VERY UPSET!! CRYING please help?

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I'm very sorry this is so long I'm just VERY UPSET and need to let this out so please read!!!!

PLEASE I'M SO UPSET RIGHT NOW PLEASE!! i'm sorry i didn't mean for it to be this long i just need to let this all out!

PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS PLEASE!! I AM CRYING SO MUCH I CAN BARLEY TYPE!!!!

I have two best friends "Tori" and "Rachel." I'm a senior in high school. Tori and i got into a fight in the beginning of the year. She made fun of me because i thought Abraham Lincoln was black! (HE IS BLACK!!) I know i am right! I accident "swung at her" and hit her in the face. She had to get ice but it was on accident. I apologized to her about a million times. After that she went around to the whole school and told everyone how I had hit her and people have been making fun of me ever since! I am crying all the time because of that! Anyways recently within the past month she did apologize for her actions and has been sticking up for me quite a bit.

…this is where all of the problems start…Tori, Rachel, and I was all supposed to go to prom together with a group of other people! We had to buy tickets this week. Rachel Told me Tori and her boyfriend and everyone else to buy tickets on Wednesday. That was the last day to buy tickets. We all agreed to bring our money then. Tuesday while we were walking up to the field house for track practice Rachel was talking really badly about Tori calling her dumb and etc. Little did we realize that Tori was right behind us. So we get into the field house and Rachel dropped the bomb on me that neither me nor Tori nor her boyfriend were invited to prom anymore. She told us that she had already filled her table with 10 people, the limo was full and the hotel was booked already. She apologized for forgetting to tell us all of this. I was crying hysterically. I don’t have many friends and Rachel is my only one true friend. Now at that time I couldn’t go to prom because of it.

Tori then flipped out at Rachel and told her that she heard everything that she had said about her while we were walking to the field house. She then told me that Rachel was talking really really badly about me! She told me that Rachel said she did not want to go to the college she got into because she found out I would be attending there too. Tori then admitted that she had not always been the “best friend to me” but was recently sticking up for me. (WHICH SHE HAS BEEN) and that’s the truth. Any who Rachel denies ever saying that. She told me why she would ever say a thing like that if she was rooming with me at college. Which makes sense? Rachel then said she hadn’t always said “nice” things about me but she would never say anything like that.

I don’t know what to do now!! I’m so upset…now Tori said she’s not going to prom and going to go to her boyfriends prom at his school because she wants nothing to do with Rachel and is upset by what Rachel had done and wants to avoid drama. Tori invited me to go with her and her boyfriend to Virginia the day of our prom.

But…then Rachel said she had enough room for me in the limo and such on Wednesday the day I was buying the tickets so now I am going to prom! But I’m still upset by what happened. She wouldn’t Allow Tori to come but Tori said she doesn’t care anymore because all of this is childish drama that she refuses to get involved in.

A recent conversation i had with Tori

Tori: not to bring up an argument or anything...but...why don't you trust and believe what i told you about Rachel?

Me: b/c i myself do not have proof and i cannot accuse someone without valid proof
i know about the talking behind the back thing

Me: but there is not like any certain occassion where i can pinpoint and say she lied to me
thats y

Me: unless you can pinpoint a certain occassion at which both you and i were present and she lied to me, then i dont have reason to accuse her

Tori: no offense or anything but are you THAT BLIND? that you cannot see that she has been lying i'm not trying to be mean or a jerk or anything I'm just trying to be a friend right now and i don't want to see you get hurt in the long run

Me: lying about what an instancego ahead im listening if u said that u were going to stay out then please DO SO

Tori: ok do you REALLY HONESTLY belive that every single time you ask her to hang out she is babysitting? Honestly think about it logically. How often can someone babysit? I work with her and MANY TIMES she would tell you that she's working when in reality she's NOT THERE! You even said it YOURSELF she picks her other friends over you! So why would you choose to be friends with someone like that?

Me: b/c the babysitting i do believe her about
the work - i have no idea and she said that she is going to put forth more of an effort to hang out with me

Me: and i realized i really should not be talking to you about this b/c its not your business

Tori: Fine then do not come to me in a few days upest and crying telling me she treated you badly. Because all i have to say is i warned yoU!

The big problem....

I kind-of Blew up at Tori and called her a liar...now it ends up Tori is right. Now "Rachel" won't speak to me and hates me and Tori hates me because i wouldn't lisiten to her in the first place and started screaming at her. What should i do?

Answer 1

This is WAY too much drama. Just dump these friends of yours and get some new ones.

Answer 2

You need to give yourself some time to step back and breathe.

Who do you want to be with? Who is genuinely nice to you and who do you believe cares about you?

Take a moment to look at what you have written, I mean really read through it, and you will know what to do.

You need to make some choices, but don't burn your bridges. Realize that your real friends are the ones who are there for you, and that your life will change when you enter college.

School will not last that much longer, and there is a whole different world beyond it.

So decide where you want to be.

If you want to go to prom, go. And try to stay out of the drama.

Tori is right, it is childish drama. However, for some people Prom can be a big deal. I went to mine, but I went with friends and fun, and did not take it as seriously as others did.

If you don't intend to go to Virginia with Tori, then tell her so. And tell her why. She sounds pretty level headed. Tell her that you want to go and why, but also tell her that you care about her as a friend and hope she will understand. Then go to the prom like you want.

This too shall pass. And graduation will be a short hop away. And all this will eventually blow over as you move on to college and the world beyond High School.

Answer 3

Oh the fun of highschool girls b.s.! Listen honey, Of all the friends I had in highschool, I'm still best friends with just ONE. We both were in different cliques together and were happy being ourselves. We hated drama and did everything to avoid it. but, when it did happen, you need to step back once in a while and look at the big picture. Sounds like Tori knows what's up. You should go to the prom with her, as for Rachel? well, she'll always be that way now, you can either deal with the way she is or move on. We had a friend like Rachel, and learned to deal with her by enjoying our own things and if she was there, great, if not, who cares. We are who we are...and we had fun. Sounds like Rachel is just using you to go against Tori. I would either convince Tori to go to your prom and enjoy it together or go with her to her boyfriend's prom. But just have fun!

Answer 4

aw hunni, i feel for you. its not nice when people dont tell you the truth. (i take it you are from america, cos of the 'prom' and 'track practice'!?) dont worry about anything, everyone has arguments with their friends, this has been blown out of proportion, it will all be made better. i havent read the additional details you have put, but from what i can see, you will all be friends again by the time the prom comes round again. just appologise to both your friends, and say you really dont want to loose them as they are really special to you and you hold them close to your heart because of everything they've helped you out with. tori, will get over it in the end, and she'll be missing out by not going to your schools prom, also she is in the middle of all the childish drama to be honest. i suggest you go to the prom with rachel, and have fun. just think this is the last time you will see everyone (well in a large gathering anyway).
when you leave secondary school you will be a different person, your personality will have adapted and changed to suit your new life, so to speak, what with college and new friends. remember to just be yourself, and try not to take things to heart so much.
this is just the start of your troubles as you grow older you will experience much worse arguments etc, but life goes on, and in the end you will pull through and everything will be ok.
good luck for the future, take care. hope this helps.
love lucy xx


ps email me if you have anything else you want to talk about, or even if you want to talk about this more.see my profile page for this. xx

Answer 5

ok first
Take a deep breath
This kind of shi* happens to me all the time
I had it all i am pretty and a cheerleader and then one day my dog attacked me and i have scratches all over my body including my wrists. Everyone Saw them and without even asking me they went around and told everyone i cut myself. At the end of the day i was the most hated person in the school. Its just childish people who dont have a life. They all pick one person to put down. Its stupid and your friend Tori needs to get over herself. Its good that your going to prom. Thats like a one time chance and you would regret it if you didnt go. Be the bigger person and ignore Tori Dont get sucked into her crap. She is only saying that Rachel is talking about you because she is jealous.
Rise above them
email me on what happens
<3
hope this helps

Answer 6

apologize to tori and tell her that u shudnt have gotten mad at her over that and that she is a good friend. then telll her, i know u and rachel r mad at eachother, but i dont wanna take sides so i will be friends woth u both. also, apologize to rachel, but also tell her that u were really hurt that she didnt invite u and tori, wen u thought that she wud want u there. good luck

Answer 7

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Answer 8

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This person is absolutely correct. You sit up and ask these over dramatic questions for people to use their common sense on things that is non related to their life. These ppl on yahoo don't all go through the high school crap life of "Orange county"... (( just an example )) Wipe your eyes and get over it.

Answer 9

hey i know how you feel te same thing just happen to me about 2weeks ago just try to talk to her and work things out try not crying all the time it just makes you hurt more I'm sorry maybe she just said that becaues she was mad at you tori is rigth it is all drama I'm sorry but if she was a real friend she wouldn't do this to you and if she don't want to talk to you then don't talk to her let her come to you if there is anything eles you need just mail me and I'll talk to you and i do maen anything.

Answer 10

WOW, that was really long. Girl you are just in high school. You will learn that--that stuff just isn't important after you get out of school. Your friends will mature and so will you. That is when you will see who ur true friends are. Honestly, I have none of my high school friends around anymore. We all went our own way. It's OK don't cry, things will work themselves out. Good luck! PS---Sounds like to me, if they are both talking crap behind ur back, then neither one of them are great friends. If they are true friends they will get over it.

Answer 11

Apologize to Tori and be sincere about it. Work on finding new friends who do not have so much DRAMA going on!