ok i have an 81/2 month old son and i would like to hae another child.i would like my kids to be around 2 years apart. my husband wants to wait till our son is like anywhere from 3-5 years of age. i love my kids ever since my son, kids are my life and its so hard because its what i want more than anything in the world. its even harder because ALL my girlfriends are pregnant. even my friend who just had a baby in september is almost 2 months pregnant again so i have no one to turn to. and every time i see them i get depressed cause half of them didnt even want to be pregnant and i do and our financial situation is good. what do i do and how do i change my mind so i dont go insane waiting all these years or a while to go???
2007-03-19 06:36:30 · 8 answers · asked by miraclebaby_2006 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have 5 children (6th in process) they are all grouped together 16& 13 1/2 - Boys 11 & 9 1/2 - girls and a daughter that just turned 1 last week - next baby due in Sept. I LOVE having they together like that - they have playmates and they seem to learn so much together.
I have a brother who is 6 years older, a sister who 13 yrs older and another brother 19yrs older
Needles to say the Oldest - more like an uncle - see him every so often talk on phone 3 times a yr - he lives in Toronto
Close to sister - now but that didn't happen until I was 19 or so and the brother that was "closest" to my age - there were so many issues/problems between us when we were growing up that we really have little contact other than family functions that my sister arranges.
6 years - I feel is too much - they are not really able to share anything because of the age difference and many times the older one who has been the baby for SO long resents the new child and never gets over it. And by the time that the younger one is 12 the other is heading off to college. -
Not really great if you want them to be close.
Again all answers here are opinions - but talk to your husband and find out why he wants to have such a large space? is it $ - hell $ is always tough when it's to do with kids and really having them close isn't that much tougher - check us out - we are heading on # 6.
Good Luck to you.
2007-03-19 07:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mum of 6 - newest born 8-25-07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful to have children. I have 2 myself and wouldn't change that for anything. Something I found out really quickly...they grow so fast. You need to take time and enjoy your child. Everyday is different. They learn something new all of the time. It is harder to enjoy all of those milestones with one child if you are pregnant with or have another one.
Have fun with your child. Spacing them out at 2-3 year intervals is a smart move in my opinion. Get one potty trained before having another. This will make life much easier. Don't worry about what your friends are doing. Live your own life and enjoy your family.
2007-03-19 13:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean about your friends being pregnant and you're not. I have felt that before too. Just enjoy the time that you have with the baby you have right now. Mine are 19 months apart and I feel like often, that my 3 year old keeps me occupied so that I can't spend time with my 4 year old. It sucks. Spread them apart so that you can spoil the one you have for a while. ;)
2007-03-19 13:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine are 13 months apart and i loved it. i had no trouble with anything that had to be done and i had plenty of time for them both. i feel that when they are close they bond better and they look out for each other better. mine are now 14 and 15 and they are always together and watching out for each other. but i will say that neither of mine were planned it just happened that way. you can always get someone that knows you and that you trust to help you talk to your husband and plead your case. good luck and give the little one lots of hugs and kisses no matter how long you choose to wait for the other
2007-03-19 13:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by wlfbelcher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine our 22 months apart. i was able to use ebverything over before it got dusty..lol and throw it all out after the 2nd one. both mine were planned they are 16 and 14 yrs old now. wouldnt of changed a thing. just remember u will be buying diapers and milk a bit longer with 2 of them on it..
2007-03-19 13:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well why dont you talk to him and tell him how important it is to you, but dont pressure him, this is something you both need to agree on, one way or the other come to an equal medium, if he doesnt want you to become pregnant right now than ask if you can when your child is one or one and a half, instead of waiting years. i am sure you two can come up with something.
good luck
2007-03-19 13:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by puppy love 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
at least ur husband wants more kids, mine doesnt want anymore, ever, and im only hoping i get pregnant through the withdrawal method, read my questions
2007-03-19 13:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just immerse yourself in the joy of the child you have now, and enjoy the one on one time you can only have with your first child.
2007-03-19 13:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by daisyk 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋