how do i get over been beaten as a child?

Question

When i was seven, i stole five pounds from my grandmother. This was many years ago and it was alot of money. i was badly beaten by my father for doing so. I remember running to my mother after and hating my self for going to her, when she sat and watched me been beaten for ages with a belt on the butt. It was the only time it ever happened. I remember shortly after this saying something to a classmate, that was taken up wrongly, i refused to appologies because i had done nothing wrong. I had no way of explaining this, and felt no matter what i said would make no difference. I let the teacher beat me on the hand with a ruler for ages. But refused to give in. Eventually i made her take me from the room and ask me to apologise. (the teacher was my mother) I accidently broke a window some time later, and went hysterical about it, i suppose i expected to be beaten again.
I think i have always had problems with women because of these incidences. What can i do to get over this.

Answer 1

Please do see a psychologist. Don't take advice from amateurs here.

This is something they could explain relatively quickly and clearly.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Usually, people who have been beaten have one of two choices.... they either become what they despise (exactly like the person that beat them in the first place) or the exact opposite, become the type of person that will advocate for others who are in similar situations... a lot of times it helps to help others when you were not able to help yourself. It can get you out of a cycle of thinking about your own problems and lets you focus on getting someone else out of theirs.... sometimes that can help you heal as nothing else could.... you may not have been able to put your foot down as a child but as an adult, hopefully, you can stop someone else from being in the same situation you are in now....

Answer 3

This lots greater complicated than people comprehend. The regulation often ties the palms of the mummy and dad to do something in those cases devoid of punishing the mummy and dad for abandonment. in case you want them devoted to juvenile detention the judges look down on you. You ask for help yet do not look to get any. Your superb wager is to report expenditures against her. in case you seize her with drugs checklist her, if she steals from you, call the law enforcement officers and report a criticism. If she breaks the regulation the decide can place her in juvy. At 17 she greater helpful be very careful. She is months far flung from being charged as an person. in case your ex is so in touch approximately her then have her pass stay with him.

Answer 4

my uncle once laughed at me when my father put me into a corner of a room as punishment I never got over that..he owned a McDonald's..yes the McDonald's..and had money ..now he is broke and lost his McDonald's..due to taxes..I laugh so loud when I think of it..I hold a grudge forever..I never forgive..I just cant..I have been hurt way to many times...I want my revenge...it eats at me..I know some day it might even cause my own death..

Answer 5

I think you need to see a therapist -- there are events in your past that are effecting you now in a bad way. Sorry to hear about these things I hope things get easier for you.

Answer 6

well........u have to avoid this thought that u have a prob wid womens....just think that was accidents which was to took place & that was happen & nothing else there r many ocassions in life when we face embarassing situations like yours.....just think positive that u have no prob wid women every women can't b like your mother.....
One prob is wid u that u every time refuse to apologize.....One who accepts his faults can do more better....& can b better & active part in life..............just try to repair ur faults........don't apologize on ur mistakes(if u thnik so)but judge ur self that what ever u do was wrong or right I think It could help u....................good luck!

Answer 7

Group therapy, talk to others like your self, that might give you some closure.

Answer 8

I don't know how to answer your question only to say that perhaps if you found the right counselor he or she may be able to help you come to terms with your past.

Answer 9

dude, that's rough. if I were you, I don't know what I'd do, probably go to a buddhist monastery for seven years or something.

Answer 10

there,s nothing wrong with good old discipline, you done something wrong you got punished, Get over it already. spare the rod spoil the child. Sounds like you got off easy.