Are mothers generally insecure, shallow, and paranoid?

Question

A recent survey in Parenting magazine indicates that a majority of mothers surveyed would NOT hire a baby sitter they thought was more attractive. What is it in a mother that would cause her to even consider the issue of "attractiveness?" Does she mistrust her children, her husband, or both?

I recently remodeled my house. I hired many construction workers, whereas I am 5'11" and probably the thinnest person you'd ever meet at 135 lbs, and work long hours out of town. My wife's faithfulness never crossed my mind.

We're talking about MOTHERS.

Answer 1

If a woman is insecure, she doesn't become any more so upon becoming a mother.

Answer 2

The different between men and women is mostly light and dark. Mothers/females have maternal instinct. Something a man would not know much about. However, yes I would consider the sitter's attractiveness to measure up to how well the area where she keeps the children are kept, how well she keeps herself, and yes, I would consider whenever my husband (if I had one) had to pick up our child(ren). Sitters are those nurturing, caring providers who could potentially lead to the break up of your marriage if you are to close to her and befriend her.

I had a sitter how wanted to cook my children's dinner. Nice, but I didn't hire her for that, don't want her to be second mother, just give them snacks after school. I started to get suspicious. My dream (I started to have reoccurring) was that there was someone trying to take my children from me.

So if mothers are insecure, shallow and paranoid - let's sum that up to protecting her little loved ones of potential danger that could be lurking. After all, it is also known that children can be easily abducted by those they trust and who would ever think that it's someone you know.

Paranoia is good instinctually. Later, I found out that this person was not the best of personalities.

My suggestion is that people are so busy trying to find new ways to label and judge for ratings, recognition and pay, however, if I showed my insecurity over a situation because I felt paranoia that something was not right and especially when it made me look shallow, I must trust my instincts. Women can hone on them quicker than men can.

And I suppose that these are placed in the "irrelevant" category that men think just doesn't mean much. However, let's throw one at the men, why do men need to cheat. Can't we equate that to being insecure, shallow, and paranoia, as well? Sorry, I couldn't resist that

Answer 3

some people just believe that attractive people are more concerned with their looks then anything else and wouldn't do a good job then there may be some women who are jealous of anybody who looks better than them and the insecure married women who don't trust their husbands. You know how everybody thinks of the nanny or babysitter and some old lady grandmother type as the best type of person to keep your children and they are usually right, when my mom babysits the kids get to bed on time and the house is clean but when a younger more fun person sits with them they tend to bend the rules.

Answer 4

My guess is that the mother would be thinking the babysitter was more interested in looking good rather than taking care of the children. Its hard to picture a perfectly coiffed person on the floor playing with the kids.

Husbands are idiots, can't you see the first comment in bed that night " isn't %##@ so cute, do you think she would want me?" Yeah right, lmao!

Answer 5

Well - there is that old cliche about dad and the babysitter! I'd bet they weren't aware while they were doing it. And also, your body changes irrevocably after you've had kids (even if you go back to your pre-baby size). For 9 months your body is taken over by a parasite (usually a very cute and lovable one, but parasite none-the-less). After being a host for another person, it is understandable to be insecure (especially around nubile pretty girls).

Answer 6

I am NONE of those things. We live in a very small town & our boys have always had the same two sitters, but I have known them forever & I do NOT see either as a threat to our boys or to our marriage. Our biggest concern has always been the safety of our boys, NOT what the sitters looked like.

Answer 7

this happens oftentimes, pretty if the couple is youthful and in simple terms starting up out of their lives and careers. Assuming the area is tremendous and the time, like college or a sparkling pastime, is in simple terms as tremendous, it really is fairly asking to a lot, to anticipate the like to very last. Married people get divorced each of the time, and they stay area with assistance from area, which for sure, should be the reason behind the divorce. lol different couples chop up up, love regrettably, for most individuals, isn't eternal, yet oftentimes fleeting. in spite of if even as we are in love, we believe it to be so. all of us favor organisation and companionship, and people close to to us. In lengthy distance, you are able to continuously stay in contact, lately, yet you nonetheless favor some particular individual on your life, except you should stay at living house, with a strong e book or television and so on. no longer the thanks to spend ones life.

Answer 8

I'm not sure it's a question of trust. Some of them probably don't want to deal with seeing yet another more attractive woman than themselves every single day. I'd say it's more a question of vanity ;)

Answer 9

Women are right to do so, because men are not trustworthy where an attractive female is concerned. He will eventually want to get into her panties. I'd rather avoid the stress of all that and hire an old, ugly nanny who is missing some teeth.

Answer 10

when my kids were young enough for us to need a babysitter i was often so knackered i probably was insecure and paranoid - through exhaustion! my spouse used to say how pretty the babysitters were from time to time but they were young and i think they'd have been appalled by his old-man advances if he'd tried anything on

Answer 11

Lets flip this coin. Would a husband, father hire a very attractive man to babysit his kids?
Would a father or husband hire a physically fit man to be a house boy? This works both ways.....