Question about young teen sex and pregnancies?

Question

I have a question about teen pregnancies regarding children and teens between 12-15, 1st off for that age group I noticed alot of kids asking "I am pregnant and scared to tell my parents" If kids are scared to tell there parents knowing when they have sex that pregnancy can occur then why put yourselves in that position, my son is in the 5th grade and there is a 12 year old girl in his class who is about 6 months pregnant its extremly sad to see that. I understand things happen but why so young? These kids arent even old enough to work, drive, and dont have a full education yet so how would they give their children the knowledge they need to sourvive as young adults? Why are the ages getting younger and younger when it comes to sex and getting pregnant? Has todays society ruined our children because everything in the media is sex? What can we do as parents to provent this from happening to our children?

I know there are alot of great kids out there but what is happening to the other kids that ruin there childhood for sex?

ASHLEY, The girl apparently was retained due to poor grades I belive she should be in the 6th grade. My son will be 12 in April and he is in the 5th grade also thats because he had to repeat 1st grade due to ADHD matters. It happens

Answer 1

Im sorry but thats a result of poor parenting. If her parents new where she was at all times she would not be pregnant. If they had Been more involved in her life, and not all about themselves.

My son is 15. I know where he is at all times. If he goes to a ball game he has his cell, and knows if i call I BETTER HEAR THE GAME. He also knows i have a tendency to check up to make sure he is doing what he has been allowed to do. If not the privilage isnt easy to get again.

Im sorry but the one who said it was due to parents working outside the home,..... that in my mind is a total cop out, a lame excuse. I am a working mother, My ex doesnt come around or pay support, Yes I WORK BUT I STILL DO NOT ALLOW MY CHILDREN TO RUN AMUCK. I am very active in their lives, and yeah I dont have alot of ME time, but I gave up the ME time when I made the choice to become a mommy. I dont regret it either, its the best decission I ever made.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I have been wrestling alot with this very subject lately because I am the mother of 2 girls (ages 7 and 3) and just found out I have another baby girl on the way.

I got pregnant at 19 myself, and know the challenges that young mothers face. Granted 19 isn't all that young anymore for pregnancy, but it is still very young.

I have come to the conclusion that education is key. I am planning on not only explaining to my children that pregnancy and raising a child is a very real, very hard thing to go through, but that unfortunately it is pretty much the least of their worries when having sex at a young age. AIDS is a killer, not to mention the plethora of other STD's out there that don't have cures. I'm going to make sure that my girls understand all ramifications of premarital sex from the minimal (ie...a ruinied reputation and self-esteem issues) to the life altering ones (ie...pregnancy or AIDS). Hopefully, armed with the true knowledge of sex will help my girls make an informed decision about what to do when the temptation presents itself.

Educate your kids because the fact of the matter is you can not make that decision for them!!!

Hope this helps anyone else struggling with what to do on this matter.

Answer 4

Children are starving for attention and affection now that both parents have to work outside the home.

Add MTV and all the sexual filth they are watching on television to fill the void and poof! You have a recipe for disaster aka: Teen Pregnancy

It is really sad, but until we parents get our priorities straight and realize that our children are more important than the BMW or the multi-level home with top of the line furniture... Until we moms realize that looking like the cover of VOGUE is not what being a mom is all about... Until we moms get back home and start raising our own kids instead of letting the big corporation's marketing campaigns raise them... we are only going to see things getting worse and worse and worse. I am afraid this is only the beginning.

We may have to give up some material luxuries by becoming stay at home moms, or working part time, but in the end it's worth it if our children are loved and cared for and well adjusted.

Our societies problem is that we are greedy and glutonous and we have our eyes on material things rather than what matters most, FAMILY!

Answer 5

I'm guessing this girl in your son's class has a bad family life. For someone that young to turn to someone makes it sound like she doesn't have a father figure in her life. Kids never think anything bad is ever going to happen to them, and then when it does, they ask why. Sex ed is so important for kids, even at a younger age. So many parents feel awkward discussing sex with their child, but if it's going to save just one girl from getting pregnant, then it's worth it. What's even more sad is the thought of this young girl falling through the system because nobody spoke up for her. I feel sad for her.

Answer 6

Sex is everywhere: music videos, media, movies, advertisements, etc. The media is teaching children that sex is okay and is "the thing to do." Sex is for love and creating children, but that's changed over the past years because there are about 10-15 teenage girls at my school who are pregnant and about 30 of them at another high school in my city. It's terrible. This seems to really bother you (it bothers me) so how about I tell you something; I am sixteen, and sex is for adults only. Sex is an expression of love and creating children. I will never have sex until I am married (or at least financially stable). Does that help? Just a little? Hope I did help!

Answer 7

Lack of good parenting
Lack of good judgement on the teenagers behalf

Teenagers think they know everything coming and going. I do not know why they all act like they cannot get pregnant. I think that is a total and utter shame about the 6th grader pregnant. Why aren't her parents in jail? That is just not right. I bet she is still in a training bra and she could possibly die when she does give birth.

I think if your going to be grown up enough to have sex then you should be grown up enough to go to the doctor and get on birth control.
My god they give out free condoms at the health department. I do not understand why teenagers want to grow up before they have too but alot don't because they throw their mistakes off on their parents and the grandparents are the ones raising their own grandkids which is pathetic on both parts. Once i have my children raised i will not raise anyone else's.
It is my place to raise mine and if my children get someone pregnant or they get pregnant it is their place not mine.

I do not believe for one second about sex in the media is giving all these teens the ideal that they should be having sex. I seen movies, tv shows and all of that with sex on it and did i run out and have sex? No

When i decided to have sex i was adult enough to go and get on birth control. I am still with the one i first had sex with and that was well over 11 years ago.

We are married now and have a son together & i am expecting baby #2 in december but i am in my late 20's. I could not have raised a kid in my teens, i wouldn't have wanted too.
It is pitiful that a young girl would do that to themselves but i don't feel sorry for them, they shouldn't have been having sex in the first place. It is their own fault for getting pregnant unless they were raped.

Answer 8

I know what you mean! It's scary to think about the future challenges that lie ahead for us as parents! Even if our own family values are firmly in place, peer pressure is a powerful thing!!

When I hear about 12, 13, 14 year old girls becoming pregnant I think of one thing:

When were they unsupervised with a boy long enough to become pregnant?

To me this is a failure on the part of the parent. There is absolutely no reason (in my mind) that a 12 year old and their "boyfriend" should be alone together...ever! They are too young to have that mature of a relationship. If they want to get together outside of school, then they can go on a group outing with a bunch of friends...and a parent needs to drive to insure that is ACTUALLY is a group outing. And it needs to be just that...an OUTING. I think it would be a lot harder for young kids to have sex if they were at the bowling alley then it would if they were at someones house unsupervised!! :)

I think the expectations of society are making it too easy for children to pretend to be in an adult relationship and too easy for PARENTS to allow their children adult freedoms at a younger age!

Answer 9

I believe the problem is that everyone talks about sex and how much it means to a person. Like oh sex is sooo great it makes you feel great blah blah. And young minds arent all the way done growing up just yet, and they think oh sex let me try it... I do wish young girls would understand sex more better its not all that great, you get stds and you can get pregnant. I first at sex at 15 and well the guy soon left and i was crushed my feelings were hurt so bad cause i thought i was in Love. I believe thats the next problem, LOVE its misunderstood a lot. They think oh let me have sex with him because i LOOOVE him, when its just their feelings out of wack from chances in their body. It is sad to see a 12 year old pregnant but sometimes its not because they had sex sometimes its because they were raped by someone they knew. Its a crazy world out there and we need to do something or tell these kids something that will get in their head, i have a daughter and im scared to death when she turns 13 and up cause i dont know what times will be like when shes that age! It scares the living **** out of me. I believe we need to scare the kids its no use telling them NOT to have sex cause their going to go right behind our backs and do it. We need to scare the **** out of them. Show the pictues of stds... so the pictures of people with AIDS, tell them a 12 year old body isnt ready to carry a baby to term.

Answer 10

WOW 12 and pregnant. What a rough life that is going to be for her. I was a mom at 19, my life was tough enough and I graduated from high school! My son is now 11 and thank God he has no interest in girls. But I do know boys his age do start to notice girls, I had no idea that they actually have SEX THAT young!!! I am going to have to have "the talk" this week! I talk to him about drugs but since he isn't interested in girls yet I figured I have a few years before I have the talk.