girls have always had someone else "competing" for mommy's attention, this will be something new. Over the weekend I held and played with my cousin's 9 week old. Man, the girls were jealous.
Don't stress though. Your daughter is at the age where she can help Mommy. That's awesome! Just be prepared in case this one is a wild child! My twins can be as different as night and day sometimes. One easy going and one a terror. But the more the merrier. Best of luck mamma!
2007-03-19 15:27:19
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answered by duckygrl21 5
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I asked myself the same question when I got pregnant with My second child. At the time my daughter was a few months away from turning three, know she is three in a half, and my son is going on four weeks old. I didn't think is was going to be that much different, but it is. My daughter completely changed about one week after bring the baby home and she realized the baby was staying. She keeps doing bad stuff so my husband and I will notice her. Don't get me wrong we spend as much time with her as possible when the baby is napping. But for her that still is not enough, considering she had all of are attention before the baby. All I can tell you is that when the baby comes. Just involve her with things you are doing with the baby, like when you give the baby a bath have her help, and after the bath have her help you pick out the clothes and help dress him/her. I am doing this with my daughter and she has stopped doing bad things as much but ever once in a while she does. Hope this help.
2007-03-19 14:31:02
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answered by Brenda W 1
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I am a mother of two children a 2 year old and a three year old! It is by no means easy! But its different with every parent and child! The best thing to do is keep your 3 year involved as much as possible! Elimate the jealousey factor as much as possible! Like if you need a diaper ask your older child to get it for you or throw it away! Or even help feed the baby! It is tire some like i said by no means easy! But if you are strong you will make it through! Just remmeber patients is a virtue!
2007-03-19 14:07:59
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answered by ? 3
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I didn't really see a huge change with #2, it is kind of like been there done that. I think each child gets a little easier and we as parents tend to relax a little more each time around. Don't get me wrong there are challenges but nothing major. You will find yourself a bit busier, a little worn out and at times a bit scatter brained. Just make sure to keep a schedule and remember to have special time for your 3 year old! Good luck......
2007-03-19 14:04:44
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answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7
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Hello and congratulations!
I know how you feel. I was nervous, too. My DD was almost 4 when my second was born. Be prepared for jealousy or not wanting cuddles when you have time and wanting cuddles when you have to do something for the baby. I still have this issue, and my son is now 13 months old!
It gets overwhelming sometimes, especially when you are the main caretaker and don't have a whole lot of help, but it is also very fulfilling watching your children develop individually and as a family unit. My DD gets jealous of her little brother still, like I mentioned, but she is also very protective of him and loves him to pieces.
2007-03-19 14:04:03
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answered by MamiZorro2 6
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We're in the same boat. I heard that 2 is easier than one for some reason. My daughter will be 16 months when the second is born and I think that is perfect because we're still in "baby mode." Everyone I've talked with who has child spaced similar to yours says that they would have rather had them closer together or further apart. The hard part so far is being pregnant and so tired with such an active kid at home. Some people say I have it easy, but I got pregnant when she was 8 months and she started walking at 9 months, so I really haven't had a break. At least your little one can communicate. Good luck.
2007-03-19 14:01:38
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answered by happymommy 4
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Complete Chaos at times.
It's difficult going from 1 to 2, but it is also very enjoyable as they get older - watching them play and scheme up things to do together. It's great for children to have siblings!
I have 3 kids - it's a little bit more hectic but honestly not bad!!
You'll survive. You will find ways/techiniques to do almost everything that was once easy with one child.
The first might also get a little bit jealous - just work though that and explain that there is enough love for two babies now.
2007-03-19 14:30:09
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answered by Anonymous
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I have 4 under 6 and one on the way. It's an adjustment from 1 to 2 because you have given yourself completely to one little one and then you find yourself in the position of having to take care of two at once and you have to tell one to wait. It's hard because you want to scoop up the crying baby on the first cry, but then you're other one might have a nose bleed or be vomiting and you have to take care of them first. It can be a challenge, but it's certainly not impossible. Impossible will be doing it with 5 kids and keeping my sanity! LOL
2007-03-19 14:04:34
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answered by Heavenly Advocate 6
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There's 3 years 4 months between my kids. Even though its twice as many kids, its not twice as much work. My son is such a great helper with the baby too. He's eager to fetch a burp cloth and pick out clothes for her. When she starts to cry he'll turn on her mobile and sing her songs and try to cheer her up. He also likes to help give her baths--he gets the "bottom half" (her legs) and I get everything else. Plus, I'd forgotten how much babies sleep at first so it really helps you ease into having two of them.
2007-03-19 14:04:37
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answered by Heather Y 7
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