Is there a way to overcome low self esteem?

Answer 1

The best thing for me was realizing that everyone is different; no one is 'better' or 'worse' than anyone else. Each person in life has flaws, and each person has wonderful things about who they are.You are you, and it's unnecessary and troubling to compare yourself to other people, or envy them for what you think they posess and you lack.

Answer 2

Yep!!
There has got to be a thousand ways to overcome a low self esteem. I know of about fourteen.
Of them all the only one that did anything concrete and lasting was the Bible.
It's the best owners manual I've ever read, and I've owned a lot of complicated things besides cars before.
Both the Old Testament & the New Testament have given me one heck of a lot of self esteem; All the books in that collection ( The Bible.) have given me great lessons on who I am, what I am, where I am , why I exist, and when I can expect to see greater things in my life.
You can mess around with a lot of methods for esteem boosters but I've found that they demand a lot more from you than is neccesary.
I've also found that a lot of the ways of building self esteem are pretty corny, useless as rust. The ones I found that do work somewhat came to about ten to fifteen methods.
The only one that really worked was time with the Bible.

Answer 3

10 steps to improve your self esteem.

1. Force yourself to look yourself in the mirror, even if it is painful.
2. Look at yourself deeply in the mirror. Say all of the things that you hate about yourself.
3. Turn around slowly 3 times and repeat "I love myself" 3 times. Give yourself a big hug. You might feel silly, but it's ok!
4. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Smile as big as you can, even if it looks weird.
5. Write all of the pros about yourself.
6. Then on a different piece of paper list down all of the cons about yourself.
7. Read the cons. Next to each con, write how you can solve it. For example, you might have written that you are fat. Then you can write that you are going to have healthy eating habits. Be specific- don't just write "I'm ugly". Write what you think is "ugly" it might be crooked teeth, bulging eyes, fat lips etc.
8. Be active- it will cleanse your mind and it is healthy. Even a short walk around the block with your iPod is ok! Do it daily, and stick to it.
9. If you are bullied, it's time to tell someone you can trust- your parents, school councellor, etc. It's not "dobbing". It is simply doing the right thing. You have no right to feel hurt in any way, physically or mentally. The best way to stop bullies from bullying is to overkill them with kindness. Smile even if they say mean things. Be kind and helpful. NEVER show your anger or sadness.
10. Don't be a bully yourself! Don't even gossip! You might be tempted to, but stop right there.


Important: * Don't compare yourself to others- you are you. Be the best that you can be.

Answer 4

Practice Basic Self-Care:
Get enough sleep, eat in a healthy fashion, get regular exercise, practice good hygiene, and so forth.

Plan Fun & Relaxing Things For Yourself:
You could go to a movie, take a nap, get a massage, plant a garden, buy a pet, learn to meditate-whatever you enjoy.

Reward Yourself For Your Accomplishments:
You could take the night off to celebrate good grades, spend time with a friend, or compliment yourself for making that hard phone call.

Remind Yourself of Your Strengths & Achievements:
One way is to make a list of things you like about yourself. Or keep a 'success' file of awards, certificates and positive letters or citations. Keep momentos of accomplishments you are proud of where you can see them.

Forgive Yourself When You Don't Do All You'd Hoped:
Self-nurturing can be surprisingly hard if you are not used to doing it. Don't be critical of yourself-remember that inner voice!-when you don't do it just right.

Self-Nurture Even When You Don't Feel You Deserve It:
"Fake it" until you can "make it." When you treat yourself like you deserve to feel good and be nurtured, slowly you'll come to believe it.

Answer 5

YES!!!! Believe in yourself and tell yourself severeal times a day: I'm a good person and deserve the best that life has to offer me!! Also, seek therapy and find out why you have low self-esteem. Then make the choice to change!!!!!

Answer 6

Write down all of the things that you think you offer people. Like your friendly, or easy going or anything like that. You could take yourself shopping, or maybe go with a couple friends,and treat yourself. Boosting your own self esteem really helps.

Answer 7

This emphasis on "self-esteem" is what messed up a generation of kids. Quit focusing on yourself. Get involved with something, and it'll make you feel better about yourself, too.

Answer 8

yeah, but not for you.

Ha! I kid! I'm kidding!

Seriously - begin to take on projects that yiou can handle and can excell at. They don't have to be major ones, like clean up the neighborhood. It could be something small, like wash the dishes. As you begin to succesfully complete projects, your self-esteem will improve, and you will tackle larger and more complex projects, and your self esteem will grow.

Answer 9

Sure - by accomplishing something - anything at all - that you consider worthwhile. Could be learning to play guitar, learning how to quilt - all different kinds of things. Pick something that interests the person and let them "roll with it".

Answer 10

I know this may sound corny, I did it and it helped. Go into the bathroom and shut the door. Look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself over and over "I'm beautiful" You could also say things like "I am confidant." "I am unique." "I am just the way God wanted me to be." Say these things over and over. Once you get tired of saying them, say them one more time.