I just ended a friendship. It sucks but she was totally mean and nasty and it all ended with me finding a really nasty email she had sent ABOUT me. It sucks more because we are a group of friends and now the group will never be the same. I cannot tolerate people who back stab like that. Have any of you ended a friendship? How did that work out? Are you no longer friends to this day?
2007-03-19 04:54:15 · 5 answers · asked by Suki 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes I confronted her about the email. She gave some half-assed apology that really didnt even sound like she meant it, so I just told her we were through.
2007-03-19 05:08:04 · update #1
Ya know, I had to recently get rid of a couple of friends. Just ask yourself, do you really want that person in your life. Is it really worth it for that person to be in your life? Sometimes you just need to kick friends to the curb and say later. Who knows what will happen down the line. If you run into each other again.....eeeeh, see what happens. But until then I wouldn't fret it.
2007-03-19 05:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Madrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never done it, but it has happened to me twice, by the same person. Instead of talking to me about things that bothered her, she just bottled everything up and then called me one day to tell me what a bad friend I was and then enumerated every transgression (real and imagined) that I had done in our years as friends, and would not accept any responsibility for her actions or reactions during the same incidents. We made up once, and then she did it again. People aren't perfect, and sometimes friendships have to end. We were a threesome of friends, and luckily, it did not affect our third-party friendship. She was aware of both sides. Of course, later, this person did the same thing to her because she wouldn't attend her Tupperware party. But they made up after a year or two. But now, our mutual friend understands my position better. After time, you just have to learn to be civil, but it's unlikely you'll ever trust each other again. But don't be nasty, just go on with your life. Usually, and I really think in my case, these issues have to do with envy in some way or another. So until the fields are leveled (which never really happens), you probably won't be friends again (not really, maybe those fake kind).
2007-03-19 12:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by lawmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to terminate a friendship because this so called Friend took advantage of me and tried to make me feel guilty when I did not bend over backwards to kiss her butt.
I will say that I miss talking with her and hanging out, but like I said I don't miss the crap. We have not talked in a few years.
Can I ask, did you confront her about the email that you found?
2007-03-19 12:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Important 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did a good thing by terminating a friendship like that. People who are like that arent really your friends to begin with. This one time I was really good friends with this girl named "shy" and I was inlove with this boy when I was 15. He knew I liked him but didnt know how much really. He didnt feel the same way about me but we did hang out all the time. Then one day I wanted my friend to meet this wonderful guy. Next thing I knew...I walked into a near by wallgreens to see them together. My heart was broken. I ripped out a page in my diary and gave it to him it was all the words I would utter under my breath for love for him. I stopped talking to both of them for a long time. Two or three years passed before I even spoke to them again. The thing I think is funny..I'm 19 now and he just called me out of the blue wanting to hang out. I have no time for him nor will I make time for him.
2007-03-19 12:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well somtimes it better to just let go
2007-03-19 12:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by mickie1108 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋