so my friends boyfriend got another girl pregnnt but it was 7 months ago and he forced her to have an abortion and she was 20 years younger than him. i just found out but its eating me up inside. Do i tel it stay in the past? or dig it up?
2007-03-19 05:43:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Man, that's rough. First off, how did you find out? Is it a reliable source? Cuz if it's not true and you bring it up, you could cause a lot of trouble for nothing if the guy is innocent. If it is a reliable source, if I was you, I would confront the guy and be like of what was up with that. Try to get a sense if it was a one time mistake or if this guy is a sleaze and if he would do it again. If he was going out with the girl he got pregnant then it wasn't just a one night stand. He might have a thing for younger woman so he might do this again. If you feel that he would cheat on your friend again, I would tell her to be careful and that perhaps this guy is not one to trust.
2007-03-19 05:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Main 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SPILL to her she needs to know that her bf got some other chick pregnant and if she doesn't find out sooner or later it's just going to end up bad in the end and once she's 7 mnths pregnant she can't have an abortion because then that could ruin her insides and she may nver be able to have another baby!!
2007-03-19 12:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Angel Baby♥ஐ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hes an irressponible ***, he should have the crap kicked out of him for forcing a woman to give up her chld to an abortion, thats a womans choice, and no one elses. Dig it up, bring it to light, then tell her to leave his sorry butt. She dont need him, whats gonna happen when he gets her pregnant?
2007-03-19 13:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is warn her and then let it be or you should arrange for them to get together (the girl who had to abort and baby and your friend). It sounds like he has a history of getting girls pregnent and a player with no responsibilities.
2007-03-19 13:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Emily L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is she still hurting? cos if she is that is the only reason to dig it up, we all have our opinions on life and how life should be treated and your friends boyfriend seems to. Is she still with him? if she is you need to ask her if she is alright with the relationship being this way-dominant, there is a slim chance it could break out into abuse and by the way if she's still feeling sad about it u need to talk to her.
2007-03-19 12:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by nineties_rule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real Question is, is this on on going behaviour, has he done it before and not got someone pregnant. And what was he doing with someone young enough to be his daughter! Sounds like mid-life to me. But if you look at how their relationship is now, if he treats her like a queen then keep it to yourself. But if he treats her like she's garbage spill your guts. She will thank you for giving her a way out!!!
2007-03-19 13:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy K R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please! do let sleeping dog lie ok. It's now in the past and what good would that do except to hurt everybody including your friend and ruining the relationship.
If the burden of secrecy becomes too much for you to bear, speak in parables to the man alone and warn him to desist from his perfidious ways.
2007-03-19 12:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by comradechris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! You didn't say what kind of relationship your girl friend has with her boy friend nor what there relationship was 7 moths ago.
Let the relationship progress and your GF may figure him out and it will be over without you jeopardizing your relationship with your GF.
2007-03-19 12:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by celtic_hd_heritage 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would probably let it go, She'll find out! This way your not caught up in the middle of it. Not saying it would happen but sometimes things like this ruins friendships. Good Luck!
2007-03-19 12:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Casey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He did not force her to have an abortion. Nobody can FORCE someone to have an abortion. Unless they drug them and perform the abortion illegally, but come on....
2007-03-19 12:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Niki from Indiana 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋