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Situation, my 8 yo niece and 15 yo nephew are living in a home that is disgusting and reeks of dog & cat urine all the time. The have 2 cats and did have 3 dogs. My nephew is doing 90-95% of the cleaning, which is only recently dishes, laundry, &occaisional vacuuming. The mother doesn't pay attention to the kids, & my niece is extremely behind in school work. Sis-in-law doesn't give my nephew money for lunches etc. Only expects him to watch his half sister & do the cleaning. She works in a bar until odd hours. Bro-in-law is now in jail and is looking at least 5yrs prision time. When that all happened we got a frantic call from Sis in law and went to the house and she was VERY drunk and the house looked as though it hadn't been cleaned in a very very long time. We found dog fecal matter in my niece's room, as well as pet urine on the "clean clothes", dried cat fecal matter under her bed. Mold growing on dishes etc.... What do I do? I have pics & more info if you want to email

2007-03-19 05:53:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government Law & Ethics

More info - I have called Child Protective Services, and they are "investigating". I have made the offer more than once to take the kids for a while, yet her response is she "needs" them to take care of her. Her and bro-in-law have a pattern of this nastiness, not quite a year ago 5 of us spent over 9 hrs cleaning in their old house. I alone spent 5 hrs in the bathroom, because it was that bad. Neither one of them worked for at least 6 months prior to that occurance. I am worried for these kids and she has threatened more than once to run with them to a different state.

2007-03-19 06:06:33 · update #1

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This is child abuse and neglect. In my state, you would have violated the law by not reporting it to Children, Youth and Families--which is the name my state uses for Social Services or perhaps Child Protective Services. The state will try to place these children with a family member if at all possible. You are committing a crime under the laws of my state by keeping this knowledge to yourself. If you are wrong in your assessment, you have complete immunity for prosecution if your report is erroneous. I would go and get these kids and take them to your home today and immediately call the appropriate state agency. It is likely-not certain-that the state will leave them with you instead of placing them in foster care. If you do report your sister-in-law, she will not be able to come to your home and take the children back. You know about this situation--now do something.

2007-03-19 06:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 3 0

In my opinion, I would call Child Protection Services. Usually they will ask for details, and then they will make a trip out to the house to determine whether or not the place is suitable for the children to live in. (And by the way that you are describing it, it isn't!) And sometimes they give you an option of if you want the kids while your in-laws clean up. Or depending on how bad they rate it, the parents could lose the children for awhile. It also depends on the parents backgrounds. And by the way that you are describing this situation, they aren't good. There is a good chance that they could lose the children all together. In that case, you could ask CPS, if you can take the kids. They like putting the kids with other family members than total strangers. But if they do put them with you, be aware that they might do a background on you too. But that would be my suggestion. Get those kids out of there ASAP. Who knows what else could be going on behind closed doors!

2007-03-19 06:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Agent Pierce 2 · 2 0

Someone needs to step in and talk to your sister-in-law. They need to let her know that if this keeps us, CPS probably will be called. Your niece's teachers have probably noticed some sign of neglect (they do notice things like dirty clothing and/or no lunch provided and take note, otherwise they can be sued). Is it possible for the children to stay with your family for a while? Or is there someone who can look in on them and help out a bit. This situation is scary to say the least. And it won't be long until the situation gets worse if nothing is done now.

2007-03-19 06:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1 2

No child should be living in that kind of condition, call child sevices. If they are taken away and put into foster care, they will most likely give the family first choice as to if you want the kids or not. GOOD LUCK!

2007-03-19 06:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by He's my world 4 · 2 0

Are there any grandparents? If so enlist their aid and if necessary your gonna have to be a real hardass and get those kids out of that environment. Go to child welfare. Go to social services. Go to your church, if you belong to one. Help your sis-in-law if you can. But make her understand that noone is going to allow her to raise those kids in that environment. I hope your husband is involved. This is his blood.

2007-03-19 06:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by GeauxJoe 2 · 3 0

This is simple: call child protective services (it may have a slightly different name in your county/city/state) and report what you know. Give only facts.

They will investigate and make a determination.

2007-03-19 05:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 7 · 2 1

I think that you have to have a serious talk with your sister. Sounds like she is suffering from serious depression. Offer to take the children into your home for a few months until she can get her life together.

2007-03-19 05:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by BigD 6 · 1 2

Call childcare services or clean the house up.

2007-03-19 06:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Eason W 5 · 1 2

you shouldent of did that now there going to take and split up the kids u may not get theam back

2007-03-19 08:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by XoAngieXo 3 · 0 2

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