My husband's ex wife is crazy she calls us all the time asking for more money. They have 10yr old daughter. My husbands pays child support, medical and dental. We buy her gifts on holidays birthdays and some times we just buy her stuff for no reason. His ex is un educated you can't reason with her. We don't leave in the same state she has the custody of the child. We go there as often as we can, and everytime we go there she tells my husband what sheety father he is. Now the little girl is becoming just like her mom pays no respect for her father to the point my husband doesn't even want visit his own daughter 'cause of her behavior and her mom's. I don't deal with her my husband does till she wouldn't leave me and my child out so I called her telling I want get the same respect that I give and you should be talking about or my child and if you want more money you should take us to court, she hungs up the phone. But she calls to leave nasty mess. What can I do, are all ex wives like
2007-03-19 05:20:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way she already remarried as well. So is not like she still single. I feel she hates me 'cause I'm always nice to her and even her own husbands tells me that she is crazy person. She likes no one ever her own mom, daughter. She also can't have any more children for medical reasons which she tried so hard to have another kids with her new husband when she found out I was pregnants the tears came out of her eyes like no thing. But why she has all the anger against my husband. She even tells me to leave my husband and that I could do better and that she doesn't want him back. In the other hand my husband tells me that she tells him if he didn't leave her they will be married now. Is she CRAzy or what. By the way they were divorce long before I even met him and they got divorce 'cause she cheated many times. I don't know what to do and how to deal with her? PLEASE HELP
2007-03-19 05:30:06 · update #1
Again, there is not much you can do. You should avoid all contact with her. You do not have any business with her. Let your husband deal with her regarding THEIR daughter. That is all they have in common and all he should be dealing with her about. You are only the step-mother and really do not have no business in this at all.
Do yourself a favor and quit worrying about what the EX thinks, says or does. She's not married to YOUR husband anymore! He belongs with you now. Avoiding contact with her eleminates any confrontation you may have with her. You are the one in control here, not her!
2007-03-19 05:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off why not try to get custody of the little girl. It sounds like her mom isn't the best role model for her. You should understand that the little girl is only acting the way she sees her mother act. If this is not an option, then I would say to save all of the messages that she leaves and take them to court with you. Keep receipts of every support payment. Just in case she tries to say you aren't paying. But I really think that you should try to get the little girl away from her mom. She has a new sibling and needs to get to know them. And it sounds like you really care for the little girl. Or you wouldn't have asked for help on what to do. Try to understand how the little girl feels. It really sounds like you and your husband could give her a stable home where love is the glue and not hate. Your husbands ex sounds like she may be jealous of you and everything you and your husband have. Not physical things, but your love for one another and your family.
2007-03-19 05:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I Guess She Is Still Hurt About The Split Up, And She IS Just Trying To Get In The Way Of You 2 And She Is Taking All Her Rage On Your Husband, Well I Would Say To Talk To Her But There Is No Reasoning With Her, So Ignore Her For Now
2007-03-19 05:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not see her or talk to her at all. As far as all ex wives behaving the same, it's not true. I am an ex and I respect the boundaries, but we do have children and we need to correspond. Unfortunately, your husbands ex sounds like she has some emotional issues and there is not a d**n thing you can do about it. You just need to be there for your husband as he deals with this crazy woman, make no judgments about her or his daughter because that only makes it harder for him. Be happy with your life and your child and be a rock for your husband because this has got to be very difficult for him.
2007-03-19 05:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by oneontaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in many divorces ex wives and ex husbands have a bitterness and hatred that only time may heal. It is also bad that kids tend to carry on the same bad traits through being raised in it. There isn't much you can do about dealing with the hostility unless you and your husband are willing to severe all verbal contact with your husband's ex wife and his daughter. If it comes down to causing problems in your own marriage it may be necessary to have your phone number changed(unlisted) and make sure that it isn't given to them. Your husband's daughter may eventually have a better relationship with you both once she is old enough to be out on her own, but I doubt you will see any changes before that time. Good Luck.
2007-03-19 05:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You husband needs to tell his daughter that she's free to come visit your house if and/or when she wants to. She will probably want to when she's older and understands how crazy her mother really is. But your you, your baby and your husband need to stay away from his ex-wife.
His ex-wife is just trying to mess things up for you and your husband because she is jealous and wants to make him as miserable as possible out of revenge. She wants to ruin your marriage.
What she is doing is very common for jealous women. She tells you that you should leave him because she doesn't want to see HIM with anybody else because she is still upset that he left her. It's not your fault. She would be this mean to any other woman who married your husband. You tried to be nice to her but it doesn't work. She is a mean, crazy person. Ask your husband to change your phone number so she can't call anymore. Call the police if she keeps calling. Harassment is against the law.
2007-03-19 05:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You will not be able to stop you husband's ex-wife from saying nasty things about you and your child. That is her stupidity. She is just jealous of you and your child that is why she says nasty things (too make her feel better about herself). Just try to have as little contact with her ignorance as possible. Not all Ex-wives are alike but there are alot of stupid ex's that do not know how to get on with their own lives. Just keep telling yourself that she is ignorant and you are not. As for your husband's daughter, it is ashame that she is turning on her own father. She gets that from her mother and hopefully when she gets older she will know what a big mistake she made by taking sides with her mother. She should love both parents equally. Her mother is tainting her.
2007-03-19 05:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like both sides are at each other and disrepecting each other. What has her education level got to do with it?
Its your husbands dealings and my advice from experience is to be professional and deal with all contact on a business level. Leave emotion out of it. Its difficult I know but can be done. It takes two to argue and arguements in custody arrangements never solve anything .
2007-03-19 05:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sara,I'm in exactly same situation.Just try to be cool,she is just jealous of your, guys, happiness.Imagine, she's alone, while you got your husband, whose love you really deserve.Just pity her,she's so pathetic.And avoid single contact with her.Mine even go so far as call him and ask to come back for the sake of their kids....What was she thinking,when she asked for divorce first?
...Ya,everything the same as my story.But his x still not married yet,the guy she cheated with left her.Believe me, stay away,don't even talk about her with your husband.Everything will be fine,it's just a matter of time,if you avoid her.
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