It seems nothing I do is right. The girls are learning to say and think bad things about me. I have a good job, I play with them and love them. I teach them about soccer golf and fishing and camping. I help with home work and cook for them. I don't understand.
2007-03-19 05:10:18 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife is starting to hate you...she is in much pain over your neglect towards her. She is making the children dislike you so she can replace you.
2007-03-19 05:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I was the queen of yellers, only after my own mom. Since what most of what kids do is repetitious, I made a list of unacceptable behaviors and what the discipline would be. This list was posted on the fridge. If a child did something on the list, we'd go to the fridge and see what happened next. This works starting at about age 3 or 4. This stopped me from yelling and it stopped the back talking. The list changed as the behaviors changed, but we used it through middle school. Sometimes the kids would see what the punishment was before they did something to see if it was worth it! It really worked wonders in our house. I had to stop yelling the day I realized I sounded like my mom. You do need to let her follow through with the children. They will never take her seriously if you keep stepping in. You two do have to come together as a team so these children know both of you mean business.
2016-03-16 23:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there is only one thing that you can do about this. This is to continue being the father that you are, love, tenderness, affection, understanding, attention and Good
Spiritual values at all times. We humans have the ability to reason and understand. Once the girls see that you are not, what Mamie says, you will be OK. How ever never say any thing bad about your wife, to the kids. Ever heard " one good turn, deserves another" Well I believe in "Two wrongs don't make a Right". This way the girls will learn to be like Dad. Understanding loving and affectionate, without the evil nay Sayers mouth.. Hope this helps. Will.
2007-03-19 05:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by Will M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is unfortunate that your wife is bringing innocent children into a situation that ONLY deals with you and her. Keep showing your daughters how much you love them. I dont know how old they are but you can still be there for them. Your wife is letting her anger out through them and its wrong very wrong. You should try to tell your wife that she is wrong for bringing the children into this situation and that if she has any beef with you than tell her to talk to you about it and not poison the childrens thoughts and confusing them. I would consider that abuse. Talk with your wife put your foot down. You know what you are doing for your children and you sound like a great father...dont doubt yourself and keep showing your girls how much you love them.
2007-03-19 09:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that adults use children as tools to try to destroy each other. You can't do anything more than try to set a good example for them in the way you live your life. Kids are smart and will know when they are being misled. Keep negative comments to yourself concerning what is going on here around them. Parent bashing is a common problem. If you follow the same path as far as the way you are treating your kids they will eventually be questioning their mother as to what her problem is.
2007-03-19 05:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex does the same thing with my daughter. I've been dealing with this garbage for quite some time now. Look up some articles on Parental Alienation Syndrome. You need to put a stop to this now.
2007-03-19 05:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think those ar superficial things that you are doing, although admirable, I don't have children (yet) but if you want to spend time with your children, try talking with them about what is going on in their livs, help them in any problem they have (not school work, but life in general).
I'm not sure if you are divrced or not, but on the assumption you are, they could resent you for not being around anymore to be a complete family. Just dn't spoil them with extravagent gifts, prove your love for them when they are in trouble at school and try less disclipine (if you do at all).
More than likely, they are going through a chance in their lives, and they take it out on you because they think you are easiest person to blame.
2007-03-19 05:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you had better talk to your wife and get it stopped immediately! One of my husbands friends families is just like that, I had met the husband numerous times when he stopped by the house to see my husband, he is a nice person; I then met his wife, she seemed nice too BUT didn't talk nicely to him or about him (right in front of him to my husband and I). I thought that was very odd; then I met their two grown daughters and was absolutely shocked to hear them talk to and about their dad the same way the wife/mother did! Personally, I think it is abusive and your children will become abusive to you and their future husbands as well. You don't deserve to be treated like that!
2007-03-19 05:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a problem with your wife, not your kids.
I am sure you 're a very good father. Mine would beat me and my two bros up for 14+ years and mom wouldn't divorce him. I am happy he's gone.
Talk about your problems with your wife. If she has any problems with you, your kids shouldn't be in the middle of this. You certainly don't deserve it.
2007-03-19 05:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you do:
Nothing can change the way your kids feel about you
She must be jealous and insecure. She needs to see a councellor. Wives are becoming like wild devils these days. They dont know how to have a peaceful married life. It is so awful.
Just be yourself and love your kids alot. They will know when the time comes
2007-03-19 05:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i donno how u did know that she making them hate u.....
but the b asic solution to make her stop these just make her love u .....if she love u she will never talk about u badly even with her friends .....u r the only one who could ur home is a warm home with loving family ......if all these already there ....so u have to take ur wife to a therapy...and keep spending time with ur kids and playing with them which they will never hate u .......but i'm still saying that the basic problem still from u.....u who can make her love u ...if so ....or it's all ur imagination and nothing it's going on and ur wife is a good person ...and maybe u who is need going to a therapy...and there's no shame on these ...these's how the happiness will back to u.......good luck
2007-03-19 05:53:51 · answer #11 · answered by batt00ta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋