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I've been best friends with this girl for 6 years now...and I go to a great college in Philadelphia, and she is still back home in maryland going to a local college there (lives w/her parents)
...even tho i've lived here 2 years and have friends of my own on campus...we still talk to each other everyday...honestly, I dont think there had been a day that we wouldn't talk over the phone...but now, things are different...I'm in a relationship with someone from college...and she's in one with someone a lottttttt older than her....she's been with him for 2 years...and mine is just recent
well, during break when i went home, she told me that I had changed in the past two years..and now, things between us seem a little weird...yes, of course I have, because people do change as they get older...but I'm still the same person who loves her as my best friend..that really hurt me, and there's this 'weirdness' btw us now...what do you guys think?
2007-03-19 04:49:39 · 13 answers · asked by NoDoubt21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People grow apart, it happens.
2007-03-19 04:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by InTheWright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the only thing you can do is to be completley honest with her and tell her you feel hurt and want to work through the weirdness.
Ask her how you have changed. Your only hope is if you can get her to open up and talk on a deeper level.
If she is not interested in communicating with you on a deeper level then there is nothing more for you to do except let her go.
She may have a need to move on which is nothing personal about you. Sometimes this happens and there is nothing to do.
I know it hurts. It has happened to me but now I have a wonderful, even much better best friend than I've ever had in my life.
2007-03-19 05:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by KathyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in two very different places in your lives right now. This is normal. It sucks, but it's normal. Sometimes people outgrow each other, and move in different directions. Such is life!
Tell her what you said here, that of course you've changed, but your love for her as your best friends has not. If this isn't enough, or she for some reason doesn't buy it, ask her what it is she wants from you. In my opinion she's not being very fair or understanding...sounds like she may be unhappy and a bit envious of where you are in your life. You're independent, going to college and away from home.
My best friend is genuinely happy for me when good things happen in my life, and vice versa. This is true friendship. Talk to her, lay it out and tell her what you're thinking and feeling.
2007-03-19 05:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time when people go off on their own. You are growing apart. You have relationships and you are going to school. You both are becoming different people. Just let her know you will always be her friend, but that you know things are changing. Hopefully you will not grow completely apart, but it does happen. I had friends in high school I swore I would never forget. Within two years I didn't even know where they were. It just happens.
2007-03-19 04:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all unusual for friends to drift apart as their lives take different paths. The best that you can do is to tell her you are sorry that she feels the way she does, but you still love her and will always be there for her.
That is the best you can do. Move on, and let her make her own choices, as hard as that may be.
2007-03-19 04:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does happen when friends grow apart. You have a different life style then her now. Maybe she is a little jealous of you because you are living the college life!
2007-03-19 04:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes scared because while you're away from home and developing as a person, shes stuck at home, even though she might be happy there she will not change a much as you have and she might be scared you will out grow her, i think you just need to reassure her that you value her friend ship and will always be there for her, also maybe invite her to visit you so she doesn't feel left out.
2007-03-19 04:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends grow apart trust me it happens I lost 2 best friends that way.
2007-03-19 04:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by EAT YOUR F**KIN CARROTS B*TCH!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stumble on a extra effectual pal to hold around, appears like she's like getting off on the attention from all the lads. perhaps she thinks she's all that , yet think of she's in basic terms fooling herself.
2016-10-02 09:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that
2007-03-19 04:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋