I've been in love with a guy(M) from my home town since I was 13, I'm now 21. I'm in a relationship with a guy(D) whom I love but am not in love with.
(M) Always makes my stomach flutter and my heart race. We've never spoken but have always tried to get ahold of eachother! We use to stare and gaze at one another but never made a connection.
(D) Is a strange man, I stay dedicated to him and he loves me. What more can a woman want right? Well we've been together for about 6 years and we have the cutest son anyone could ever ask for.
Maybe I'm bored... Maybe not!!!
Please help me in my thoughts !!!
2007-03-19 06:16:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i feel you know the answer here already.
you're very young to have been in such a long term relationship and have a child already, but perhaps your son wasn't planned, and you can't help that.
fact is that most girls your age should be out meeting different guys, doing different things and gaining some experience of how the world works. i'm not suggesting they should be promiscuous, but they should certainly have some fun.
you're feeling the pinch of being 'stuck' with the same guy for so long, and you've no idea what else is on offer. you've been with this guy since you were 15, it's no wonder you're wondering about other men ... it's entirely natural.
unfortunately for you, you have a responsibility to your son, his wellbeing is more important, and ideally he should have two parents for a balanced upbringing.
having said that, staying with the wrong man could be counter productive, and worse for your son in the long run, and you.
it sounds as though your partner is a decent guy though, he's stuck by you for 6 years, and is a father to your son. it wouldn't be very fair to betray him.
having said that, maybe you need to scratch an itch just to get it out of your system. i don't know if you're old enough not to get caught up in the emotion of it all though, you need to be careful to keep your emotions in check and not disrupt the family unit.
the grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, however once you climb the fence you'll often realise it's just a trick of the light. we've all made mistakes and finished with a good partner for someone more exciting, then regretted if afterwards.
under normal circumstances i'd tell you to finish with the guy you're with and go have some fun, but as you have a kid i'd say that was irresponsible.
your best option, if you're really that bored, is first of all to discuss it with your partner, try to spice things up a little ... if you don't feel that's going to work then you need to find someone you can trust, who will be discreet, and have a quick fling to satisfy your curiosity but under no circumstances give in to your guilt and confess ... if you're old enough to stray, you're old enough to deal with it, suck it up and keep quiet ... otherwise be grateful that you have someone who loves you.
2007-03-19 06:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by brightspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have never experienced the chance to be your own person, you have missed out on a lot of things being in a relationship and having a child at such a young age. The sad thing is you don't really know how hard it is to find a good guy and believe me when you do you hang on to him and thank your lucky stars that you have him. If your guy is a good guy and treats you good do your best to find all the reasons you can to fall deeply in love with him. I know you are still young and you are wondering what else is out there, but the grass is not always greener. You learn later in life that all the fun things you think you missed out on are not always the things that count, its having someone you know will be there through the bad and you are stronger for it.
2007-03-19 06:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a baby with him, stay with him. Don't get into another relationship it only leads to trouble.
2007-03-19 07:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ridge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love the one your with
2007-03-19 06:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should I do? My sisters dating that guy!
2007-03-19 06:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as though you've made-up your mind already!
2007-03-19 06:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by rob c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it! there in no harm in going for what you want
2007-03-19 06:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋