Hi, Here's my story. I live in Northern NY. I own my own home, and have been living with my boyfriend for a 1 1/2 year now. I have been asking him to move out pretty regularly for the last 6 months and I have about reached my wits end. Whenever I ask him to leave he tells me that it's just as much his house as mine and that if he leaves he will take all my stuff with him, and there is nothing I can do about it but take him to court and by then he will have everything!! (I just recently bought all new furniture and a new plasma tv). He has a very bad temper, and throws fits when I ask him to leave. I called the police once and they told me Id have to evict him. I went to city court to get eviction forms but they said they didnt supply them. Mind you he has been unemployment for 5 months and barely give me any money to help with bill's. Sit's around all day doing nothing!!! What a prize I got!!! I would appreciate any help you can give me! I dont want him to take all my stuff!!! Thanks!
2007-03-19 05:59:10 · 27 answers · asked by Laurie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The house is mine, I bought it way before I met him, my name is on everything. I have reciepts for all my furniture and belongings, which I will get together tonight and put in my safe deposit box. Thanks, Everyone!!!
2007-03-19 06:40:39 · update #1
ask your family or relatives to stay with you temporarily. it might be dangerous on your part if you are alone with him asking him to leave. tell him he can only stay if he agrees to pay rent. if he does, draw up rent papers and when he fails to pay his rent, go to court and get him evicted.
2007-03-19 06:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laurie,
sounds like you found a real "winner" here (and I mean that only in the worst way imaginable). First, you will need to get those eviction forms, you will have to do the leg work on this, and I would even consider speaking with a woman's shelter. There maybe a representative there (at the nearest woman's shelter) that could give you some additional guidance/suggestions. The good for nothing bum needs to be out of your house and now you have to have the intestinal fortitude to "get it done" once and for all.
Second, after you give this loser the eviction notice he may take your stuff and create another battle for you in the process. Your piece of mind is worth more than the material possessions you have. If he takes your belongings then you will have to proceed on a legal front (obviously). Again, maybe a rep at the woman's shelter would lend some advice.
Lastly, keep strong inside to resolving this matter and then move on with your life. Hard lesson to take but you will be stronger for it in the end; you seem like a nice person by all accounts of the question you posed. Best of luck to you and let me know how this turns out for you!
2007-03-26 02:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take all your receipts and paperwork on your belongings (and other precious items) an rent a safe deposit box or move them to a safe place. Then go back to the city clerk and ask what the procedure is for evicting the bum. After you've cleared out the house of the papers and other valuables. Let him have a fit (make sure your health insurance is up todate) and have him arrested for domestic abuse and get a restraining order.
2007-03-19 06:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by lorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you own the house, you hold all the cards. Get a restraining order against him if all else fails. If he doesnt have a job, he can't afford court costs to take anything away from you. As long as his name isn't on anything, then he can't take anything away from you. I would pack up all his stuff and put it on the curb, then call him to come and pick it up. Change all of the locks and if he throws a fit and starts damaging stuff when he comes by..call the police. That would get them to issue a restraining order or something. Get someone to stay with you during this time so at least if something happens you have witnesses. If he does manage to muster up the money to take you to court, you will have all documents, and witnesses to back up your defence. This guy needs a reality check and you dont have to take this kind of abuse. Don't let it keep on going whatever you do..6 months is plenty of time for him to be on his way. Don't take crap from him. You sound very mature and strong, so put that to good use! Good luck and keep us posted!!
2007-03-19 06:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by kiss_me_cold_007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you did not marry this prize. I st. I would but anything of value in a storage unit. you can get one for total with fees for the first month $24. (public storage) This is so he can not break your things or take them. Make him think you sold the home and are moving with him to an apartment as you can't afford the house any more. Take him apt shopping with you. and have him agree to a place. (Lie like these low life men who use woman do) Once his stuff is out change the locks and get an alarm. I would call the cops if he comes back and have him arrested as now he no longer lives with you and you did not throw him out but, he moved.
2007-03-26 05:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. My sister lives with one of those. The next time he leaves the house for any reason, change the locks. I know that is kinda hard, but you got to get one of your friends to help with this. I have put new locks on the doors and it wasn't really hard, but your friends can help if you need it. Come up with some kind of story to get him out. Find out where you can get the eviction papers at and file them first. Like I said come up with a plan with your friends and go from there. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-27 03:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by DawnC36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out your local Social Services or Legal Aid attorney, both should help you out without a cost. Sounds like you have two issues, the eviction which is a property thing and a possible abuse issue with the bad temper BF.
As long as his name isnt on the deed to the house.. or he cant show reciepts for the things you paid for.. then it should be easy.
Get preofessional help no... to get him out.. before it becomes worse.
2007-03-19 06:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by navyboy763 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts should have the forms you need. Also just make sure you have reciepts for the things you purchased ...since you are not married he has no rights to your things! Also you could get a notarized letter and mail it him certified mail stating that he has 30 days to vacate your home. If he gets violent call the police. They will provide a place for him to stay (haha!) Best of luck to you!!
2007-03-19 06:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by Just J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he takes your stuff he is stealing.
You will have to actively seek the sheriff to post the eviction notice on your door for him to move. Even then he has something like 6 months to get out in our state.
It is very hard to get someone out of your home when you have invited him in. Hopefully all the houses paperwork is in your name. All the furniture is in your name. Otherwise with you two being in a relationship he might be able to get half of everything.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 06:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law of the land could help you provided you have not signed any blank papers which he holds.If he is in the habit of physically mistreating you,the police can intervene & have him removed from your house.It is sad when a relationship goes over board & you are not the only one.Your neighbours /family could come to your rescue if they want to help you get out of the mess & you really mean business to start a life clear of all this messing around.
2007-03-25 20:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by thirsty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law you have to give him 30 days. You can google free landlord forms they have all types of eviction notices you can print for free. Print them and give them to him wait 30 days and let the cops know he refused to leave. I guess since he's not working you don't have time to change the locks, but that would be something else you can do. Good luck.
2007-03-19 06:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by CHAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋