I feel I can only be a shoulder for her but I wish I could help her more as I hate to see her so upset where can I get some advice so I can help I have no experience and can only be there for her any help would be appreciated. Thanks
2007-03-19 06:06:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
being there for her is more valuable than u will ever know drop some notes to her encourage her remind her of what talents she has what gifts she has send encouraging cards lunch change of scene ice cream movies and popcorn with lots of laffin be the sunshine to the dark days best advise i ever received going thru my divorce dont make any major decisions for at least a year give urself time to heal the emotions in divorce and death are the exact same they come back one by one with intense force the only difference in death its final in divorce its continuous everytime u see them take one day at a time yesterday is gone tomorrow is iffy so focus on today and take 5 minutes to lok out the window in the morning remind urself that what u see is God's love letter to u the whole world Good luck ladies u will survive and ur in my prayers
2007-03-19 06:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shoulder is a great thing to have. Make sure when giving here advice to make it is as positive as possible, no bad mouthing the ex. Meeting new people in the right places always helps (No clubs or Bars), and soon she will realize that it is not the end of the world.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 06:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing well by simply being there to listen to her out pourings of heart ache. Look into some fun positive activities and maybe guide her to seek interest in them. Yes, the church is a very good place to seek solace as well, but surely there are other activities and hobbies to look into--and quite possibly discover hidden talents into them.
Be sure to let her know that on the positive side of such divorce, the courts DO favor her and that her divorce doesn't end HER world; it end's his.....deservedly so for tearing her paper lace heart.
2007-03-19 06:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going thru a divorce is extremely emotional. Your friend is grateful to have you by her side. The rule of thumb that my friends and I have followed when someone breaks up or divorces is:
-Movie night..either comedy or romance. If romance, make sure there's plenty of tissues handy and ice cream :o)
-Massage - going to a day spa or a massage parlor is great for stress relief.
Get her out of the house and involved in something that interests her. The less she has time to dwell about her situation, the better she'll feel.
2007-03-19 06:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being someone who will listen is the very best you can do.
No advice you give can really help (unless their are legal implications then specialist advice needs to be sought.)
Suggesting things that might help take her mind off things may help her too.... so take her to the cinema, or go shopping together... or play some sports with her... all helps a little.
2007-03-19 06:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be there for her. Get her out of the house and involved in doing things whenever you can. If you go shopping, invite her. Even if it's just getting together for lunch. Let her know that you care.. with your support, everything should work out fine.
2007-03-19 06:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everyones answers, you are being great just being there..the only thing i would add is include her in your life still, invite her for tea, or whatever you did before, sometimes friends feel awkward inviting divorced people to couple evenings but it is nice to still be invited even if she turns you down. and give her time, dont expect her to be better in a few weeks, its a long process, but she will appreciate you forever for being her true friend.
2007-03-19 07:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't help if I don't know what is shes going through. Tell her to pray and ask god to help her to except the things she can not change.
2007-03-19 06:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing more you can do for her but to be there for her n lent her your shoulder. Good Luck. sometime no words at all is better than words.
2007-03-19 06:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by TO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
continue to be a shoulder. Thats pretty much all you can do.
2007-03-19 06:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋