How do you divide up the bills when you get married?

Question

Say you are both making the same money, you each paid your own bills and divided the mutual bills before you were married. Now you get married how do you divide them up now? Do you agree that you should have a shared bank account when everything was separate before?

Answer 1

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. There is no reason to avoid putting all of your income into one bank account and you should not count out the dollars as to who pays what. Why did you get married if you are going to keep everything separate? Marriage brings two people together as one. Therefore, his things and her things become our things.

If you make sure that everything is always equally paid, your marriage will surely fail. My wife and I put our earnings into our joint checking account and pay the bills from there. There is no division of earnings or bills. The bills are ours, not his or hers.

Money is one of the biggest reasons that marriages fail. Spending your married life keeping track of who spent what will destroy your marriage quickly and easily.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 2

I know a couple that has been married for over 30 years. They have separate accounts. Every friday the bills are laid out on the counter and they each put a check from their own accounts in the envelope for their half of everything. They never fight about money. Yes sometimes things are tight and one will ask to "borrow" some money from the other. Some may say this is wrong and odd, it seems to have worked for them. They have always done it this way because they are both aware that nothing is promised to be forever and they would want it to be as easy as possible. My advice, if it is separate now, then keep it that way it won't hurt anything and will probably only save you a ton of headaches.

Answer 3

U are now united at one. Congratulations! Ur going to have to learn how to do things together, that means sharing an account(keep track of the spending together), balance the check book together, go shopping together, do everything together. I know a few couples that have separate accounts and for some reason there growing apart from each other. Money is one of the #1 reasons couples fight, don't let that be you, always always talk about everything, please never let arguments go unresolved every night. Do everything with love and may God bless you.

Answer 4

Shared bank accounts are great, but are not great if someone else is taking the money out without reporting it to the other person. I think each household does it differently, so try splitting the bills up evenly if you both make the same amount. Be flexible but stick to the plan that works best for you.

Answer 5

When you get married you are "joined" together. So it makes sense that your salaries be put into a joint account and you each agree on an "allowance" that you need to make it thru the week and that you will discuss any large purchases (over $50or $100) with each other before they are made if they aren't for the benefit of both. If you continue with the "yours" and "mine" attitude the marriage is bound to fail (you haven't actually committed to the marriage). Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

We didn't divide anything. We have joint accounts and I pay all the bills out of that. We don't split the cost of anything. To me that's part of being married. Most of the time, even if you have an account separate from your spouse, if you divorce it becomes marital property anyway.

Answer 7

You don't. Your money goes into a joint account, and the bills are paid from the joint account. Why divide things up? What's the point, if you are married???

Answer 8

I agree that there should be a shared bank account - whether or not you also have your separate bank accounts in addition to it.

Answer 9

We got a joint account and just paid all our bills from that account. When you get married "what's mine is yours, what's yours is mine..." bills, debt, and all. Sounds bleak, I know, but it's really not that big a deal.

Answer 10

well yes
put both checks in a checking acount and pay the bills when thay come in, if eather of you had a large sum of money before marrage, have a lawyer fill out the papers you need to be sure if you split, that money is still yours alone