Please help. I know this is terrible but my husband and I were trying to get pregnant and succeeded. The bad part is I had a couple of "encounters" with an ex I can't seem to get over. He pulled out every time very prematurely but my husband came fully inside me on my fertile days. Who is more likely to be the father?
2007-03-19 06:39:06 · 32 answers · asked by Jack in the Box 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Either one. Pre-*** can get you pregnant just as easily as "full ***." You'll need to get a DNA test done on the baby.
2007-03-19 06:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
first thing is first. does your husband know about your encounters with your ex?
Secondly, it's more than likely, if you're keeping track of your fertile stage (which appears to be you are), that your husband is the father of the baby.
However, it's possible that your ex may be the father as well. Even though a male pulls out each time, there's still precum, which carries sperm, that is released from the penis. Different males have different amounts, but even the slightest bit could mean something.
Sometimes women aren't always fertile at the same time, but like I said. It's more than likely that your husband is the father.
In the mean time, I'd suggest you stick to your husband, and not with other men.
Good Luck.
2007-03-19 06:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kiri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I am sure you get the picture of most people's opinion of your actions, I will refrain......you should learn the meaning of that word, especially when you are ttc with your husband.
I think your best bet would be to come clean with your husband, and soon! What will he think when this baby is born if you don't tell or test DNA and the child is born obviously not looking like the two of you, or worse looking more like your ex?! I had a friend that his wife cheated, became pregnant and noone knew until they were in the delivery room, Proud Daddy came around to cut the cord and gueess what? The child was obviously NOT his, it was of a different race! It was the worse blow to him. Not necessarily the racial aspect of it, but going from being so overwhelmed with joy only to be heartbroken in the same instant. He will never be able to enjoy any other woman and their pregnancy again! Tell, Tell, Tell, the deed is done, now you have to face the consequences.
2007-03-19 07:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you neva know who got u pregnant because the guys that pull out fast have some very fast sperm swimmers and you shouldn't let ya husband do that 2 u anyway not unless it's planned. And when u have the baby and ur still not sure just go on Maury and have a DNA test done!!!! And maybe u would not have this problem if u would just stick wit 1 man!!!!!
2007-03-19 07:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are no guarantees in life... especially when it comes to babymaking! Sperm CAN BE and usually is present in pre-***, AND can live inside of your body for up to 72 hours after intercourse if conditions are good (meaning, good cervical mucus such as during the days leading up to ovulation).
I think that the best thing you could do would be to tell your husband the truth, unless you think you can live with the doubt. Otherwise, you can do a paternity test right after the baby is born and know for sure.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 06:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by mornnglry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to judge .. but when you take those vows .. they really should mean something. Meaning you will only be with ONE man for the rest of your life.
* it is most likely your husbands baby .. since he finished INSIDE of you on your fertile days, BUT that doesn't weed out the ex .. everytime you have UNprotected Sex .. you take the chance on getting pregnant! Fertile days or not!
God bless.
2007-03-19 06:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok expert here. just too let you know sperm can live up too 72 hours inside the women's vagina, around the most fertile days. Just because he pulled out does not mean he did not leave sperm behind in your track. The ONLY WAY to know for sure is to have a paternity test done when the baby is born.
2007-03-19 06:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by dobsonrhonda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a good topic for one of those trashy talk shows! Your poor husband... why are you even married if you can not get over your ex? He does not deserve to be treated like this! Why would you do that? Do you vows not mean anything to you? I guess not since you have be acting like a tramp. You should have been faithful and you would not be having this problem. It is terrible what you have done.
2007-03-19 06:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tangled web we weave.
The chances are more in favor of the husband, but there is always that chance that it could be your ex's, albeit a small one.
I would ask your ex to do the paternity test. Unless it comes back positive, I wouldn't say anything to your husband about that possibility.
I would, however, consider leaving your husband. Your affair is not fair to him, and if you're unhappy with your hubby, it's not fair to you, either.
2007-03-19 06:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have yourself in a little bit of a bind.....I don't understand why women do this to themselves and the guys they are playing with. Why are you even trying to get pregnant with your husband when the love is obviously not there.
Either one is likely to be the father.....you better fess up now. The sooner you tell your husband the better.
2007-03-19 06:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I wouldn't have even asked that question on here from shame! It's just as likely if not MORE to get pregnant from the pre. One of my friends had it happen that way. And, seriously..You do need counseling and you WILL need a DNA test done and you need to tell your hubby that the baby could potentially be someone else's
2007-03-19 06:48:58 · answer #11 · answered by Endellion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋