Me and my girlfriend broke up a few months ago from a 4 year relationship and have been friendly since then. The breakup was mutual bc we both needed some time apart since we're still pretty young (22). Recently theres been alot of tension and we've been fighting more than ever. She doesnt think I care about her anymore but this couldnt be farther from the truth. Do I try to get back together and try to mend things (which I dont think I'm ready for but am willing to sacrifice) or do I stick it out or should we not talk as much.... The situation is kind of complex I know, I hope I explained it ok. Its just that she is really freaking out on me and I dont know how to handle it. I think shes just mad at the fact that I seem like I'm handling the situation much better than I am bc I tend to keep my emotions to myself (partly bc we're broken up and I felt thats necessary). I'm going crazy and I dont know what to do! Any advice at all would mean the world to me...
2007-03-19 06:21:59 · 4 answers · asked by maximabullet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. Here's what I would suggest. You can always remain good friends with her, but honestly, it's hard to get back into a relationship that you did away with. I say that because both parties are different now, the situation is different etc.There was a reason why the two of you broke up. I got back with an ex once and it was the dumbest thing I did; his behavior was worse than before and we truly couldn't get along. Some handle breakups better than others, you obviously did, but I would move on if I were you. Keep your options open and meet others who really want to get to know you!
2007-03-19 07:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First half-truth: "The breakup was mutual". One party is always less interested than the other and initiates the breakup. This is a half-truth.
Second half-truth: "The breakup was because you needed time apart". If you just needed time apart, you could have taken it. Breaking up gives you the ability to date others without "cheating".
Third half-truth: "I really care about her". Yeah, so much you wanted to be free to date others.
Fourth half-truth: "The situation is kind of complex". The situation is simple. You just don't have the integrity to be honest even with yourself. You're an emotional mess.
It's over. Leave her alone long enough to heal and get over you so she can move on. You are making this messy. You didn't argue with her: you broke up with her, and you aren't even honest.
2007-03-19 13:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends, but it will take a lot of time. You at one time were very close, therefore, you know everything about each other and thats important. You just have to give it time. It will be awkward at first. If the friendships meant to be, it will be.
2007-03-19 13:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is.But their is just one little thing to remember .I have done this with my partner 4 times now.Stayed freinds after breaking up.Now we have been on and off (mostly on)for 12 yrs .
2007-03-19 13:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋