Many impotent men allow their wives to play on the side. Yet you people have crucified me for being thoughtful of my wife's needs.
2007-03-19 06:07:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you allow it, I see nothing wrong with that. Its your marriage as you should do as you choose. However she might get some that soo good that she might not want to be married any more. Be careful.
2007-03-19 06:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by My two cents 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that bothers me is that you are ignoring the sanctity of marriage. There are other ways to get around this.
Try some Viagra. Or some other help. Use toys when you can't do the other things. But you can do most of it. Just not the intercourse. Have you tried everything? I wouldn't want another man even if my husband couldn't make love to me. He is my husband and we took vows to love and cherish till death do us part. Even if he couldn't do intercourse there are so many other things that he does that I love. Sex isn't all about the intercourse. It is about the closeness between a woman and a man. Do what you can and use toys for the rest. That way you are still the one giving pleasure to you wife. It must bother you a little or you wouldn't be asking questions on here about it.
2007-03-19 13:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't answered any of your previous questions, but it is obvious that the responses have overwhelmed you. I think it is not you they are criticizing but merely the idea that a marriage is sacred, and for better or worse, the vows are to be honored. With technology and medicine today there should be no reason why you are completely impotent. Better yet, even if you were, there are many things that couples can do to please each other. Impotency should not be a valid excuse for infidelity.
2007-03-19 13:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We humans are very complex individuals. We have the ability to care, hate or understand. If this is what you wish, then so be it. No one was born with the authority to judge. If you are that understanding of your wife's needs, I consider you, a great man and not selfish.
Now while sex plays a very important roll in human relationships, it is not everything.
My two cents. Continue to live your life as happy as possible. Pay no attention to ignorance. Hope this helps. Will.
2007-03-19 13:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Will M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it doesn't bother you. But if it is done when the other is unhappy with it, it is a problem and deliberate hurting.
I know a couple where the man is not impotent but he married his wife knowing that she would have others. Always. She does not flaunt it and they have been together 15 years.
2007-03-19 13:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by tiaburkeangry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion marriage is not just about a sexual joining but about the complete package. if later on things happen that our beyond our control like for example your impotence certain sacrifices have to be made on both ends, but letting your wife sleep with other people is not a solution to this problem, in fact it will undoubtedly lead to other problems later on down the road, their are so many other things that you could do together to try and keep her happy. and i feel that if your wife truly loves you she would not want to be with anyone else that what true love and marriage is about, I'm not judging you or your decisions its your life and you can do with it what you please but i think that this choice will end with more heart ache in the end
2007-03-19 13:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by matt c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you would do that and if you are making the decision together and staying together, then you shouldn't worry about what other people think. I was wondering though, this is a pretty modern age and they have gadgets you could improvise with yourself, then you would be satisfying her yourself. It would mean more to me if my husband did that, because sex is about an emotional bond for me, not just taking care of the sexual need. I would miss that precious time with him so much, I wouldn't care how he did what he did, as long as he was the one that did it.
2007-03-19 13:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me and if it doesn't bother you or your wife I say MORE POWER TO YA! Overall, it's more desirable to let your wife play on the side and remain married rather than divorce and live with all that pain and BS.
I say congradulations for finding a solution!
2007-03-19 13:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Erin H 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey ,you chose to share your lifestyle, with us.
No one ask you ,to do anything,you didn't want to do. You chose to tell us your problem.
All we did was reply.
If you can't take, the insults, or answer, you received. then you should of never ask.
And if you didn't want honest answers, then next time let people, know you just want to hear what you want.
Or are you looking to justify , your actions, so you can not blame yourself? but ,others, for the problem.
2007-03-19 16:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're obviously a very caring and understanding husband. If I could no longer have sex with my husband I would definitely allow him to play on the side, as long as I came first in every other aspect of our lives, he needs to get that release somewhere!
2007-03-19 13:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋