I may be Pregnant And I am Very Young....?

Question

I Am 13 And Kinda got pushed to have sex wid my boyfreind But hes so gawguz and i may love him but thats it we kinda got the condom stuck inside me we got it out and it looked like it had no cuts but maybe we was wrong i feel all weird inside and my boobs are abit sore what do you think?

Answer 1

I think you kind of got tricked into sex, and lost the gamble. If you just did it, then you could try the Morning After Pill. If it's been at least five days you can take a pregnancy test.
If you're pregnant, your life as a child is gone - get ready to be a mother. At least you can't get any more pregnant for some months.

Answer 2

firstly, well done to both of you for being sensible enough to use a condom!

but...
this is why all us grown-ups go on about waiting til you're a bit older before you have sex :) as you've found out, even using a condom isn't going to guarantee that there's no risk of getting pregnant or getting STDs... things can go wrong. part of being mature enough to start having sex is being mature enough to face the consequences when it does.

mostly, when this happens it's because the condom comes off as the guy pulls out - like he pulls out of the condom as well as out of you? and if you can just get the condom straight out, then you should be safe enough.
however, if you got the condom stuck inside you, then it means that his penis might not have been in the condom all of the time that he was inside you. you have no real idea of knowing when this happened... even if it looked like all the sperm was inside the condom, it doesn't mean that you didn't get some inside you - he would have had sperm on his penis - and if it had got all bunched up inside, then some could have escaped.

when is your next period due? it could just be that you are getting some PMT signs with your sore boobs and feeling strange. you've just had sex for the first time. it's a new thing for your body to deal with, new sensations that will make you feel a bit odd.

you do need to deal with this, though. if you are pregnant it's not going to go away just by wishing or avoiding it, and the longer you leave it, the harder it gets :)

if it was in the last day or so that this happened, you can go to your doctor and get the morning after pill. they should give it to you without telling your parents.

if it was a few days ago, then the best thing to do is wait until your period is due. your period might be late even if you're not pregnant, because if you're scared or tense then it can delay your bleeding starting.
if it doesn't come, you should get a pregnancy test done. you can get one at your doctors, or you can buy a home kit from the chemists. they are not really accurate until about 2 weeks after you get pregnant, as the hormones that they detect don't start to show properly until then. so a negative test in the first week doesn't necesarily mean that you are not pregnant. if you get a negative, and your period still doesn't come, do another test a few days later. if you are showing negative in 3 weeks time, you're pretty much sure to be ok. you're so young that your periods have probably not settled into a pattern yet, and your sexual experience could have just disrupted your cycle.

if you get a positive, then you're going to have to tell your parents. tell them as soon as you can, cos the more time you have to decide what to do about it the better... you could tell another adult first if you are scared of how they'll react, and maybe get them to be with you when you tell your parents.

and PLEASE don't let yourself be pushed into doing anything you don't want to do. it's not very repectful of your boyfriend to do that to you, and it's sure not the way to get someone to love you (i made that mistake when i was young...).
and remember, just cos you've done it once, doesn't mean you have to do it again!

Answer 3

I know its too late to turn the clock back now, But your worth more then that. Dont give your body away just because some guy wants to use it .

Your only 13, you have your whole life ahead of you. Well, that is if your not pregnant. If you are, the best thing might be to give the baby up for adoption. If it was my daughter... I would raise my grandchild, I would involve her but oversee it all the way..... Always let the child know who its mommy was, and raise a beautiful child.

However either way you need to get a test and be check out for STD's. And DONT repeat this mistake....... You have all the time in the world. If you were asked I would bet you didnt enjoy the sex all that much. When your body matures, and your with the man you truly love, Sex will be really good, until then just wait. Good things come in time.

But you need to find out if your pregnant NOW. Feeling icky and sore boobs are a good sign. You cant wait. It will be hard but mom wont stay mad because she loves you. Now she will stay mad at your b/f im sure !!!! I know I would be.

Answer 4

Sweetie, get yourself to you local family planning clinic and get a pregnancy test. If the condom got stuck inside when he pulled out then it gave you no protection at all, whether is split or not.
I would also strongly sugget you speak to your parents asap. I have a 13 year old daughter and, as much i hate the thought that she could ever be pregnant and would be hugely disappointed, i would rather be there for her then for her to go through it alone.
However, sore boobs and weird feelings could just be a sign of your period coming.
Also, ignore everyone that has left nasty comments that will not help you. They are judging you when they do not know you.
Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm sorry about all the unfeeling, stupid answers you got to this question.
I understand how easy it is to cave to the pressure, you are being fed the sex-message day and night by peers, TV etc. The question is, now what?
Now, you go to the doctor and find out if you really are pregnant. If you are, there are lots of organizations who can help you. You are way too young to be a mother but that doesn't mean you should kill the baby, the baby didn't ask to be brought to life but now he/she is, don't take their life. Get some help.
I can understand if you're afraid to talk to your parents; go to the school nurse or a friend's mum that you trust, to get some help. You will need some adult backup. Your folks are *going* to be upset, but if you can make arrangements for the pregnancy and adoption of the child, you will have saved an innocent life. A lot of the right-to-life organizations have places you can stay and still attend school etc. if your parents are angry enough to want to throw you out or threaten you with harm.
Look in the newspaper or on line to find the nearest organisation to where you live. They will help and be kind and supportive, which is what you need right now. You already know you made a mistake--don't make it worse.

Answer 6

if you got pushed into it then you were raped and you should never be forced into it . anyway all you can really do now is sit and wait unless you had it in the last 72 hours then you could try the morning after pill avalable from walk in centers or your doctor if it was more than 72 hours ago and your periods are regular wait until you period is due and if it dont come then take a test or see your doctor.

was this yours or your bf first time? if it was then you could be feeling abit weird inside because of that and if it was your bf 1st time then it is very unlikely he come inside you.

good luck with everything and remember DONT EVER BE PUSHED IN TO SEX AGAIN AND ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!! let this be a lesson to you if your not.

Answer 7

if he pushed u into sex then i'd think twice about him sweety. sorry. i kno u think u love him (i thought i loved my bf when i was ur age, now he's in prision 4 attempting 2 kill his wife...nice huh?) but please don't sleep with him again!! and how'd u manage to lose the condom inside u!?!? lol, sorry. i was always wondering is taht was possible, now i kno. anyway, best thing? go get a home pregnancy tester kit. do it at a friends house if u dnt wana do it at home, or better still in the shop u buy it in (like tesco's loos) no chance ur parents will find the box or kit so they won't find out either way.
your only 13 so sore boobs are normal, ur about to have one heck of a growth spirt!! but, its also a sign of pregnancy. i'm 8 months pregnant now and oh my dear god did they hurt at first!! if it gets too bad, get a cabbage, plonk it in the fridge for a while, then rip a couple of leaves out n plonk 'em in ur bra. sounds silly but trust me, REALLY helps!
u will feel weird inside because it was ur 1st time, lemme guess, u kinda hurt dwn below? its normal for your first time. i felt like someone had just shoved a tree trunk up me and couldn't walk normal wiv my 1st!!

i'm sure u've got LOADS of people having a go at you on here, but hey, u kno ur young, and at least u had the sence to use protection!! just..went a bit pete tong thats all. oh, n if the condom got a lil lost in u, chances are some sperm escaped. if its in u then it don't need a cut in the top as it'll just spill out. i hope ur not pregnant, purely cuz it'll ruin ur education and i don't ur 'rents would be best pleased (i'm 20 and mine aren't!!) but, if u are, actually, evn if ur not and u just wana babble about how u feel abt this boy, or how he forced u into it or anything, just email me k?


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Answer 8

ok, first things first...go to your local family planning centre and get the morning after pill...this is affective for up to 72 hours.

Then talk to someone close to you that will understand, perhaps a cousin? No need to tell your mum unless you are.

Next is to pray that you come on your period, if not then i suggest you take a test-from the doctors or get a home test if you don't feel comfortable enough.

If you are...tell your parents! They will support you in whatever you choose to do!

You shouldn't be pressured into doing anything! Its against the law for you to be having sex at the moment anyway, but there no need banging on about how you shouldn't have, because you have. Just please wait until your old enough next time, because you don't want to have to be going through all this again do you?...plus it will feel so much better if you wait!
I hope everything turns out ok for you x

Answer 9

for one you should not of rushed into having sex unless you are ready for one and yes i would say you could be pregy but they is a higher chance that you are not and it is more likely it's just your age and your body changing into a lovely young lady as your boobs dont stop growing untill you are 21.
the best thing to do is take a test and hope for the best if you are pregy you are gonna have to take a long old think of your choice to can make by keeping it or not. but always remember you are still young and you have got lots to learn yet and there is alot out there to see before you settle down.
by having the it (if you are) you can still do the same things but it will take you longer and remember try not to be another satistic on the teenage mum in britain as i'm one and sometimes it aint nice but i have had to work really hard at life to g et where i am today
all the best to you and hope you find out really soon and put yourself on the pill you can get in at family planning clinics if you dont want your mum knowing

Answer 10

first thing you need to do is to tell your mum.she will be there for you trust me Hun. the longer you leave it the harder it will be.i was 15 when i fell pregnant and my mum was there for me. i hope you take my advice and let me know what happens good luck keep your head up and tell her. and i would like to Say to some of the answers she has been giving.That yes she has made a big mistake but she has come on her to ask on what to do. i was pregnant at 15 and my mum helped me through it.that was 5 years ago now and my son is lovely.I'm not saying for her to keep it or to have a abortion but she just needs some advice..