What Bible verses can I show my ex-husband to show him he can't insult our son when he's done something wrong?

Question

My ex-husband is 45 yrs old. He's never been arrested in his life until June of 2006 and now he's been arrested twice for overdoing discipline on our 15 yr-old son. He is a devout Christian. He and my 18 yr-old daughter don't speak at all because of similar circumstances. My kids don't drink, do drugs, and are good kids. They smart off sometimes, they are lazy, and pretty messy. These things should be addressed, but his way is to scream, throw things, hurl insults and try to physically force them to do what he wants. They live with me full time and have no desire to see him at all. I hate for them to not have any kind of relationship with their father, but he has no remorse and "stands by his principles" no matter what. Bible scripture seems to get his attention, but so far all I've found is Colossians 3:21. "Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged"

Can anyone think of any more?

rwa,

You are only getting one side of the story, but I have nothing to gain by lying. I'm here to get answers about something I'm truly concerned about. I don't know anyone here and never will. My kids have rules and there are consequences when the rules are broken. They just don't include insults and law being called. If the worst thing I can say about my teenagers is that they sometimes smart off and they're slobs I consider myself extremely lucky.

To everyone else. I'm loving the feedback and advise. I'm really struggling with this and need to resolve in my mind if there is anything more I can do to help my kids.

Thanks

Answer 1

Ephesians 6:4 -

"Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not provoke them to resentment] but rear them tenderly in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord"

Luke 9:47-48 -

"But Jesus, as He percieved the thoughts of their hearts, took a little child and put him at His side.

And He told them, Whoever receives and accepts and welcomes this child in My name, and for My sake, receives, accepts, and welcomes Me; and whoever so receives Me also receives Him Who sent Me, for he who is least and lowliest among you all - he is the one who is truly great".

Proverbs 15:1 -

"A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger."

Proverbs 15:18 -

"A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger appeases contention."

Proverbs 19:18 -

"Discipline your son while there is hope, but do not indulge your angry resentments by undue chastisements and set yourself to his ruin."

Ecclesiates 7:9 -

"Do not be quick in spirit to be angry or vexed, for anger and vexation lodge in the bosom of fools."

Proverbs 17:1 -

"Better is a dry morsel with quietness than a house full of feasting with strife."

Answer 2

You can't convince your husband that he isn't committing a sin here no matter what you do. He is a prime example of an uncontrollable abuser. He uses verbal abuse to satisfy his own need to express himself. You also cannot improve the relationship between you ex and his kids. Your ex will suffer his own consequences here. The best thing you can do is sit your kids down and explain to them that they have the right to refuse to see him if the behavior is having a detrimental effect on them. Abuse in any form is wrong and should not be tolerated. He cannot force visitation at their ages especially if this information is made available to your attorney. Don't argue with your ex or debate religion - you will not win with him here. Simply notify him that appropriate action will be taken if the verbal abuse and physical actions do not cease immediately.

Answer 3

Well first off you should ask him if as a christian he thinks that Jesus would approve of how he is being.
Read Titus chapter 2 It touches on how it is good to be moderate in habits serious sound in mind healthy in faith in love in endurance. To love their children.

You could also try and find scriptures that deal with the way he should be with people in general. Like in Matthew 5:5 Happy are the mild tempered ones since they will inherit the earth.
1 Timothy 6:11 ; How ever you O man of God, Flee from these things But pursue righteousness, godly devotion,faith, love, endurance, MILDNESS of TEMPER.

Luke 6:36-42
Maybe you should sit down together with the Bible. Pray, Then look things up together.
I truly hope that every thing works out for the sake of your family.

Answer 4

Matthew 25:45
speak to the idea that what you do to others you do also unto christ

Proverbs 3: 30
warns us not to strive *bicker/fight etc.) othe men if they have done no hurt or fight us


And the Spare the Rod spoil the child jazz... is more related to "ROD" as used by the hebrew - a manner of guide by example ( such as a shepard setting a boundry for sheep' not whacking them with it but a gentle guide )
so the children dont begin to spoil .. spoil not as in spoiled brat' ... but spoil ' as like unto spoiled foods or milk..

rot from within ...a better translation is:

If a parent doesn't set a good example - his child dies from the inside out.

Answer 5

well there are always two sides, his side would be that he is the bad guy and your the good guy, which translate into they get away with what ever they want. I will bet that your their friend instead of their mother, if they are lazy now, messy and smart off it's because of no discipline, and it won;t get better for them as they get older. They will go from job to job and relationship to relationship but mommy will always be there to catch them, I don't favor child abuse but sometimes a good swat can do what other things can't.

Answer 6

I am sorry...but any one who does this to their children should know that it is against the bible to treat them in this manner. Your son is old enough now to decide whether or not he wants to go visits his father, and if brought in from of a judge, to be sure the judge would nto make him go, especially after being arrested twice on the same thing. I would suggest going to your husband pastor.....and having a talk with him......When all is said and done....your children will have nothing ot do with him after the way he has treated them......but your husband needs help

Answer 7

Screaming, throwing things, and hurling insults is not the behavior of a devout Christian. That sounds like an anger issue inside himself. He needs to pray for self-control and guidance in raising his children.

Answer 8

Reli9gion is BS, keep that ****** away from the children. End of story.