How many of you women ever had an abortion?

Question

I have a friend that is experiencing this for the second time. If you want to let me know what can I say to her. She's having a hard time sleeping. She's lonely and just need love and now she feels like scum of the Earth. If you can express to me your feelings on why you decided to do it, and how have you lived or are living through it. This is not a question to received hateful comments, so please refrain from them. I know that women all over this world have experienced this and are scared to talk about this, and have lived with these things inside and they feel like they aren't worthy enough. Let's talk

I'll give you guys a little more detail, she is dealing with this guy and he has a girlfriend, my friend has a boyfriend also, but the only thing is he lives in another state and acts like he has no time for her, so when this other guy came along he filled all the voids for my friend. She slipped up and got pregnant early in their little relationship, but now they have been dealing with eac other for like 3 years, he's on birth contrl but she was sick and took antibiotics, not realizing antibiotics diminishes the effectiveness of the pill. They love each other and I do thin khe loves her more than his own girl. He begged her not to, but she didn't want to make things hard on him. She's the type to suffer herself before putting on anybody else. Now she's up with the nightmares. I just want to be there for her and just wanted to know if anyone experienced this and what was it that you needed most?

Answer 1

I have never had an abortion, and I do not believe in them at all whatsoever, but if you really want to help your friend do the right thing and explain to her what you believe and not what the people of y answers do. I know that this is a very touchy subject, and I give you props for coming online and asking about it, but I would just do what you feel is the right thing and have her talk to a professional, at a time like this in her life when she is feeling so alone and like scum she does not need just a friend, she needs professional help. Have her visit the website below, or just suggest that visit it. This will help her get through hard times

Answer 2

You want to make your friend feel better about something that she feels down deep is wrong. I suppose you can tell her that having a baby right now could ruin her future, and that an abortion is in the best interest of the children she will be ready to have someday; when she's completed her education, etc. she will be able to make a more positive contribution to society. Tell her to get her head together and work on ways to improve herself and to quit making the same mistakes over and over again. She is confusing sex with love--this will only cause her continued grief. You also need to tell her that there is no excuse for an unplanned pregnancy these days. She needs to be on birth control pills. She needs to make up her mind to live like a responsible adult, and she needs to stop having unprotected sex.

Some of this might sound harsh, but the act of resolving to do better in the future might help to assuage some of the guilt she feels. Most people feel that this is an easy decision to make, but it's not. Most women agonize over this, and it's right that they should do so. It hopefully makes them determined not to make the same mistake again.

This is a little bit off the subject, but you should read the book FREAKONOMICS. In it the author attributes the general trend of the crime rate going down to the availability of abortion. He states that because of abortion fewer unwanted children are being born. Something like today's unwanted child is the criminal of tomorrow, mostly because of the way he or she will be reared.

There are too many people on this planet already, so she shouldn't feel too bad about having an early abortion; if she did have the child, her mom or the welfare system would probably have to rear it, and that's not good. If she continues to feel depressed she might seek counseling. There may be a deeper reason she keeps doing self-desructive things. Continue to be her friend, and be there for her. Good luck.

Answer 3

I haven't had one, but I'm VERY pro-choice. When the decision is made to terminate a pregnancy then the woman making that decision should be comfortable with it.

Your friend is not doing anything wrong...she's doing what she feels is best for her, as she should.

Support her and let her know there's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It takes a strong and intelligent person to make such a decision and take the time to decide what's best for all involved. Good luck to her!

Answer 4

tell her that she has no self respect and no respect for her body or her children. Guess what im pro life hah, it dosnt make me upset when people have like, one mistake and they fix their problem and resolve to be better people but shes on the road to actually becoming one of those women we all know who never learn to make good decisions. Also an IUD or NUVA ring is effective er than the PILL and also temporarity she can get welfair to tie her tubes until she cleans up her act.

Answer 5

i do not believe in abortions. but, i will be nice. why is this her 2ND time? is she using this as a form a birth control? im sure its hard for her . sounds like you are a great friend and i am glad to hear you are by her side. if she needs someone to talk to maybe she should see a professional.

Answer 6

Everyone reacts different. Ask her what she needs from you, she may just want to be left alone. When I had mine last December I did not wan anyone asking me a bunch of questions mainly how i was doing, To me that was a insensitive question. Just ask her and respect her words.

Answer 7

I've never done it but why doesn't she go on birth control

Answer 8

If she was knocking boots with someone, she did not "Slip Up".

I suggest you remove yourself from this soap opera.